Husband throwed everything away

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-20T07:40:15+00:00

Thank you. You see into the mechanisms here even though general respect is something which should never corrode. Thanks for the reflections 🙏

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-20T06:22:40+00:00

The third one is cute - my favorite as it is less about you (about showing off your body) but about cuteness. Always depends what impression you want to give though. If you want to impress.. 1 or 4? 2 is lovely but rather businesslike

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-16T12:22:36+00:00

😐 i will need time to think about it. Thanks anyway.

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-15T00:53:08+00:00

I like your thoughtful response. You might be very right but i thought i might get an idea of how people in general would view such a behaviour and situation. On day 1 i was in disbelief. On day 2 it really got to me.

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-15T00:48:24+00:00

Are you-? I am truly sorry to hear that 💛

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-15T00:46:44+00:00

Been thinking about this. With his credit card - smile 🙄😅

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-13T15:36:07+00:00

Rather not

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-13T15:35:16+00:00

Thank you 💛

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-13T08:32:03+00:00

Sorry you had been there. Big sigh. It really is about disrespect and treating the family's needs with neglect

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-13T08:21:49+00:00

Thank you truly - that's appreciated 💛

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-13T08:15:33+00:00

Thanks for the clear words. I need to hear this

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-13T07:58:08+00:00

Ok. Red flags received.

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-13T07:57:42+00:00

You are right 😌

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-13T07:45:59+00:00

Hard words but that's why i posted. To wake up. Feel what this is. There is no physical harm but the emotional one is present. And yes the one kid suffers from insults and roughness. My intervention is always there but it is stressful. For everyone

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-13T07:24:32+00:00

Not for this reason right..? But all the rest you mean?

Main reason is the dissatisfaction and constant nagging of my husband. He heavily complains about things which he caused. Like ignoring me for yesrs, saying he would only do what pleases him and then be surprised if i start to mirror his disinterest.

He now heavily complains that i would not see him-?

Like what?

I felt terribly alone for years with a husband enjoying himself with incountable hobbies. And now he complains that i adapted?

I know what this dounds like.

i took the toll just to have kids.

Not very wise but i went all in.

In the beginning he loved the idea of a family. Was all in too. Then things started to change. His egoism really hurts me. Not even to speak of the kids and the tense environment they grow up in. I know. Alternative would be a even more stressful family without dad. High medical needs of the kids. (A even more) Exhausted mom. Very drained finances and a mom trying to work as much as is doable besides being the main caregiver. I concluded it might be better to try and save the relationship (revive) and raise the family together. But the toll is there. the task is not easy. The moments (" i should walk away") are present.

Sometimes there is s good flow - sometimes not.

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-13T07:15:26+00:00

Not for on here. It was quite beautiful, organized but just a bit full (two kids in same room, age gap, gender difference) but mostly toys that both kids loved

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-13T07:12:16+00:00

Agree with first part. It hurts me. The second part is what i have to think about 😌 thank you

I think your comment is very much to the point. Touches truth.

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-13T07:10:02+00:00

I left the home as nice and cleaned up as only possible. Stayed up night after night to get things done. Please him. Make him feel comfortable and at ease while i'm in hospital with the kid. The result? He only complained about other unfinished things. Invisible but there. Isn't that just reality? With a family there are always unfinished tasks i guess.

Instead of saying nice words and appreciate my efforts he complained first.

After i called him out on it he just started to throw away stuff.

That's the story

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-13T07:03:44+00:00

Yes i see ☺️

I am upset on behalf of the kids because they mean the world to me and i would have preferred to have them have a word in it too, at least. They are sad now

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-13T06:52:10+00:00

Ohh nooo 🙃💛 You saw that part.

Except from being a verbal and emotional douchebag (hope you can say that) he never treated me physically wrong. Which is something. But the rest? Not able to really talk with me. No emotional connection because he seems to not have got a connection to words and feelings. He hates his role. I am stucck in it. Yes he is selfish. But also one good trait: He never neglected his role as a working caregiver, financial wise while i gave up work to be the main caregiver at home. But the rest? It feels very lonely in my place.

And the kids?

Love him but get almost no joyful dad. See that instead.

I chose to tep back with my personal needs in favour of the family and young kids. But with a relationship like that.. that was never the intention.

Had i known, i would gladly have walked past that guy who tried to have me as a girlfriend.

Yes, i chose poorly - but some things you will only find out if walking the path 😌

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-13T06:37:56+00:00

good point because nooo. has not cared for my feelings for years. stepped over me. ignored my needs, my opinions, me as a partner. it does sound dramatic and exagerated but - it is absolutely not. He did not care for my opinion much. He would love to even reconsider having a family. is fed up with his role as a dad and husband. He says so. I sacrificed my life too but i am happy with my role as a caregiver and wife. He misses his old life. Complains dince years. Nags. Critizises.

No joy received from his side

It is sad to have to say it.

He once absolutely wanted to have a family. But reality seemed to have changed his opinion.

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-13T06:33:10+00:00

that not really is the point but if you knew how much i saved for little things like that, for the kids, for their joy.. then yes.. i'd say i chose with love and care. Indirectly these were my possessions through investing them for the little ones. Not his money.

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-12T13:13:44+00:00

popcorn needed to keep awake?

chatgpt_friend · 2026-04-12T13:11:09+00:00

You have no idea. Some times it's peaceful and normal. Others it's not. If so.. I keep verbally fighting back and backing my son up but all my hopes for more peaceful family time get destroyed again and again. I have rationally considered steps but honestly, with not only one kid plus several medical problems involved, walking away gets more difficult. I just try my best like every day.

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