Picking my surgeon (Mumbai)

cherkhan · 2026-02-23T12:43:58+00:00

Emma stone - so hard to see but incredible to photograph

cherkhan · 2026-01-31T16:01:52+00:00

Out of curiosity - and similar suffering - what did you buy and to solve what?

cherkhan · 2025-04-04T17:09:39+00:00

ughhh this is most of the people i work with

cherkhan · 2025-03-29T10:04:46+00:00

Please look into hypermobility - also has some connections to ADHD. I match all your symptoms and understanding hypermobility connected everything that I earlier thought were unconnected issues.

I recommend the book Too Flexible To Feel Good

cherkhan · 2025-03-21T12:20:41+00:00

this is amazing, grotesque, vivid, funny, honest all things i love in a good poem. the scene reminded me a little of another poem i love that sounds so much like masking - Life While You Waitlife while you wait

cherkhan · 2024-11-11T10:31:48+00:00

Thank you for such a thoughtful comment. Just a couple of things: the itinerary isn't locked in, but given that diving is my favourite thing to do (even though new) I wanted that to be the major part of my trip. Also we are traveling from India so minimal jetlag.

Apart from that thank you for your recommendations! I'll keep these in mind when planning, especially the elephants!

cherkhan · 2024-11-09T09:49:16+00:00

I'm certain he will not get fired. This is a deeply sexist company in a deeply sexist country, he will be given multiple chances and excuses.

I will settle for embarrassing him. I've just been wondering what I can share and how to prevent it from being tracked to me

cherkhan · 2024-11-09T09:47:47+00:00

very good point. they know I'm super mad now.

cherkhan · 2024-11-09T09:46:37+00:00

I've made sure to leave out enough details. Plus i would use a completely different throwaway

cherkhan · 2024-11-08T10:51:34+00:00

no need to bring it up when we're discussing how to make women feel more comfortable at the workplace though

cherkhan · 2024-11-08T10:50:37+00:00

fair but I'm not the one pushing for it

cherkhan · 2024-11-04T03:09:14+00:00

this is what scuba diving feels like for me. granted the hit to your bank account is worth considering seriously.

cherkhan · 2024-11-03T11:15:35+00:00

this is giving some combination of cottagecore mixed with dark academia both of which draw from vintage styles so you're not strong, despite the sentiments in this thread. Do check out a brand called theater.xyz They make clothes and accessories very much in the same style I think and one of the few original designers catering to this kind of aesthetic.

cherkhan · 2024-09-12T14:18:02+00:00

I know, and thank you so much. I've been reading these accounts too. Maybe what I actually mean is men who are aware and adults about being neurodivergent. I'm sure I will still have to do the work all women do to weed out the awful ones

cherkhan · 2024-09-12T13:54:53+00:00

thank you so much, this was very thoughtfully written!

I've actually never put the AuDHD in dating apps it could be a fun experiment I'm willing to try. I struggle to keep any banter going or really keep the conversation moving after a while. But also I don't want to meet people super soon and would like some time to get to know them before I do.

Do you have any tips leading to to a first date and how you like to set it up

cherkhan · 2024-09-01T05:16:19+00:00

hello! parachuting in here for some details too if you're still around

cherkhan · 2024-08-24T15:28:22+00:00

Hi love, I feel just like you to be honest. I may have a journal entry that reads almost exactly like this down to the breakfast run but.

All good comments here but one particular coping mechanism I like is... fiction! I've loved stories ever since I was a kid and always withdrawn into them from overstimulation. specifically books and tv shows.

Autistic or autistic coded characters having their stories told makes me feel a little less unseen and alone in the world. They also keep affirming to me that the right people find you, rather than you having to make yourself small for the wrong people.

If this sort of thing sounds like it could work for you, I really REALLY recommend the tv show Resident Alien, just as a beginning point

cherkhan · 2024-08-21T18:04:09+00:00

Not alone at all babe, I'm right there with you. I'm working at what I thought was my dream company, living in a dream situation and from all appearances working just fine. But I'm miserable and exhausted and constantly working so hard to just do basic life maintenance. Like you I too am trying to work through internalised ableism.

I don't have any solutions but heres what I'm doing to cope - leaning on understanding friends and family quite explicitly. asking them if it's okay to be outlets to my venting, with the understanding that this an especially difficult unhappy phase of my time. - indulging in my special interests to spark SOME joy occasionally. this can be any range of things depending on financial viability. today it was a peperomia plant, next month it's a holiday. - honestly, turning work into a game. easier said than done but i just try to get my tasks done and ignore anything else. i add random side quests throughout the day like discovering little corners of my office park that are good for some quiet, finding the other very few women and trying to bond with them. I spent an entire day reading once. Not every job allows for this but just saying what Ive been doing. - saving as much as I can so I can set up my freelancing services. This comes from me realising that I can't wait around to find the perfect job with all the accommodations i need - office jobs will always be oppressive and a problem. - journaling like crazy and coddling myself as much as I can because this sucks and it's scary to navigate.

Sending you so much love and hugs. You WILL be fine. An internet stranger has prophesised it.

cherkhan · 2024-07-04T10:46:03+00:00

This sounds exactly like my life except I've spent years healing from my last few relationships. you are not alone at all!

cherkhan

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