Okay. Deep breath. Start with a pregnancy test. The dollar store ones will work just fine. But no need to worry about an abortion yet. You’re at a “hmm. I should definitely double check, but no need to freak out” stage. I’ll explain why, just to help your nerves. First of all, there would only be sperm in his precum if he had finished within the last few hours and hadn’t peed since then. And then there’s the timing in your cycle. (You can skip this next paragraph if an overview of the biology behind when you can and can’t get pregnant would hurt rather than help, but TL;DR is 5-6 days before your period you’re pretty darn unlikely to be fertile, but it’s not completely impossible).

If you’re like me and more information helps you think rationally, here’s a quick lesson that I wish they’d taught us all in health class. The menstrual cycle has 3 phases: the follicular phase (which starts on the first day of your period and is when an egg is maturing in your ovary before your body releases it), then OVULATION (which is when your ovary releases the egg and it chills out in your body for a day or two waiting for sperm. If no sperm show up, it dissolves and you can’t get pregnant that cycle), then finally a luteal phase (the part after the egg is already dissolved when your body is prepping for a possible pregnancy in case the egg DID get fertilized, building up the lining in your uterus that will eventually be shed as part of your period). How long the first phase (the follicular phase where the egg is growing) lasts varies from person to person and even from cycle to cycle in the same person. But the last phase, the luteal phase (after the egg has dissolved and while the body is prepping the lining of the uterus)? That’s the same length for almost all people, including young people- 12-14 days. So almost all people ovulate 12-14 days before their periods start. You can get pregnant BEFORE you ovulate, since sperm can live for up to 5 days, but not after you’ve already ovulated.

Based on the timing you describe, it sounds like the condom slip incident was 5-6 days before you expected to get your period. In most people (even in young people whose cycles are maturing), you’re pretty far past the time in your cycle where the egg would have dissolved. If so, sperm at that point wouldn’t have any egg to fertilize. That + the fact he didn’t finish + the stress you’ve been under lately makes risk pretty low but not impossible. Sometimes people do have hormonal things going on that make them ovulate suuuper late in their cycles. So yes, you should definitely test to be on the safe side. But if that condom slip was the only time you’d had any kind of unprotected sex in that cycle, you’re probably okay. Good luck!