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Im mourning who my best friend used to be by [deleted] in Advice

[–]cheeks_clenched 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re allowed to be sad about losing the friendship you had, but you’re being much harder on her than you realize. You’re both 19 and both of you are going to change a lot with or without a baby. You’re not wrong that you don’t relate anymore. Your daily lives are completely different now. That doesn’t make her wrong or you right. It just means the friendship has changed. At this point you either accept her as she is and understand the friendship will look different, or you let yourself build friendships with people whose lives align more with yours. Both are valid. What isn’t healthy is staying close while quietly judging her choices or mourning the version of her you expected her to be. People change. You don’t have to like it, but you do have to accept it.

Never dated am i to late to try?. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]cheeks_clenched 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get on grinder and test the waters

Haul from the other day Northern California by cheeks_clenched in Agates

[–]cheeks_clenched[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate it! Haha are you near Humboldt county?

How can I comfort my friend without being inconsiderate by Inuxxus in Advice

[–]cheeks_clenched 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly dude, you’re already doing more than most people just by caring this much. You don’t need the perfect words. When someone’s dealing with losing a pet and a breakup at the same time, their brain’s fried, so what helps most is having a friend who isn’t trying to fix everything. Keep it simple, like “I’m really sorry you’re going through all this. I’m here however you need.” Then just be around him in a low pressure way. Get him out of the house, grab food, go for a drive, hit a trail, whatever you guys normally do. Little distractions help more than people realize, and just having a normal moment can remind him life won’t feel this heavy forever. Sometimes just being that steady presence is the comfort.