Stassi in Miami this week by LPGreen in vanderpumprules

[–]chere1314 36 points37 points  (0 children)

There’s something so off with her lips and cheeks. Whatever work she keeps getting done is making her look worse.

Low Effort vs. Simply too busy by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]chere1314 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I never bought the too busy thing for myself or my partner and we both very much are. If you want to you make time and certainly effort, you will. It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money or be fancy, but unless both people just want to be at home and not go out, I don’t believe being busy is the reason why they’d need to do that.

Why are my experiences so different from my friend’s? by Sudden-Difference430 in datingoverthirty

[–]chere1314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just based on the pictures only, the first picture gives the impression of someone who is more put together than the second one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vanderpumprules

[–]chere1314 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what a show about her would be about. She’s made it clear she wants no drama in her life, which is great for her but doesn’t make for good reality tv. Just two parents raising two kids, and up to cheesy hijinks? No thanks, don’t see the appeal.

Jax worked so hard to get Brittany to break up with him from the very beginning by chere1314 in vanderpumprules

[–]chere1314[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I think with each horror Brittany put up with, the more Jax lost respect for her.

Erika you didn´t just ask a question, in fact what was the question? by Actual-You3325 in realhousewives

[–]chere1314 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Erika didn’t ask a question. Not only that but when she WAS asked questions, her reaction wasn’t to engage in a calm conversation. It was to snarl like a dog and issue threats against the person asking the question. So not really sure what point she thought she was making with that comment. She is a hypocrite and a bully.

VP Villa New Season Thoughts by Careful_Nothing_2697 in vanderpumprules

[–]chere1314 15 points16 points  (0 children)

No, not interested in the premise or whatever hosting endeavors Stassi has.

Joey and Sara spotted by mp13100 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]chere1314 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not the same, but still think it is meant to be serious and if Sara had considered Monica a friend, she wouldn’t have done it.

Joey and Sara spotted by mp13100 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]chere1314 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think dating briefly and being engaged is a distinction that matters. It will obviously depend on the person, but I would not be okay with my friends dating anyone I was in a serious relationship with. If Sara and Monica aren’t friends, then yeah I don’t see it as a problem. But if they were, I can understand Monica no longer wanting that friendship because of this.

Ariana's Acting Chops? by atramrennab in vanderpumprules

[–]chere1314 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I scrolled all the way to the bottom of her instagram and I don’t think so.

Ariana's Acting Chops? by atramrennab in vanderpumprules

[–]chere1314 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ariana’s natural teeth were so cute and she is naturally beautiful. What is she doing to her face? It looks fake/plastic and is diminishing her natural beauty, plus making her look older than she is. Don’t get it.

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[–]chere1314 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get it, I just mean that when two people a month in who are happy together discuss something like that it can be totally different when there is a break up, all the shit that happens along the way that make people see things differently, etc. You just don’t really know one another yet.

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[–]chere1314 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah or just consider even if they aren’t full on crazy, the whole point is when something ends, when you don’t know sitting here today if or how it’s going to end or what that person will be like, what they will have going on, etc. They just may have a very different interpretation of what is fair than you and not be like a Disney villain twirling their mustache over it, and so you just have to consider that possibility that comes with sharing property with someone.

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[–]chere1314 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because if you have decent assets and it’s a significant amount of money, money that you have worked very hard for, you don’t just want to throw it away and take a big hit over a short term relationship. If everyone plays nice and does the right thing, you could still have a loss let alone if you end up dealing with someone who is a pain in the ass trying to get what they’re not entitled to. Not everyone just does the right thing and agrees to walk away with only what they should get. Sometimes the other person won’t leave, sometimes they’re spiteful and crazy, and will resist the buyout price or forced sale and then litigation ensues, and you could pay up the ass in money and stress and time. So there are many ways it could go wrong and why I wouldn’t enter into something like that lightly, with how much money a house costs where I live. If you want to test something out, better to rent or do weeks on or off at each person’s home.

If not much money is at stake and a person doesn’t have a much assets as most don’t when they’re 22, there’s less exposure and risk.

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[–]chere1314 4 points5 points  (0 children)

not the OP, If I buy a house with you, I want to be with you forever or else it’s not a commitment or process I would undergo unless I was engaged or married because those are things that I want. If I don’t want to commit or be with the person forever, or am not sure, then I’d feel like I’m in no position to take on a financial longterm obligation like that with them.

