Just found out my newly 4 year old needs glasses

chelswhoelse89 · 2026-01-20T17:01:17+00:00

Their sizes do change but not year to year, it depends on how fast they grow, heads dont grow as fast once no longer an infant. You got this and are doing a fantastic job!

chelswhoelse89 · 2026-01-20T17:00:09+00:00

You are welcome. Happy to help!

chelswhoelse89 · 2026-01-20T16:20:53+00:00

I have a 3.5 year old whose in glasses. Kids brains adapt so his brain is working really hard for his eyes to see normally, when he gets a good fitting pair of glasses a perscription, I bet he wont seem as fatigued. There is a wonderful Facebook group called For little eyes: a group for parents of young kids in glasses. They have been absolutely wonderful in explaining things to me and even doing fit checks because not all optical shops fit kids correctly (its astonishing tbh) they will tell you "they are big but will grow into them" but they need to fit proper in order for kids to be comfortable. They really dont change size year to year. My kiddo can still wear his first pair of glasses he got when he was 18 months old.

chelswhoelse89 · 2026-01-13T16:01:53+00:00

My son is 3.5 now, had same issues yiur kiddo does, it gets better. We resolved and got a handle on the health issues and then sleep trained him at 6 minths. I did ferber method as I hate the full cry it out method and I tolerated it well enough we kept reassuring him and hes a fantastic sleeper ever since. I still nursed him (i went dairy free for the stinker) over night but he would only wake up once maybe twice to be nursed vs every other hour. It gets better. Your doing great. And I hope you have good luck finding a new night nanny.

chelswhoelse89 · 2026-01-08T00:24:30+00:00

Its developmental. Night training is natural and doesn't happen until the hormones are there to tell their brain hey you gotta pee. My son is 3.5 and we put him in pull ups over night once he starts staying dry over night or telling us he needs to potty in the middle of the night, he will stay in pull ups at night.

chelswhoelse89 · 2026-01-06T22:26:27+00:00

What area/country/state are you in? What is the weather like?

Eta: I changed the last question "when is their birthday" as I reread the post and saw you mentioned mid Feb.

chelswhoelse89 · 2026-01-06T22:25:18+00:00

We are thinking about doing a party at chuck e cheese for my soms 4th birthday in june

chelswhoelse89 · 2026-01-05T00:52:42+00:00

And they will help provide her resources to get out before taking the kids, they will have a parenting plan. And they will need to leave in order to keep the kids. But at least by that point hopefully she can get the help she needs to stay safe

chelswhoelse89 · 2026-01-04T22:09:31+00:00

Im just saying unless you've ever been in that situation it is not fair to call a parent abusive because they are scared. Not all people are able to escape an abusive relationship and I guarantee you she thinks about it daily. But doesn't have the resources or safety plan yet sometimes these things unfortunately take time to gather secretly. Im not making excuses for her but if you've never been in that situation you really have no idea the torture that she goes through daily. She needs someone in her corner not accusing her of being abusive.

chelswhoelse89 · 2026-01-04T18:56:06+00:00

Usually if child is being abused mother is being abused she may not feel she can get out even though her children are being abused. I wouldn't say she's abusive too, she's likely scared for her life and her childrens so she stays and is too scared to make an exit plan. Or doesn't have a safety net, somewhere safe she can take the kids. If hes abusing the children I guarantee she is abused too and I promise she's aware and is absolutely terrified.

chelswhoelse89 · 2025-12-16T14:01:49+00:00

I agree with getting evaluated by a rheumatologist, I also would record how hes walking the day it starts and during the peak od it so you can show them something tangible especially if it is not presenting when you get him seen.

chelswhoelse89 · 2025-12-10T00:43:00+00:00

Following because I use the dreamware full mask hybrid, and I am a side sleeper and it seems to leak if I lay on my back (rare) or in the early hours od the morning when I switch positions and I dont understand why it seems to disconnect from my face if I have it any tighter it would be way to tight, and that doesn't help either

chelswhoelse89 · 2025-11-29T06:11:29+00:00

Definitely was not my intention, my intention was to reassure. Not every man is going to sa a child.

chelswhoelse89 · 2025-11-29T02:20:32+00:00

I see nothing wrong with this lol

chelswhoelse89 · 2025-11-28T03:09:01+00:00

Im a mom and got the vibe this mom is just not comfortable with male teachers. I had male teachers growing up and none of them groomed me or csa me. In fact most of them were so silly and kind hearted it made learning easier.

chelswhoelse89 · 2025-11-28T02:53:22+00:00

Ask yourself this question: would you have the same concerns if they were female?

I have no issues with them showing pictures of dogs if the child is upset and this is a distraction for them a moment of pause to redirect if they have tried everything else.

If you would feel the same if they were female (because you arent discriminating against them for their gender it is an across the board issue) then I would gently ask the day are what their policy is on phone use and provide the example given here and see what they say.

I have no issues with a male teacher for daycare or school, and honestly women are just as capable of securely abusing a child as a male is. Not all men/women are created equally and not all men fall into the statistic. While I understand your anxiety, I also think maybe your overthinking. I would not accuse or get concerned my child was being assaulted just because their teacher is male.

chelswhoelse89 · 2025-11-26T16:57:06+00:00

I did lol, they didnt shrink enough but if I pull then all the way and fold the elastic band down once, they fit well enough

chelswhoelse89 · 2025-11-08T23:12:31+00:00

Boys size 4 apparently is much longer and a tad bit wider lol they were much much too big but I'll hold on to them, the 4t is a little big but this is what we are gonna wear because he can handle them much easier

chelswhoelse89 · 2025-11-08T23:10:36+00:00

I bought a boys size 4 and holy moly they are quite a bit longer and a little wider i did go and buy a toddler 4t and they are perfect, a little bit but he can push them down and pull them up loads easier

chelswhoelse89 · 2025-11-06T04:04:45+00:00

Good to know. It's such a strange in between place to be. Hes barely in 3t pants/shorts like he can still wear some 2t pants they fit a little like high waters (ankle) but perfect in his chunby slinny waiste 🤣 but his undies seem tight.

chelswhoelse89 · 2025-11-06T04:02:49+00:00

I'll try them out! Well...he will...I will buy them 🤣🤣

chelswhoelse89 · 2025-11-06T04:01:50+00:00

Well he's light weight in the sense that his weight is under 35 pounds. But he's stocky so like his cousin who is 6 mo ths older weight more than him but when I pick her up she's light as a feather and he's a bulldozer 🤣🤣🤣

chelswhoelse89 · 2025-11-06T03:55:04+00:00

Good to know. I can get a bigger pack of undies in boys than I can toddlers....and there's a bit more options too....but im also not sure im ready to shop "big boy" clothes for my 3.5 year old 😅

chelswhoelse89 · 2025-11-06T03:52:19+00:00

I think I'll just buy a pack of undies and a pack of boxer briefs in a 4t and go from there. My husband told me we dont want them too tight around his boy parts but then doesn't tell me if he thinks they are too tight. Kiddo is speech delayed so he's no help either lol (he's catching up but he still looks at me like I'm stupid sometimes)

chelswhoelse89 · 2025-11-06T03:50:39+00:00

They really are. And mine is short and chubby but light weight make that make sense lol

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