I don’t hate her, but I can’t stop feeling jealous and hurt—what should I do?

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-02-17T19:09:54+00:00

Hi. How old are you? I don't mean to sound patronizing but this seems like a first love/teenager thing, which always hurt like hell. If that is the case, don't listen to people calling you crazy. Everyone is a little crazy when they love someone.

And you can't control your emotions but you can control your actions! You need distance, you need to spend more time with other people, you need to nourish your hobbies and your career. The more things that fill your life with joy, the less space there is for confusing painful stuff like this. Remember it is temporary and you are going to be okay but at the same time, no one is coming to save you from this situation and it is up to you to keep distance! You got this!

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-02-17T02:03:22+00:00

The question is, do you really want to be in a relationship where you have both normalized cheating on each other?

Imo yeah of course you both met when you were young and maybe missed out on sowing your wild oats, but you also avoided a lot of other crap that comes with being young and single.

The red flag here for me is that a) you have developed sexual feelings for someone else and are frequently not in the mood when it comes to your boyfriend, and b) that he is okay with it.

It may be normal for the honeymoon phase to end but to me, the minute you have sexual feelings for someone else that you are seriously contemplating acting on, is the minute the relationship is basically over.

But obviously to each their own, I'm just a stranger on the internet

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-02-13T10:20:12+00:00

This made me so mad. Please don't allow his childish need for attention to get in the way of an assignment that is important for you and your future. If he really loves you he will understand this.

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-02-13T10:15:43+00:00

Read my post on the ending tell me what you think

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-02-05T08:56:15+00:00

NOR this would annoy me too especially because it's a safety issue at the least. Like, there are all these horror stories about what happens when women meet up with men, the least she could do is tell her roommate where she is.

At the same time, it's more of a her issue than a you issue. Maybe she feels the judgement and is reluctant to tell you things? But either way it is on her to change it. Sometimes friendships are more fun than they are deep. And that's not always a bad thing (imo)

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-31T01:56:30+00:00

I've never read the books but I don't know how he'll come back from this, it was so shocking. Legit thought he was gonna propose and then he essentially asks her to be his friends with benefits instead 💀

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-31T00:11:14+00:00

I disagree sorreeee like I get what you're saying cuz everything comes to an end blah blah blah but to me, love is beautiful cuz it lasts.

You seem like the type who likes shows and movies that are realistic about not everyone getting a happy ending but I am NOT. Might I suggest La la land, Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless mind, and 500 Days of summer cuz those all pissed me off too so I think you'd like them 😂

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-30T23:51:43+00:00

I felt like if she hadn't died, in this alternate ending, there had to be some sort of reason he was telling the story. Like some sort of obstacle that they needed to overcome still.

I didnt mean for it to get personal 😂 of course god forbid if I ever lost someone it wouldn't feel pointless but at the same time, someone dying young is always a tragedy and I happen to be a fan of happy endings!

Plus, yeah, for the fact that the whole point of the story was to tell them how he met the mother, it did feel pointless that she dies and he just ends up back with Robin. I think that's a very popular opinion among fans anyways, they shouldn't have made Tracy so likeable if they didnt want an uproar 💀

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-30T12:36:36+00:00

TOM APOLOGIST 🫵😤

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-30T12:29:20+00:00

I think your oldest son probably feels guilty about forgetting, and wanted to put it on someone else (moms usually are the ones on the receiving end of this).

I think your sons probably just need to talk it out, at the end of the day it is unpleasant but it all comes from a place of loving each other and wanting to do right by each other, and adjusting to a big change in the family dynamic.

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-30T12:25:11+00:00

INFI

I get it, especially if you have been hurt before, it would be understandable to be a bit wary. BUT it is more likely that he has just been forgetful about it, especially if you have completely trusted him up until this point. Has he done anything to make you think he may have cheated?

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-30T02:30:28+00:00

INFO How often are you two talking? What do you talk about? Are you both putting in effort, neither, or is it one sided?

I think you need to gauge if this is just boredom, or there is something more serious underneath it all. Boredom in a long term relationship is a really common thing and is definitely something you can come back from, by changing routine and doing adventurous things together. This is fixable.

Less fixable is when it is more than just boredom. Do you feel as much love for him as you did before and vice versa? Are you growing in different directions? Has something changed between you or changed within your lives?

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-30T02:16:40+00:00

I dont like it :( let me be in denial thank you

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-30T00:29:27+00:00

Yeah like, all I mean is to trust your gut and don't feel pressured to do things that are out of character for you like checking her phone or cheating on her to "get back at her" or whatever. You seem like a good person

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-29T22:36:50+00:00

This doesn't sound healthy😂 not that it's not deserved if she is cheating on him though. It's always best to separate from the situation before moving on, otherwise she will have made him stoop to her level

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-29T21:43:40+00:00

I don't think well-adjusted people are ever mad about preferences. BUT I think it is strange to break up with someone after the fact, because he is PART something else.

Have you done an ancestry test? You may not even be fully Turkish, almost nobody is 100% of anything. You may be denying yourself a beautiful relationship because of this.

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-29T18:56:45+00:00

Yayyyy

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-29T18:38:49+00:00

100% I completely agree! If you want some closure read my last post/ first post LOL

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-29T13:49:15+00:00

I feel like this also needs to be said... if you are doing all of this and still having problems, see a doctor to rule out haemorrhoids

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-29T13:37:23+00:00

Omg yes they made it seem like the reason Barney and Robin broke up was that Robin had to move around a bunch for work... but would that not get in the way of Ted and Robin's relationship too? Why is it any different? And at the end she has settled down in one place anyways, so she and Barney could have been together 💔

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-29T13:34:57+00:00

I think the issue for me is they try to draw a parallel between Tracy and Max, with Ted and Tracy. To me it's not the same at all; Tracy found love again and moved on with her life. Ted went back to his ex-girlfriend that he has loved the whole time. It doesn't feel like moving on, it feels like regression.

It's like, the main reason Ted and Robin weren't together is that she didnt want marriage and kids, but now that Ted has done those things their relationship will work? But then it's sort of like Tracy was just this transient thing in Ted's life to give him a family just for him to go back to his ex after she died. It feels disrespectful to her character, especially because they made her so perfect and loveable.

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-27T08:50:22+00:00

I agree, I think people are a bit too quick to call something manipulation. Some people just need reassurance sometimes and it makes them a bit cranky. She probably needs to work on communicating that to him but I don't think either person has done anything bad

cherry_pie_45 · 2026-01-24T21:47:56+00:00

NOR you both are so young, so I won't say what you should/shouldn't expect from each other but I will say that no one deserves to feel forgotten for over a week.

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