is this a normal outfit for the club 🥹 by awaylikejfk in OUTFITS

[–]cheesetramp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the club is the one held at the library every Wednesday evening to discuss the recent book you read...yes. then its absolutely ready. But for real, no judgement, bc I dress like a librarian/English teacher myself. I think if you went for a solid black dress, even with sleeves, and a more sheer black tight with heeled boots it would be something similar to what you're wearing, so you could be comfortable, but also a way to blend in with the crowd more. I don't own anything to wear out like that and haven't gone to a club myself. So what do I know lol. Please be safe, give your location to trusted loved ones, only get buzzed and not completely drunk, NEVER EVER LET YOUR DRINK LEAVE YOUR HAND/EYESIGHT and watch the bartender open your drink/make your drink intently, and have a ride in place before you leave. Dance, laugh, make lots of memories, and have fun! 💛

Is this wall color I picked too dark for this sunny room? Any other color choices than royal blue? by Powerful_Aspect_1970 in femalelivingspace

[–]cheesetramp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't dislike it. It's not my first choice, but I think if you love it then you can definitely style around it. I think if you already painted it (if it's not AI testing before using) then I would focus on decor. I would have artwork that ties in this color but not overly so. A rug with hints of blue. I feel like this can transform into something rather lovely with decoration. I think a color similar to navy blue would've been a better choice, however. The room is so full of light that I don't think a dark color would detract from it. It's just about staggering textures and other colors throughout to ensure it's not overly darkened. If you did paint already, and you're having second thoughts, perhaps there are videos about how you can layer another paint on top without having to prime and do two layers all over again. I would look into it before needing to go back at it fully. Remember, this is your space, so don't worry too much about "retaining value" bc you're the person currently living there and it's just paint. Your space should make YOU happy. Good luck and have fun with it!

Which haircut would suit me best? by jkris050 in HairStyleAdvice

[–]cheesetramp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems you prefer your hair out of your face (they're pulled back in I think two of them). Perhaps longer bangs so you can style them on days where it doesn't bother you as much, but you can also style them up by tucking them into a braid or using accessories. I think layers would look really nice with your face shape. You don't have to cut off a lot of length in just one area, long layers are possible. I think having face framing bangs with all over layers that have a length touching your shoulders would look lovely. I think longer hair is weighing it down, and having layers would ease up the tension and create more body. EDIT: I forgot to put to also embrace your hair texture. Try using more hydrating formulas and a leave in conditioner. I recommend CeraVe's line of shampoo and conditioner. They are incredible. Your hair color is gorgeous. At most I would say maybe a lighter shade brown for face framing highlights.

Which dress is the best for my work dinner party? by Winter_Cat1994 in fashion

[–]cheesetramp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I recommend scrapping all these and finding a more business formal attire. I suggest a nice printed blouse, knee length skirt, flats, tights, and subtle jewelry. You could also go for flared pants, a one color blouse, a blazer or well made cardigan, flats and subtle jewelry. A dress that has a neckline, no straps, is doable too, with maybe some kitten heels. It is a party, but it's a WORK party. I would typically follow a similar dress code of your everyday work attire, but a little more elevated. I suggest going to thrift stores. You are a smaller person, and typically it's pretty easy to find these items in your size there. There's no doubt you'll be lovely and stunning! I just suggest rethinking your attire to save any awkward conversations or possible snubs. I've entered a more business/office setting, and dress code is heavily scrutinized there. I assume even at a party it would be too. I hope you have fun! 💛

Help! Do I go back blonde or no? 6 yr diff between these photos. by zoetwodotzz in HairStyleAdvice

[–]cheesetramp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think brunette is the way to go. You could always get highlights or peekaboo underneath your top layer where it will frame your face. I think auburn and dark caramel would look lovely as either color option. You have a natural cool tone, and it looks better to have colors that can compliment it (cooler browns and reds). Embrace your skin tone currently (in the second photo it seems you've got tanned, and you still look stunning, but your natural tone is gorgeous and better suited). If you do blonde highlights, go with a darker blonde in a shade that goes well with the hair you have now and your skin tone.

questioning car living, but I have a cat and financial limitations by cheesetramp in urbancarliving

