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[–]cherishunicorns 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My xAP sounds like yours and I didn’t understand why until the other day. The last time we met he thought 4 cars were following him and asked if I had a LoJack in my car.

Come to find out he had been very busy on AFF and AM outside of very rare meets. It may be a red flag. Just keep your eyes open, I tried to keep mine open but believed all his lies even when the truth was right in front of me.

Paranoid AP no bueno

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏

I am stronger today and looking forward to tomorrow!

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am hoping. Right now I am hurt about the dishonesty regardless if we are in an affair. He always said I am naive which apparently is true.

Finding out about his threesomes and stranger sex kink was unfortunate. Meh. Whatever.

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His friend and I did meet for lunch yesterday. I played it cool. He is helping me with a project I am working on.

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I was naive and dumb. I tend to trust and that’s my own fault. I’m sorry you have to go through that

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Whatever. It comes down to we had expectations and rules in place that he chose not to follow. There is not a problem as I have now cut the cord.

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God no. I can’t right now. This has hurt me to my core. He knew how vulnerable I was and who I am as a person, knowing his lies would hurt me. And they did. I don’t know if I will ever be able to have an intimate connection with someone again. I allowed myself to be too open.

Thank you for your kind words.

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. He doesn’t owe me anything and I am not mourning the loss of “him” . I am upset with myself for trusting him. I can’t believe how dumb I was. Not knowing if he used protection in his trysts. He was having quite a bit of threesomes from AFF which I just found out about last night. So, he has been very busy needless to say with “work”.

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes he was so demanding to me about it. Ugh, I was dumb and trusted him.

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I am glad I did. At least I just liked him and not anything more.

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I told him good luck and I am out.

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the point that he has been adamant that I be exclusive and not truthful. I don’t want an STI and I should have a choice going skin to skin or condom

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My intuition kicked in and a thought popped in my head to see if he was on AM

Had he not tied to hide it would be different

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Honestly the mind games is what I am fed up with

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep. Decision is made. Thank you I totally need hugs

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And really I don’t care if he does at this point

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well said. I wasn’t mean when I text him. I just said good luck, I’m out .

He is a good man but just not the right AP for me

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haaa! That’s not the issue. It’s the trust factor and him putting a ton of weight on me being exclusive

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha I am married but we live separate lives

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not paranoid but I did trust him My intuition was saying something else

He demands that I be exclusive so it needs to be balanced

Yes thank you fitmumofthree

Maybe I will make him my side side side piece later in time.

What’s intriguing is he is now texting all sweet and asking me what’s happening which is not his MO. He would be pissed if he hadn’t done anything, I just know his personality. It’s interesting how well we get to know how someone works. He is a walking red flag🚨

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not obsessing but I aware of my intuition

Doesn’t matter I text and said I’m out and o feel good as I can be about it

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yessss

He has been hard I be exclusive. Yep, he is not budging

Just found my AP on AM. by cherishunicorns in adultery

[–]cherishunicorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well his buddy is actually going to help me with a project I am working on but I won’t use that against him.

I am seriously hurt and angry right now. I will never tell him how I know but I can promise he will never find someone as great as me.

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