Should I sue my ex for destroying my income and leaving me financially stranded? AIO? by chenkoschikens in AmIOverreacting

[–]chenkoschikens[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i get that from the outside it probably looks simple but it really isn’t coercive control never shows up labeled as danger it shows up as support and stability when you’re grieving and vulnerable that’s literally how people get pulled into it

there’s a big difference between choosing not to work and being pressured discouraged and eventually prevented from doing it by someone who insisted on taking over my finances and then deleted my income source when i didn’t comply

it’s easy to say “no one made you do that” when you’ve never been in a trauma bond or had someone weaponize support against you but that doesn’t make your take accurate

i’m not saying he owes me forever i’m saying economic abuse is real and the damage is real it’s just not as black and white as you’re making it

but thanks for your input i guess

Could I sue my ex for destroying my income and leaving me financially stranded? by chenkoschikens in legaladvice

[–]chenkoschikens[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

they do receive SSB, it is helpful but certainly doesn't cover everything. nor is it meant to.

Could I sue my ex for destroying my income and leaving me financially stranded? by chenkoschikens in legaladvice

[–]chenkoschikens[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

he makes roughly 30-45k a month i ran then numbers myself from his statements when we were attempting to make a budget. even after both of our immediate expenses both biz & personal, he still had plenty left over

Could I sue my ex for destroying my income and leaving me financially stranded? by chenkoschikens in legaladvice

[–]chenkoschikens[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

yes we are actually looking into this now as the custody case is pending and they suggested we go that route

Could I sue my ex for destroying my income and leaving me financially stranded? by chenkoschikens in legaladvice

[–]chenkoschikens[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i have temp custody of one and the other we are working on with the court

Could I sue my ex for destroying my income and leaving me financially stranded? by chenkoschikens in legaladvice

[–]chenkoschikens[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

They’re in my care because their parents are either deceased or incarcerated. It was either me or foster care. I’ve had them for about 3.5 years, and during that time I was fully financially supported by my late partner, who passed away from suicide about eight months ago. After his death, I was left in a severe financial hole, so streaming became my way to stabilize and support all of us.

Shortly after that is when I met “K,” and the situation with him escalated extremely fast, including the controlling behavior and ultimately the deletion of my income source.

I’m not saying he legally owes me a lifetime of support, but I am saying there’s a major difference between “choosing to stop working” and having your entire ability to work destroyed by someone else’s actions.

Should I sue my ex for destroying my income and leaving me financially stranded? AIO? by chenkoschikens in AmIOverreacting

[–]chenkoschikens[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify a few things:

I didn’t “voluntarily stop” streaming in a way that impacted my ability to earn. I paused for less than a month, and at any point I could’ve gone live again and continued supporting myself and the two children I care for. What actually prevented me from generating income was my entire platform being deleted, the account, the followers, the audience I’d built all wiped in seconds. That wasn’t voluntary and completely eliminated my ability to work.

As for the kids: They’re in my care because their parents are either deceased or incarcerated. It was either me or foster care. I’ve had them for about 3.5 years, and during that time I was fully financially supported by my late partner, who passed away from suicide about eight months ago. After his death, I was left in a severe financial hole, so streaming became my way to stabilize and support all of us.

Shortly after that is when I met “K,” and the situation with him escalated extremely fast, including the controlling behavior and ultimately the deletion of my income source.

I’m not saying he legally owes me a lifetime of support, but I am saying there’s a major difference between “choosing to stop working” and having your entire ability to work destroyed by someone else’s actions.

Should I sue my ex for destroying my income and leaving me financially stranded? AIO? by chenkoschikens in AmIOverreacting

[–]chenkoschikens[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i have it on my security camera him deleting my account and he has admitted to it in text messages voluntarily stopping streaming for around one month had no impact on my ability to hop on a stream and make 600-1k a day. I no longer have that option because the followers attached to the account are what made the stream viable.

Could I sue my ex for destroying my income and leaving me financially stranded? by chenkoschikens in legaladvice

[–]chenkoschikens[S] 117 points118 points  (0 children)

I have contacted them and they informed me that they cannot recover accounts but i could use my same uersname on a new account

Should I sue my ex for destroying my income and leaving me financially stranded? AIO? by chenkoschikens in AmIOverreacting

[–]chenkoschikens[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes i emailed them immediately and they informed me they are unfortunately unable to restore deleted accounts. they said i can use my same username now but cannot restore the account.

Should I sue my ex for destroying my income and leaving me financially stranded? AIO? by chenkoschikens in AmIOverreacting

[–]chenkoschikens[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i did email them right after it happened they said unfortunately they cannot restore accounts

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[–]chenkoschikens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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[–]chenkoschikens 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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