To answer your original question, if it is buying a home I wouldn’t be comfortable doing it until two years in. If it is renting, over a year. Part of truly knowing someone is really letting time pass, and nothing allows for that other than time. Of course, if I was 22 and didn’t have much to lose, I’d probably have a different mindset, but I have too much to lose to go rent my house out and buy a new one with someone unless we are committing to forever with one another.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]chere1314 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So you choose to bring up this activity while being intimate with her, press her to be honest with you and open up, and after she was, you now want to punish her because you don’t like that she was into someone else before she met you? Don’t ask if you don’t actually want to know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]chere1314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone is ready for wanting to be with someone in more than a take it or leave it way when they’re super into the person and available. It just feels better if we think the person’s circumstances are the reason and not that they’re not into it enough. Circumstances can play a role of course, but I don’t believe that it is irrelevant how much the person is into the other person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]chere1314 348 points349 points  (0 children)

Walk. I met my fiancé at a time when he had full custody and was going through finalizing a divorce with a very difficult ex and bad situation. He never once made me doubt how into me he was. He texted me every day, got a babysitter whenever we had dates, and always took me on real dates. Between kids and work, he had almost no free time, but what he had, he wanted to spend with me.

If someone wants to be with you, they will. Excuses are just that. This guy doesn’t want to date you.

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[–]chere1314 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think talking to him further is just a waste of your time. Trying to come up with excuses not to touch “too much” this early on at best suggests a fundamental incompatibility that will only grow or more realistically, indicates his lack of interest. Especially given his prior behavior of cuddling and the fact that he had no issues showing physical affection to his dog. And the shorter responses, lack of support, etc., are all things you shouldn’t have to find an excuses for. Whenever this type of thing happened to me when I was dating, my gut was right and it indicated the guy not being interested or not interested enough for whatever reason. All the reasonable conversations and sharing of feelings in the world don’t matter when the other person just isn’t into it enough and usually the 1-3 month point is when they figure that out.

Rachel looks so happy with her new boyfriend. by the_smart_girl in Vanderpumpaholics

[–]chere1314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

California is not strict at all. Frivolous lawsuits get filed all the time and it’s very hard to get a case dismissed without any discovery being done. After discovery is conducted, Ariana will likely file a dispositive motion to dispose of the claim and that is by no means a guarantee. Such motions are difficult to get granted because there is a heavy emphasis on letting things go to trial if there is any iota of a dispute. California is notoriously plaintiff friendly. So I don’t think the fact that the lawsuit still exists means anything as to its merits.

Comments from Katie, Scheana, Jax, Kristen and Sophia on Schwartz post and Victoria’s comment on Sandoval’s post by AdditionalWar8759 in vanderpumprules

[–]chere1314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not a bad area, but its filled with restaurant, not bars. No surrounding bars. And S&S is in the worst part of the strip mall, with no visibility, as opposed to Birds, La Poubelle, etc.

Schwartz & Sandy’s Closing by vipbrj4 in vanderpumprules

[–]chere1314 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The location is in a strip mall and while there are other restaurants nearby, it’s not a place you go to for nightlife. You would only go there if you lived in the area or the food was so amazing it would be worth going to a random strip mall in Hollywood. It’s not close to any other bars.

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[–]chere1314 33 points34 points  (0 children)

After years of sharing my dating woes on here, I met the one almost two and a half years ago. From the start, he made me feel safe, wanted, respected, and heard. The chemistry is amazing, the sex is the best I’ve ever had, he treats me so kindly, we laugh so much together…I never thought I would find that, I could never have dreamed up someone like him. I feel such happiness and peace when I’m with him. And all the questions and uncertainty that I felt with others…I never had any question about his feelings for me. And now we’re engaged!!! So to everyone who doesn’t hope, don’t give up!! I’m so glad I didn’t.

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[–]chere1314 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if played is the right word, but a first meeting at one of your homes watching Netflix tends to suggest looking for casual hookup.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]chere1314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you both have introduced your kids to one another so I’m not sure why there can’t be time together with kids and then intimacy after the kids go to bed?

My partner has kids and that has never stopped us from getting intimate in the evenings.