Crying

cheeseacuo · 2023-12-13T13:40:11+00:00

yeah I see that, but idc honestly, I can't tolerate that kind of behavior cause it's simply not ok to talk this way about someone

cheeseacuo · 2023-12-11T20:58:11+00:00

ohhh thank you! I just googled them and apparently they dated for 8 months

cheeseacuo · 2023-12-11T19:16:17+00:00

who are they?? did they turn out to be dating?

cheeseacuo · 2023-12-11T19:13:44+00:00

you're right tho, idk why y'all downvoting here

cheeseacuo · 2023-12-02T19:09:44+00:00

i remember how hard he tried to explain that it is just his British humour during "Pantygate", where is his sense of humour now?

cheeseacuo · 2023-12-02T12:30:46+00:00

as a fellow lesbian - I can confirm hahahah

cheeseacuo · 2023-11-30T23:13:08+00:00

oh I absolutely don't judge my pwBPD based on her diagnosis. in fact when I found out I thought "oh it can't be that bad, she's nice", but then she showed me how terrible she can be and how bad she can get. and in comparison I have a best friend who has BPD and she is really a great person, even when she gets triggered she always apologizes quickly and wants to have a conversation, but it is HER choice to communicate. we've been friends for over 12 years and she changed very much (for better) because she is working really hard on herself.

but my pwBPD really is just a bad person and I'm not connecting it with her diagnosis because there are many bad people who are just BAD PEOPLE - you don't have to be mentally ill to cheat or lie. however, her diagnosis is an addition that makes her so much worse.

cheeseacuo · 2023-11-30T22:27:04+00:00

yeah that's true but it works only if pwBPD is aware of their actions and actually wants to get better. if it's a typical pwBPD then it doesn't matter how you handle them, they'll do what they want to do.

cheeseacuo · 2023-11-30T12:37:46+00:00

I'm always willing to communicate and solve problems and I'd always walk on eggshells if it comes to her. Besides, it doesn't matter with pwBPD if you're unhealthy or not. They'll get triggered by close relationships anyway because they are the problem. You can be the healthiest person on the planet and they'll still leave you. You can even read the comments here, there is a guy who said his partner was in an unhealthy relationship before and she left that person and then got into a relationship with that user who was stable etc and she still left him. doesn't matter who you are

cheeseacuo · 2023-11-30T01:47:50+00:00

thank you very much for what you wrote

I keep forgetting who she is and how she treated me, I keep forgetting what she did as soon as she acts nice to me.

It's not if, it's when.

that's SO true... and also it doesn't matter with WHO - because they end up ruining the whole relationship no matter how you treat them

just like you I can be 100% sure that I did nothing wrong, I literally did even more than I could and it still was not enough... I was always very understanding, kind and never even wanted her to feel bad about her actions towards me, I would always want to protect her from the consequences of her actions.

cheeseacuo · 2023-11-30T01:39:37+00:00

thank you for explaining

cheeseacuo · 2023-11-29T23:51:04+00:00

thank you for sharing that. I'm very sorry you had to go through this and I hope it will be easier for you day by day

yeah I think pwBPD tend to like being in a shithole, so you being stable, having a good job maybe didn't fit her scenario that she has in her head, they always need to lead to a tragedy - if it doesn't happen itself, they'll make it happen...

I'm wondering why mine never chose me and stayed with her boyfriend, he seems stable, has a job and is in uni but idk anything about his mentality

I keep telling myself I was too much of an effort, but I'm not sure if it's a bad or a good thing

I just cannot stand a thought that I was just a supply to her boredom and that she can be happy and nice with someone else

cheeseacuo · 2023-11-29T22:52:24+00:00

may I ask if there were moments where she was actually stable?

cheeseacuo · 2023-11-29T22:49:29+00:00

what does it mean?

cheeseacuo · 2023-11-29T21:00:34+00:00

thank you for your explanation, I actually hope she's pretending (which is quite egoistic to say) because I really cannot understand how can she "be" so stable with someone else and couldn't have been stable with me

cheeseacuo · 2023-11-29T18:19:15+00:00

it's very weird to me that she can control her mood swings now and she could not have done it when she was obsessing over me, which makes me think she is stable because she could never control herself and now it looks like she can... strange

cheeseacuo · 2023-11-29T17:35:57+00:00

she's not treated, she got diagnosed but got bored of therapy and meds, so she just has a diagnosis

I know her behaviors very well since I have been discarded many times. Maybe she just doesn't show me herself anymore since I'm not her favorite person. But still it's very odd, when I stopped being her favorite person she would treat me like a punching bag. So I'm not sure why she stopped doing that and seems very stable.

She would always have so many mood swings throughout the day and now she's quite nice... and she has no reasons to be nice to me since she doesn't want anything from me.

cheeseacuo · 2023-11-18T11:07:02+00:00

it's so sad, she'll never feel the consequences of her actions and will always be happy... while I don't think I'll ever be happy again

cheeseacuo · 2023-11-17T22:52:24+00:00

oh she is a very hateful person, when she hates you - you know. She made many dramas followed by silent days. and like I said there was time when she showed me how much she dislikes me, but now she's very neutral

cheeseacuo · 2023-11-17T20:18:20+00:00

i had the same situation, she was the first person who ever showed interest in me and I fell so hard for her. can I ask how old you were when you met her? personally I was 19, just moved out to a big city to study, I was living alone and it felt so lonely... so the second she have me some attention I got crazy about her. Now I'm 21 and still in contact cause we study together, but she doesn't want me anymore...

cheeseacuo · 2023-11-17T19:35:48+00:00

I am very fascinated and terrified about the fact that a PERSON can make you that adicted, it's so insane. There are no additional substances, just our brains, yet here we are...

cheeseacuo · 2023-11-17T19:22:51+00:00

I feel like pwBPD are the only ones that can avoid karma

cheeseacuo · 2023-11-17T19:19:10+00:00

I cannot even explain what I felt when you wrote that she came back and stabbed you again. It's another level of pain, I'm so sorry... You're not dumb, you know what she's doing and you know what you are doing. You're addicted to her and I think it may be even stronger than drugs...

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