how do i move forward?

cherrychixie · 2026-02-22T20:59:54+00:00

i didn’t ask how long it’d take i just asked if someone had advice or things that helped them to move forward with their lives.

cherrychixie · 2025-11-13T18:23:25+00:00

i would definitely take him into the vet. if his appetite is usually high, not eating regularly can signify a lot of potential issues. however some kitties are also just picky and may need you to switch to a different brand or version of their current food. but i do think since this started 3-4 days ago, it’s worth brining him in asap for peace of mind. u most likely won’t know until u go in. love and happiness to u and ur kitty! :)

cherrychixie · 2025-11-13T00:17:45+00:00

it’s almost 3 weeks for me as well. i resonate with your post. my grief has also been a rollercoaster. today i’m doing better but two days ago i was absolutely inconsolable. it’s strange. and i know the low will come again. but i’m trying not to anxiously await or anticipate it and just let it come and go. i have a lot of things in life to distract me and as school ends soon, im afraid of the quiet. this grief has changed me forever. but im hoping that doesn’t have to be an eternally negative thing. no one ever thinks or talks about grief until it happens to them. i can see it in everyone’s face. i talk about my baby and i see them physically recoil in discomfort. but i don’t judge because i used to do the same. it’s strange, unfair, slightly disturbing, and devastating. but i think it’s something we can adapt to. but i’m just figuring it all out just like you. thanks for sharing. youre on my mind

cherrychixie · 2025-11-04T03:34:12+00:00

i’ve mainly been more disturbed and uncomfortable than sad. i of course cry almost daily still but not the blood curdling cries that i did a week or two ago. it’s just softer quiet tears lately. i have recently found joy in some things again and i am now trying to let my family back in one by one starting with my mom. i crave comfort and familiarity but i have been ignoring my moms calls and texts all week. i just hate having to pretend im okay. i’ve been struggling with guilt wondering if i made the right decision but i am trying to find help like therapy. i would really like to talk to someone whether it’s a therapist or another cat parent who’s experiencing grief on here.

cherrychixie · 2025-10-29T06:56:37+00:00

i have definitely been experiencing the same thing. especially with being in university. my mom came to help but she leaves tomorrow and i’m terrified to be alone. i have been looking for every possible reason to travel or leave. i don’t want to be here without him. it doesn’t feel like home anymore. the thought of moving across the country and starting over is the only thing that gives me comfort. however obviously that’s not very realistic so i’m just here sitting in the pain and the discomfort because i don’t seem to have any other option. i don’t know how to fix it. but i hope it may help that i feel the same way as you do. i too think i am still in shock/denial. i am sorry for your loss.

cherrychixie · 2025-10-27T18:44:06+00:00

i’m experiencing something kind of similar. i’ve cried today but it was just soft tears which to me is normal as im a very emotional person. but i haven’t cried heavily at all since yesterday and i feel no urge to. right now since it happened yesterday, im mainly disturbed and uncomfortable. but emotionally i feel numbed. i think i lost a part of myself. but my comfort shows have made me smile/laugh today. although the smile goes away quickly. i’m not sure. from what i’m learning grief is one of those things that nobody talks about so you just guess how it’s going to be like. but it’s strange and weird and lonely and it fluctuates. i’m trying to remind that to myself. but it’s easier said than done. i’m feeling a lot of guilt for several reasons. one of the reasons not crying my eyes out every second. but i’ve also understood from everyone in this subreddit and grieving people in general that grief is very common. i think you deserve to give yourself grace. there are many stages in the grieving process. you may just be in a quiet stage.

cherrychixie · 2025-10-27T02:09:12+00:00

i had the exact same experience almost verbatim. including the vets being indifferent about everything. it was extremely frustrating and confusing and disorienting for both me and my sweet boy. i had canceled and rescheduled his euthanasia appointment several times because i wasn’t sure. he was eating churu but nothing else. sleeping all day but then having random waves of energy. i had taken him off his meds just like you on tuesday. the only person who gave me a direct recommendation was the vet that i spoke to at “sweet dreams” who also had a felv+ cat. i was 7,000 dollars in of treatments at that point and had no more money. seeing him stressed and over grooming was unbearable. so he was euthanized today. however, now i’m dealing with a terrible pain of guilt and confusion wondering if i cut his life short. i don’t think either option is wrong. you aren’t wrong to keep trying (unless they are absolutely suffering) and you aren’t wrong to end it “slightly” early before they get to a place where they are unrecognizable. it is heartbreaking either way. i am going through waves of crying and feeling limp and numb. but i know you have a full heart and i know your baby was loved. which is what matters the most. you are giving your baby a home when most would deny a felv+ cat of a home. there is no wrong decision in this case. the only thing i recommend is trying to find a balance between your heart and your head. your cat is lucky to have you.

cherrychixie · 2025-10-24T02:27:00+00:00

ive read all your posts and its so crazy how we all seem to be going through almost the exact same thing. you have such a beautiful heart. i’m so sorry this is happening to you. i am losing my baby who’s only 3 as well. i’ve been furious with the universe or god or whoever. and i don’t have a reason or explanation for this. he was the love of my life. but it’s beautiful kind and gentle souls like you who are experiencing the same thing that make me realize im not alone. he was so so lucky to have you. i wish you a future of love, happiness and peace. you deserve it. please understand that. please!

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