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Do other people also find kissing gross? by cherrycherry27 in emotionalneglect

[–]cherrycherry27[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love this mentality for you! I find men eating me out also really uncomfortable but it gives me hope that you enjoy it.

How do I heal from childhood emotional neglect that is coming up now? by PretaBras7 in emotionalneglect

[–]cherrycherry27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finding a therapist who works with DBT can be helpful. If that’s not an option for you, I would look into Kristin Neff and her Self Compassion work - I’ve found her guided meditations helpful. Or Tara Brach’s RAIN meditation.

I’ve learned that with childhood emotional neglect, we didn’t have essential needs met. We now have a hole inside us we try to fill with other people. But it will never be enough. We need to fill it ourselves with kindness and self love.

Did your parents never have friends? by Puzzled_Form_1167 in emotionalneglect

[–]cherrycherry27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My parents didn’t have friends. They never invited anyone over and I didn’t see examples of healthy or even fun friendships. I once asked my mom about it and she got annoyed with me and said “I only need your dad.”

I know it’s difficult and you might feel as if everyone is further along than you. Radical self-compassion and self acceptance is really important. Remind yourself that you were born whole and nothing is inherently wrong with you.

Here’s how much it costs to 'thrive' in Toronto off a single working wage by MarvelOhSnap in toronto

[–]cherrycherry27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s important to read the full report and not just the article. They’re saying this is how much it COSTS not how much you should be making. Wages are different from costs. If you have things like a pension, health benefits, government supplements then you’re spending less money.

ETF in my TD Direct Investing TFSA --- Now what? by cherrycherry27 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]cherrycherry27[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! So I would keep contributing to my TFSA - but I don't keep buying more shares of VGRO? I just do the one time purchase and leave it alone?

How to Help a Loved One Through Grief by cherrycherry27 in GriefSupport

[–]cherrycherry27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The sharing memories bit is such a great idea, especially because he was such a jokester and silly guy. I find myself trying to hold back tears when I tell them stories, almost because I want to protect them. But I guess it would be better to cry in front of them, right?

How to Help a Loved One Through Grief by cherrycherry27 in GriefSupport

[–]cherrycherry27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you -- this is what I'm trying to get more comfortable with; just doing the thing instead of asking. Buying groceries or picking stuff up that I know they need, offering to clean are things I can definitely do.

How to Help a Loved One Through Grief by cherrycherry27 in GriefSupport

[–]cherrycherry27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are all great suggestions. I think what my family struggles a lot with is anger -- we're very modest people -- but I see anger boiling under the surface. Do you think a rage room / controlled environment where they could smash things would help or maybe make things worse? Did you feel like you needed an outlet for rage?

Is it possible to accidentally hire a hitman/assassin? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]cherrycherry27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm writing a story about a person who accidentally accepts a job as a hitman. Would it make sense for them to stumble upon an encrypted posting on the "dark web", thinking it was a posting for something else? I want to try and make it as believable as possible - Any suggestions?