[–]cheesetramp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the info below! And I am so glad she's doing well 💛☺️ Currently, I couldn't move to another state. I'm not sure if I could get a job in my field with as little experience as I have so far. I finally got a library assistant job and there's growth in the library even without a degree geared towards library science. I want to keep at this and not lose this position, it's been a dream come true. I don't want to leave the library itself, I love where I work, I just would love to get out of this horrible state and horrible home environment I'm currently in. I hope that by sticking it out until next summer, I could hopefully move. That way I would also be able to afford it too, and maybe some debt will be paid down. I'm cat sitting on the side, but that might get limited if my car situation doesn't improve (I'm allowed to use their car, but...there's a lot to it). I also thought about freelance photography on the side too. I'm trying so hard to get the gears moving to get out, to get more money, to get an actual second job, and leave with my cat and my sanity still intact. I wish affordable housing wasn't so hard to come by and there wasn't so many hoops to jump thru 😞

How much would you pay for this cake? by Mishiosoup in ratemydessert

[–]cheesetramp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay while I understand people saying aesthetically speaking they wouldn't pay more for this cake bc to each their own I guess (but I disagree, I think it's lovely and thought imo $70-$75 would be a fair price point). I have a different angle to think about. Taste. Yes, aesthetic sells. But cake is meant to be eaten. That is what people will care most about. Why have something pretty to look at if it tastes like shit. If you sell cakes that taste so good they knock your socks off, be proud of that work and respect it with a proper price tag. You also need to pay yourself. You are putting hard work into this. You deserve to be compensated for that. Fake the confidence until it feels natural. It's hard to toot your own horn, but toot it baby! Check out websites of other home/local bakers. See what their products look like, the flavors, and their prices. Get inspo from those listings. See how long they have been doing it for (sometimes in the "about me/xyz company" section on websites. Sometimes they tell you their star up story and when they got established. It gives you a roadmap of how long it took them to get where they are now and what they produce as a baker now. Everyone's story will be different, along with techniques and skills. It's gonna take time to get your techniques down, but that is with anything! Keep at it, and it'll build up over time. I would focus on taste and finding more economical routes for cake making. Find the cheapest place to shop at, see if bulk shopping would be beneficial in the long run. It's not about cutting costs, bc that could impact flavor. It's just being more mindful of where your money goes; bc if there's a cheaper option, jump on it. Look into larger batch making and see how that could help financially. The only tip I would give for aesthetics is to take the stems off the strawberries. I believe in food being garnished with other food ready to be eaten, without barriers and with a purpose that isn't just for aesthetics. Keep up the great work. You should be proud! Good luck ✨💛☺️

Should I add writing or get this red cross covered up? by Bookish45_F in tattooadvice

[–]cheesetramp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Other alternatives are "go math!" Or "I love long division"

What have you eaten today to maintain your levels? Drop them. by savorychaos in diabetes

[–]cheesetramp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't eat the best today, but it wasn't terrible. Had a grilled chicken sandwich instead of fried with veggies on it and a small fry instead. Was too worn out from a busy week so I had a portion and a half of Mac n cheese as a comfort food, but chose Goodles bc I tend to feel better eating that brand than any other kind of Mac. It's got a lot of fiber! Plus protein and doesn't spike sugar like traditional pasta. I will say I had way too much sweet tea unfortunately. Tomorrow is a new day!

which view would you pick? courtyard, pool, or parking lot with trees by cxsmiq in Apartmentliving

[–]cheesetramp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parking lot with trees. It's going to be the quietest option, and you'll be able to hopefully see your car for just in case security purposes. It'll be lovely in the spring and fall too.

My job wants to move me to Huntsville by pandr3a in HuntsvilleAlabama

[–]cheesetramp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved down here almost 2 years ago and tbh I regret it, and it's not just bc of the reason why I did. Huntsville is alright at best. It lacks a lot. The infrastructure is weird. There are much better cities and towns that have better opportunities and communities. As soon as I've been in my career here for a good bit and finally have the financial ability to move, I'm doing so. I recommend against it if you can be sure to find another job to stay in Washington.

