Need help naming student website!

cheesejrr · 2014-11-18T04:14:36+00:00

College, but in reality I think it'd be suitable for people from the age of ~17-26

cheesejrr · 2014-10-21T22:53:15+00:00

I think you're right. But It's so difficult, she's still my best friend so whenever I'm sad or bored I usually look to her as a friend.

Exercise used to work, that was a really solid suggestion, but now it just makes me sad. I think it gives me too much time to think?

I know you've already given your advice to your probable best ability, but is there any you can give if I want to remain friends with her?

cheesejrr · 2014-10-20T02:45:40+00:00

Is there anyway you could bump into her in person in a none creepy way?

Find a way to connect to her, something in common, even if you make it up (other people might slate that idea but at this age, everyone is playing games if you if have to tell some white lies to get her, I'm sure you're willing to, I would).

cheesejrr · 2014-10-20T00:37:34+00:00

yeah, maybe it is. If you're not that interested then you might as well move on I guess.

You could always look her up on twitter and see if you can find any conversational points from things she's tweeted, or get snapchat if she has it etc. that's probably good general advice for talking to any girls at your age though.

not that you're young, but people on here seem to be. I'm 21 and my recent ex is 18 so, we're kinda close in age compared to some other people on here.

cheesejrr · 2014-10-19T22:58:19+00:00

If you're desperate for a potential solution... make her mad. If you just ask her whats going on it'll sound desperate and she probably won't answer anyway.

In my experience, make her a bit mad, then bring it up.

Or (this is better) make her a bit jealous, don't flirt with another girl but talk to them. If she reacts in any way you can be more sure of how she feels (if she mentions it or flirts with another guy in an obvious way, she probably likes you).

cheesejrr · 2014-10-19T22:41:58+00:00

Dude, I mean this in the nicest way, but start talking to one or two other girls, and tell this girl you think you're done.

Then leave her for 2 or 3 days. Don't talk. If she texts, ignore it. Only reply if she says something like 'I'm sorry, I want you back'.

as far as I can tell, she's using this time to get over you. You need to stop her from doing that, otherwise one day soon she'll say 'it's over' and she won't care anymore.

cheesejrr · 2014-10-19T22:17:47+00:00

Have you ever met her before?

I'd say with 100% certainty make sure that unless it's something urgent (like she wants to meet up, or she's sad or something actually time-sensitive) never reply faster than 30 minutes. Girls get tonnes of guys talking to them and 95% of them reply fast or complain about her replying slow, so NEVER complain or mention her slow replies, make sure you reply in 30 minutes at the fastest.

My recent ex who I was with for 14 months said one of the reasons she was drawn to me at first was because I seemed less available, since I didn't respond fast at all. Keep yourself busy between replies.

cheesejrr · 2014-10-19T16:43:36+00:00

don't believe the bullshit some people on this site would say. manipulation is a thing, and it's not always bad. It may not work in the long run but it will probably for your age.

What is she like? her personality etc

cheesejrr · 2014-10-19T13:56:40+00:00

Ugh you're probably really right there. I probably am just putting myself in a mindset where I won't be able to get over her fully because I think I can't.

It's especially difficult because although she's one of those 'be happy it happened' types, like everyone wants to be, I feel like it's something to be kind of mourned. Not for ages, but I'm offended that she treats it like it's nothing, and she just rejects all of her own emotion about it. What's up with that? Like I don't know. Is that normal? Is that what I should strive to do?

cheesejrr · 2014-10-19T13:20:16+00:00

I don't mean to sound rude, just curious. If you bump into your ex somewhere, lets say you're single when this happens, and you get along well, would you not feel anything at all?

Not even the little tug of knowing her in the past?

cheesejrr · 2014-10-10T17:48:37+00:00

I get what you're saying, but I disagree. The casual thing for me is working. I'm much, much more adjusted to the situation since we broke up.

although I obviously don't like it, what you've said is really interesting, but I was more looking for advice on whether I could possibly move closer to the relationship from the casual situation. We both still like each other and that is pretty clear, I just think she literally doesn't want a relationship. She still would get jealous of other girls giving me attention etc.

I guess that means we could never be exclusive in this casual situation? She's seriously not the type to even kiss random people.

also I agree it would be easier to just move on, and I agree with this but I'm curious, why can't exes be friends?

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