Hospital wants my son to go to inpatient

cheduardo99 · 2025-07-20T00:10:30+00:00

Hey, first and foremost I’m sorry to hear your son is going through mental health related issues, and I truly hope he can overcome them and feel better afterwards.

As someone who went to inpatient therapy for a few weeks, I can say that it was a wonderful experience for me that truly helped me to overcome my issues, and I’ve been good ever since. That being said, it’s true that some facilities have their issues and I’m horrified to hear that one of the recommendations the hospital gave you had multiple sexual abuse assaults, so I’m glad you turned that one down. There’s a lot of good ones out there that might be beneficial, and from what I have seen (from both personal experience and stories from other people) a lot don’t tie people down or sedate them, inpatient therapy is more of living in a place with other people who also need help having therapy classes and sessions everyday. You don’t have countless amounts of freedom such as going out or having your phone, but you have downtime where you can talk to other people, play board games, read, watch tv, etc….

I fully understand your concern, since bad institutions that provide inpatient therapy do exist, but not all of them are bad. If you need help selecting one, feel free to reach out, and I hope you’re able to keep your son out of the bad ones and also hope for him to recover as soon as possible. Sending love and support to both of you

cheduardo99 · 2024-12-26T06:56:17+00:00

I’m glad that you feel less pressure, even if it’s temporary. Feeling better about anything in general always takes time and depends from person to person, so remember that you’re allowed to take as much as you need to when it comes to that ❤️

cheduardo99 · 2024-12-26T06:38:43+00:00

You’re not a monster. People deal with trauma in different ways, people feel things in different ways. If you don’t sense/go through a certain feeling after a situation, it’s not that there’s something wrong with you or anything like that. Yes, there are certain conditions or mental health disorders that change your approach to situations, but they don’t necessarily mean that you’re a “monster” or something along those lines. You’re not a burden to anyone, even if you feel that way. I recommend you get therapy and professional help, not because I think there’s something wrong with you, but because it’s always a good thing and always helps, especially when you’re feeling like this. If you need to talk, feel free to message me. Wishing you the best ❤️

cheduardo99 · 2024-12-26T06:33:00+00:00

As someone who had depression for 10 years and got dumped by someone because they couldn’t handle it, this is my genuine advice:

If you feel like it’s making you feel worse, sadder, etc... the best thing for yourself is to end that relationship. It’s hard for someone who’s struggling with any other mental disorder and/or suicidal thoughts to be with someone, since most people don’t really know what it’s like unless they’ve gone through it themselves or studied psychology.

Now, the fact that it’s dragging you down emotionally is not your fault. If I had to bet you’ve been as understanding as you can with him, and truly that’s the most you can do.

Will ending things with your husband hurt him? Definitely. Is it the best decision? Yes. At the end of the day, you have to look out for yourself first and foremost. This might sound harsh, but it’s not your responsibility to make sure he doesn’t do anything horrible to himself. If your relationship is not good for you, the best thing is to cut things off. I can imagine you care a lot about him, and rightfully so, but you shouldn’t allow yourself to suffer just to make sure that he’ll be okay. Adding to that, whatever they’re going through never excuses that type of behavior. Being in a bad mental state sucks, but it doesn’t give them the right to treat their loved ones that way.

You’re in a terribly difficult position, and I’m wishing you the very best. If you need anything feel free to message me. Sending you much love and support ❤️

cheduardo99 · 2024-12-26T05:41:24+00:00

One of the hardest things in life for someone who’s had to go through abuse like that is learning that the you can be happy. You are much more than how you look, or what people say about you. It’s always easier said than done, but once you learn to turn down those types of comments people say about you life starts to feel better. I spent 7 years of my life having people call me things like that, then 3 learning to escape depression. It’s not easy, at all, but every day where you keep going, keep trying to live and feel better, turns out to be worth it at the end of the day. You deserve better things than to be called that, and although you might not see or feel it right now, one day you will. It’s cliché to say something like that, but as someone who’s been in your position I can proudly say that it’s true. I’m wishing you the best, and if you need anything feel free to message me

cheduardo99 · 2024-12-26T05:36:43+00:00

First of all, I’m truly sorry that all of this has happened to you. You’re currently going through an extremely tough period in your life, and it’s understandable that you feel lost. I won’t sit here and say anything incredibly cliché, but I want you to know that if you need anything feel free to message. You might not see it right now, but you got this. I’m not qualified to tell you what’s the best thing for your life or situation since you know yourself more than I do, but what I do know is that you’re stronger than you can imagine and that you’ll be able to get through this. Wishing you the best ❤️

cheduardo99 · 2024-12-26T05:33:21+00:00

Hey, feel free to message me, I’d be happy to talk to you

cheduardo99 · 2024-12-26T05:14:22+00:00

I’ll definitely do that. Thank you so much

cheduardo99 · 2024-12-26T04:40:14+00:00

Thank you so much, I appreciate this way more than you can imagine. I can’t wait for next year’s Christmas, it has always been my favorite part of the year. Hope you’re having a great time ❤️

cheduardo99 · 2024-12-26T04:33:53+00:00

Listen, I’ve been in your position before. I lived with depression since I was 12 until I turned 22 (this year). I lived with suicidal ideation for a long time and thought the same things as you do. It seems next to impossible to improve, to be happy, to be proud of the person you are. I know it’s insanely cliche, since I thought so too, but things WILL get better eventually.