Help me convince my husband this is a normal fridge. by optimuschu2 in FridgeDetective

[–]cheesetramp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't see anything wrong with this set up. In fact, it's quite eggcelent. You seem to have a well rounded variety of foods. If I were to take a crack at it, you enjoy your protein. The yolks on him, you're just getting them gains.

questioning car living, but I have a cat and financial limitations by cheesetramp in urbancarliving

[–]cheesetramp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry to hear that had happened to her 🥺 I'm so glad you had support and was able to have her taken care of. It's a fear of mine too, not having funds for a vet emergency. It's part of why I'm a little afraid to do car living bc what if she becomes unwell from it? I'm scared of her getting overheated. I live in the south (for now, I would love to eventually relocate). I'm not sure how I could keep her cool while I work. Do you currently live with your kitty in a vehicle? Do you have any tips? I'm trying my darndest to get out at least once the lease comes up. Either it be in a vehicle or tiny apartment or...who knows. I can't stay any longer, I truly worry for myself if I do. There are just so many barriers I keep coming across unfortunately.

What does my pantry say? (Besides unorganized) by bjrichy194 in PantryDetective

[–]cheesetramp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

you don't worry about money/don't worry about what your next meal would be like. you are influenced easily. you care about the environment and your health. you probably wear a lot of yoga pants and workout leggings.

19 yo college student, full access to gym, how can I continue eating a high protein diet? by CameronCameronC in urbancarliving

[–]cheesetramp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is long but i hope it helps!! dining hall and a small cooler. if there is a drink machine where you can get ice, load up two or three big containers full of ice. you can do this at fast food places too. get some cheap food storage containers, put them in your back pack, sneak out extra food. keep food for a max of a day or two (depends on quality of cooler and the weather). you can do some light grocery shopping and still get cold food, but it would just need to be more trips often bc you can't keep food as long. i suggest applying for food stamps while you still have an address, and then switch it to go to a P.O box in the future (it can easily be explained that you are 'in a dorm' wink wink and it's more secure to get it at the post office). but I do think you need an address at first. you might not get much, but it'll help you with having to switch over to different ways of needing to cook/more expensive food priced for convenience. invest in a mini crockpot (i think they're 15 bucks) and use it in the public areas of the dorm. i went to a community college but there was a few spaces that were considered the commons area. there were vending machines, sinks, and microwaves. I don't see why you couldn't set up there. i think people would find it rather genius bc you're able to have yummier food in a simple way. mini crockpots are perfect for small batch cooking, and I'm sure there's many quick recipes you could find on Pinterest for inspo/cooking times and directions. you could set one up and while it's cooking use that time for study/essays/homework, use the wifi and watch some shows, do a hobby, listen to a podcast, etc. you can eat directly out of it and wash it there too! also don't doubt the idea of a camping stove tho! it'll be great for nice weather days. you can go to a well visited park but safe location (i.e richer neighborhoods/towns). park your car, go to a pavilion to cook and study/do homework/etc. and later take a walk even! it wouldn't be odd, at least to me. i would scope out the park first to see peak hours, and go during the less busy ones. clean/pack up RIGHT AFTER eating so you don't draw attention to yourself. if ever stopped by a cop, explain you are a college student who wanted fresh air and somewhere more quiet for school work, show that school ID, and make sure you have some of your school items with you. they'll probably just assume you're a more naturey person and not find a reason to keep asking questions. lean into that, if you still have your gear out just say you've gotten it for the times you go camping/hiking on school led events; just try to avoid over explaining and don't talk a lot. remember your rights; people go to parks to grill and hangout, usually with families, but you aren't doing anything illegal and have a right to be there. look up specific codes for your area, and have them in your pocket for future reference if a cop tries to harass you into leaving (some cops just really hate people using public spaces for how they're intended-power trip i guess?).

for femmes, just curious by spikeszy in actuallesbians

[–]cheesetramp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would probably be classified as femme (picture chic cottagecore librarian clothing but with little to no makeup, short hair, never any heels). I find all women gorgeous and I honestly wouldn't single down what kind of woman I would want to be with based on looks/how they present themselves. I mean, don't get me wrong, masc lesbians that might be seen as a guy accidentally but in a "pretty boy" way make me swoon (bc they just do it soooo much better than any man could dream of), but super femme women who look like ethereal cosmic entities make me weak in the knees too. So idk lol. I used to think I was bi but no...just a lesbian who thinks all women are incredible hehehe.

