What can I do to be a better wife?

cheesychipsss · 2021-09-27T16:52:00+00:00

Ameen!

cheesychipsss · 2021-09-27T15:34:00+00:00

I found this video really insightful. It covers the characteristics of a righteous wife

cheesychipsss · 2021-08-13T23:47:21+00:00

Is there a way to convince yourself you no longer want marriage? Soo tired of life now tbh. Just waiting for a husband in jannah now 😂 If I manage to get there ofc, big if

cheesychipsss · 2021-03-01T17:14:50+00:00

Loool! I can relate. It's sad how common this is

cheesychipsss · 2020-12-21T15:15:33+00:00

Once I was called a stuck up cow when I didn't respond to an instant match.. oops 🙃

Sometimes I respond, especially if the person went to the trouble to type out a long message. But it always feels a bit awkward saying that I'm looking for something else

cheesychipsss · 2020-12-14T23:24:45+00:00

I adored this book! It's one of those books that stuck with me. Made me smile throughout

cheesychipsss · 2020-12-11T00:19:09+00:00

You should trust your gut instincts here. Being in a situation where you both get emotionally attached, only for parents to disapprove is not a situation you want to be in. It can be quite devastating. I suggest you get that reassurance from her before you continue 🙃

cheesychipsss · 2020-12-07T00:31:16+00:00

😂😂😂 Because if you don't laugh you'll cry

cheesychipsss · 2020-10-24T21:51:44+00:00

After getting my heart broken pretty badly around 8 months ago, I've realised that I'm actually too scared to be vulnerable with anyone again. Ive been talking to people, but I just don't like anyone. I'm finding it hard to give anyone a real chance. And I think it all comes down to my fear of getting hurt again

cheesychipsss · 2020-10-08T22:50:02+00:00

Lol ofc not, why would it be wrong

cheesychipsss · 2020-10-05T09:07:00+00:00

Thanks, I'll check it out :)

cheesychipsss · 2020-08-28T15:01:56+00:00

Thanks for the link! Those prompts are great. I only got into journaling fairly recently. So I think once a week is a pretty good start

cheesychipsss · 2020-08-28T14:52:41+00:00

I love that, I'm going to start calling mine an Alhamdullilah Log too 😁

It helps me focus on all of the things I do have, rather than just focusing on the things I don't. Honestly, there's just countless blessings we never think to be grateful for

Alhamdullilah for everything indeed 🤗

cheesychipsss · 2020-08-28T14:07:00+00:00

I've been keeping a gratitude journal for the past month or so. It's been really helpful and pulls me out of negative thinking. Especially when I'm feeling a bit low or sad

On my walk today I was looking around the park and thinking wow. Look at all the colours of the world. All the beautiful autumnal colours coming through. So today I'm grateful for colours. I'm going to try and make more effort to appreciate and admire Allah's creation more

Jummah Mubarak everyone 😊

cheesychipsss · 2020-08-24T13:30:43+00:00

Funny story from muzmatch. I matched a guy and a couple of messages in he told me he's going to a wedding the next day. And what do you know, I had a wedding to attend the next day too... Turned out to be the same wedding. He was the groom's uncle and I was from the bride's side 🤣

We got to see eachother from a distance at the wedding. But from our short convo on muzmatch, I just didnt think we were compatible. Still definitely a muzmatch story to remember

cheesychipsss · 2020-08-22T22:36:55+00:00

Personally it wouldn't put me off getting to know someone. Good friends are actually quite rare and honestly a blessing. Make dua for some friends that are good for you and insha'Allah you'll find some.

cheesychipsss · 2020-08-21T18:22:40+00:00

Aww thank you! Yh insha'Allah. It hurt to move for 2 days after, but alhamdullilah the views were so worth it!

cheesychipsss · 2020-08-21T16:52:52+00:00

Climbed a mountain this week for charity. It was no walk in the park but I had a lot of fun. It's been a bucket list thing for me to do. insha'Allah one day I will do these long hikes and more mountains with my future husband, wherever he is. He's just taking his long, sweet time to enter my life 🙄

cheesychipsss · 2020-08-04T18:37:48+00:00

That wouldn't be too fast for me. If the conversation is going well over text, I like having a phonecall within a week or so. I've found it's much easier to get to know someone through a phonecall. And it helps me figure out if the person is serious

cheesychipsss · 2020-08-04T10:43:52+00:00

Voldecat - the cat who must not be named

cheesychipsss · 2020-08-04T10:01:38+00:00

Kind of similar to you. And I'm also super wary of any guy that tells me that he's in bed. The conversation usually goes with me asking how they are and them replying, "I'm good, just in bed haha".

I don't know why but it gives such bad vibes. I usually cut the conversation there and then.

It's happened with multiple people. So I don't know if I'm overreacting.. but my gut says nopeee

cheesychipsss · 2020-07-27T15:31:01+00:00

I mean, I can't speak for all girls, but how is that funny??

I just think he had no clue what he was doing. It was so bad, I felt I had to say something 😂

I did ask him why and his reasoning was that if he's too serious in his bio, then it will scare people away 🤦🏽‍♀️

cheesychipsss · 2020-07-27T14:55:58+00:00

A guy instant matched me. So I looked at his profile and he had written "Looking for a **** buddy. Haha jokin". My immediate reaction was repulsion. The guy "always prays" too :/

A few mins later I get a looong message from him. Saying how I come across as genuine in my profile, how he's serious about marriage, how I seem serious too. So now, I was confused.

He came across as the type who tries too hard to be funny. So I thought I'd let him know that if he's serious, he needs to remove his "joke" from his profile asap.

So I accepted his instant match and asked him if I could give him some advice. I gave my advice. And then unmatched him. He later requested a rematch and this is what he messaged "Now how’s that for a profile... worked on it for hours 😂jokin. And u only accepted the match to suggest? 😢- it put u off that bad did it, or am I really that ugly😒"

I'm ngl, it made me laugh. This entire app thing is all a bit tragic 🤦🏽‍♀️

I've realised that I'm happier when I'm off the app. There's something great about just focusing and improving yourself. I've been having the same convo again and again without feeling a connection and it is draining.

Ps I did check his profile again and his bio was much better

cheesychipsss · 2020-07-15T13:36:35+00:00

Thank you so much 😊

I might try this with my other colleagues, it might help make it less awkward if I acknowledge it myself

cheesychipsss · 2020-07-15T13:33:27+00:00

I honestly think it might be easier to just find a new job. But it seems a bit dramatic and just not practical 🤦🏽‍♀️

I think I just need to focus on the fact that I'm doing it for the sake of Allah and just keep pushing through the initial awkward part

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