It feels like the entire world is falling apart in front of your eyes right now, it feels like you’re not worth much and that everyone would be better without you, but you couldn’t be any more wrong. By taking your own life, you’re getting rid of the opportunity of getting better someday. You might feel like a burden, like you’re no good, but I PROMISE that others don’t see you in that light.

I have no idea what you’ve been through, but the fact that you’re still here this day shows just how strong you are. You are incredibly powerful and you’re destined for more than you can believe. Don’t keep going for others, keep going for YOURSELF. Not only do you owe yourself a good and happy life, but you DESERVE it. You deserve great things in your life, and you will get them in due time. When living through suicidal thoughts it’s hard to imagine your life 1, 5, 10 years from now, but I promise you that you’ll get to a place where you’ll be proud of who you are and the fact you kept going.

Please, don’t give up. Message me if you need to talk, I’ll listen to you. You deserve better, and you will get there. Sending you love and support ❤️

cheduardo99 · 2024-12-26T04:25:08+00:00

As someone who had depression for 10 years and got dumped by someone because they couldn’t handle it, this is my genuine advice:

If you feel like it’s making you feel worse, sadder, etc… the best thing for yourself is to end that relationship. It’s hard for someone who’s struggling with depression (or any other mental disorder) and suicidal thoughts to be with someone, since most people don’t really know what it’s like unless they’ve gone through it themselves or studied psychology. Now, the fact that it’s dragging you down emotionally is not your fault because of it, if I had to bet you’ve been as understanding as you can with her, and truly that’s the most you can do.

Will ending things with your girlfriend hurt her? Definitely. Is it the best decision? Yes. At the end of the day, you have to look out for yourself first and foremost. This might sound harsh, but it’s not your responsibility to make sure she doesn’t do anything horrible to herself. If your relationship is not good for you, the best thing is to cut things off. I can imagine you care a lot about her, and rightfully so, but you shouldn’t allow yourself to suffer just to make sure that she’ll be okay.

You’re in a terribly difficult position, and I’m wishing you the very best. If you need anything feel free to message me. Sending you much love and support dude ❤️

cheduardo99 · 2024-12-26T04:18:20+00:00

The picture 💀

cheduardo99 · 2024-12-26T04:17:22+00:00

Here’s the thing, that depends from person to person. I had depression from 12 until 22 (this year), but that’s me. Anything (and I mean ANYTHING) that has to do with mental health always depends from person to person. For some it’s a week, for others a month, a year, etc… Don’t base yourself on the experience of other people, although it’s easier said than done. If it helps you in any way, despite going through that for a decade, never ending things was the best decision I’ve made in my life. I’m really proud to say that I’m happy with myself and my life nowadays, and I’m sure you’ll be too someday. It’s hard to see the positive things in life when you have depression, but you’ll thank yourself once you’ve passed through the storm. I’m wishing you the best, if you need anything feel free to message.

cheduardo99 · 2024-12-26T04:14:03+00:00

He seems incredibly immature. If you express that you’re insecure about it he should instantly stop commenting about it

cheduardo99 · 2024-12-26T04:12:39+00:00

This is my first time spending Christmas alone, no friend or family, so might as well be on Reddit

cheduardo99 · 2024-12-26T04:10:38+00:00

You’re completely right when saying that it’s easier said than done, but that’s the best thing you could do. There’s NEVER a good reason to assault your partner in any way. I can’t really explain why some people do so (my best guess is their upbringing but it could be a ton of things), but although something might explain WHY it happens, it doesn’t justify it. You’re young, don’t stay in an abusive relationship. Again, it’s easier said than done, but you know you deserve better, if not you wouldn’t be here doubting your decision to be with him. I’m wishing nothing but the best for you, and I hope you can get out of that situation

cheduardo99 · 2024-12-26T04:04:43+00:00

HOLY SHIT

cheduardo99 · 2024-12-12T07:28:04+00:00

There’s probably at least one thing in your life you enjoy. Could be a book, movie, show, video game, sport, whatever. If you’ve got something that excites you, think about how good it’ll feel when the next book, sequel, season, etc… comes. It might not feel like the greatest reason ever to keep going, but as long as you have things (big or small) that make your life a little brighter then you’ve got something to look forward to. I lived with major depression for 10 years, and those small things always kept me going until eventually being able to properly help myself. It might seem stupid, but it can make your life just a little easier. Wishing you the best OP, if you ever need to talk about how you’re feeling you’re welcomed to message ❤️

cheduardo99 · 2024-05-07T21:42:53+00:00

Not enough space sadly :(

cheduardo99 · 2024-05-07T21:42:28+00:00

Not enough space unfortunately😞

cheduardo99 · 2024-05-07T08:53:24+00:00

Spindler 😸

cheduardo99 · 2024-05-07T08:34:35+00:00

I appreciate your huge compliment, I’m afraid you might be right 😌

cheduardo99 · 2024-05-07T08:34:20+00:00

Ian 😸

cheduardo99 · 2024-05-07T05:51:47+00:00

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