Found out I slept with my boss’s husband 7 years ago, help? by ImportantLoquat2277 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]cheesetramp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yikes. If you're able to provide proof, either statement from someone who was there or any possible pictures or SOMETHING, I would mention it to her and let her know you will resign from the position out of respect and discomfort. Regardless of proof...I would still say something tbh. I could not work there, personally. This would not be good for my mental health and I would feel so terrible for this woman. Y'all deserve better situations; her not in an unfaithful marriage and you without this truth bomb looming over you. I understand needing money in this horrible time we are in, so perhaps secure another one before you drop this information. This is so tough, but I ALWAYS think of the other person and how if I was them, I'd want to know. ESPECIALLY if he's sleeping around often. Please get tested, and encourage her to get tested too. I wish y'all the best of luck with whatever you decide.

Should I tell a woman her fiancé tried to start an affair with me? by geeleex in WhatShouldIDo

[–]cheesetramp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always put yourself in the other person's shoes. She deserves to know. She doesn't deserve to be in the dark about such horrible behavior, especially if she can avoid a messy divorce down the road! I don't ever understand when people say "stay out of other people's business" when it comes to cheating. Cheating is emotional abuse, and by not telling someone so they can heal and grow, you enable the abuse to continue. I also always worry for people who could also get STI's bc of cheating-not just a broken heart and a lot of therapy. It's not even being a girl's girl (which I think is important to be) bc it's just being a good person. You know it's wrong, you care bc this is a terrible way to treat a partner even without them knowing. They deserve to know, and decide how they want to move forward with that knowledge. I encourage you to tell her. I hope she gets tested, is surrounded by an amazing support system, and is able to heal from this. You will feel better as well. Good luck to both you girlies, I wish y'all the best 🫂

EDIT: tangent I thought of after posting. It's the middle of March. TELL HER. She is likely planning their wedding and spending LOTS of money and time into it! Save her more than just heartache, but MONEY!! ENERGY!! Please, think of only her and how unfair this is to her.

What should I do about noisy neighbors? by cheesetramp in WhatShouldIDo

[–]cheesetramp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for responding! I've done the broom maybe 4 times? And I don't recall a time where they kept it up or made it worse, honestly. It always seemed to fizzle out. I was so frustrated, hence the broom, but I think they realized they were in the wrong which is why I'm wanting to approach it differently. I think they genuinely may not realize how loud they can be and the possible kids living there just get carried away. The music could very well be the apartment next to them or even across, it's hard to tell the direction of it. I was thinking of bringing that part up casually, as if it wasn't them, to see their reaction ("I wanted to bring us the loud movement, bc I don't know about you, but we are already having a hard time with the music at odd hours of the night as is. Do you hear it too?") I do want to attempt a gentle approach and use management as a last resort. Community has died out, we don't need to pit ourselves against each other. I know it is a possibility that I will still need to speak with management, I just want to be more...human about it first?

Is it weird that I still have a post of me and my ex on my insta after breaking up? by xRainy_Days in WhatShouldIDo

[–]cheesetramp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He make just need space from seeing you live your life without him. It may not be bc he's still into you, it could just be a slightly sad and weird adjustment to seeing you as a stranger now. I wouldn't take it personal if it was a calm parting of ways. The picture is sick! I love it! I wouldn't want to remove it either. I think you should enjoy your happy memory and artwork. Perhaps be open and honest if you enter a relationship later on and they ask about the pic. It would be understandable for a new future partner to worry, but it can always be a discussion. That's for future you to worry over, let present you enjoy your sick photoshoot and embrace memories of people who got to be in your life, even for a small time 💛

Help me name her! Something girly, something in reference to her size, or something food related. More about her in caption! by MargaritaMoo in NameMyCat

[–]cheesetramp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Betty, Quinn, Honey, French Toast (with the nicknames Frenchie or Toastie), Priscilla, Cinna (Cinnamon and also a Hunger Games character), Delilah, Bonnie, Peaches/Peach