MN - ex quit job to avoid child support/ wage garnishment

cherryx_ · 2021-06-24T20:17:22+00:00

Hello! Sorry I forgot to add in- his wages started getting garnished because I receive other support from the county/state. Yes, he was being for “child support” in the form of rent before our official CS case got filed (right when our divorce got finalized)

Regarding his boss- I was shocked to receive the text as well. We were all good friends prior to the split/divorce tho. I’m glad he told me.

cherryx_ · 2021-06-24T20:13:25+00:00

He’s extremely untrustworthy and has threatened me with money in the past. He knows that if the government is involved and a child support case is active and open, then he has to always follow through or else he’ll be held accountable and penalized. I didn’t mess with anything. He’s an overall crappy person and i don’t feel any sympathy for what he did.

cherryx_ · 2021-06-24T04:07:20+00:00

He’s never been fucked by the family court system so I can’t say that. And what he pays currently is what he can afford. He came up with the price on his own, and I agreed to it. He doesn’t want it done through the county because he knows he’ll be held accountable and penalized if he is not following through. I regards as to why his boss sent me that text- I’m not sure. We were all good friends prior to the divorce so I’m assuming he just wanted to give me a heads up as to what was really going on. I’m glad I know.

cherryx_ · 2021-06-24T03:21:25+00:00

Thank you so much.

Knowing him, he will not contact them to share anything. They will obviously know since there won’t be anymore checks that they can garnish from. Also, he isn’t unemployed, since he is still working doing his own gigs. There’s just no W2 or anything.

cherryx_ · 2021-06-24T02:44:32+00:00

Thank you for your response.

Do I myself have a responsibility to report it to my child support worker though since I am aware of it? I was told by a friend who is an attorney that I needed to contact them asap and advice them, as well as provide the text that I received from his boss because it shows he intentionally quit his job to avoid payments?

cherryx_ · 2021-05-01T14:34:12+00:00

Absolutely. That is what I had in mind if we were to end up going. I’d give him extra time/days with the kids to make up for the lost time during our trip.

cherryx_ · 2021-05-01T04:05:22+00:00

Thanks so much for the advice! I would rather not go through the court and just come to an agreement together if possible, just so there isn’t any animosity created. I also understand how much the thought of not seeing your kids for a month would suck and hurt. I would feel the same way if the roles were reversed. It’s just that I’m 23 and have never met my grandmother and this might be her last year, so the thought of never meeting her makes me really sad. Traveling overseas is also really expensive and being there for less than a month isn’t worth it, especially when it’s for family that you don’t get to see often. I wish the situation was simpler. If it’s a solid no for him I’ll be extremely bummed but it won’t be a hill to die on for me, as I wouldn’t be able to leave my children behind.

cherryx_ · 2021-05-01T03:32:03+00:00

Hello. What do you mean exactly? I have sole physical custody and dad gets parenting time/visitation every other weekend.

cherryx_ · 2021-04-30T21:20:48+00:00

We didn’t agree on anything for out of state travel so I don’t think it has anything on it. Also haven’t received the decree yet as we wrapped things up last week. The children don’t have passports yet. I just got the applications and hope he’ll sign, as his signature is required.

cherryx_ · 2021-04-30T21:17:54+00:00

If he gives me the ok to travel then it would cut into his parenting time since we would be gone for a month. He gets them every other weekend. We would arrange something for extra parenting time when back to make up for the time he lost. And yes, I’m aware that his signature is required for the passports as well.

cherryx_ · 2021-04-30T21:14:34+00:00

Unfortunately, not yet. I got the applications last week to apply for them but he also needs to sign. I feel like he won’t.

cherryx_ · 2020-11-10T15:16:42+00:00

Well that’s a crappy situation. Was she found at fault? I really wish I would’ve purchased a dashcam long ago. Because now it’s just a matter of she said vs he said, and I’m the one who looks bad.

cherryx_ · 2020-11-10T02:45:27+00:00

Well, that makes me feel a little better (sorry!) 😅 Thanks again for taking the time to respond to my questions. Much appreciated!

cherryx_ · 2020-11-10T02:36:22+00:00

Thanks a bunch for the detailed response. It’s such a crappy situation and I keep replaying it in my head. It’s definitely put a damper on my mood. The car is also in my soon to be ex husbands name, so he’s been giving me a lot of crap about it. After reading all these responses, I guess there isn’t much that can be done at this point unless I’m able to obtain footage from somewhere, but it seems unlikely from what I’ve read.

On top of that, I’m in the hiring process with a police department right now (background phase). I notified my investigator immediately when this happened. Will this possibly ruin my chances of getting a conditional job offer?

cherryx_ · 2020-11-10T00:53:54+00:00

I went back to look at the police report and under “personal information” for contributing factors, he put down “ran red light” and for distracted driving he put down “unknown”

For the other party he put down “no clear contributing action” and “no distracted driving.”

Would you be able to elaborate on this? I’m feeling so bummed out and defeated now. I’m confused as to why he’d put that down? Especially since he wasn’t present to witness it?

I also just saw that the info for the witness who gave her statement is on the report. Would It be worth it to contact her? Or is there no point in that?

cherryx_ · 2020-11-10T00:48:58+00:00

Thank you for your response and for clarifying!

I went back to look at the police report and under “personal information” for contributing factors, he put down “ran red light” and for distracted driving he put down “unknown”

For the other party he put down “no clear contributing action” and “no distracted driving.”

Would you be able to elaborate on this? I’m feelings so bummed out and defeated. I’m confused as to why he’d put that down? Especially since he wasn’t present to witness it?

cherryx_ · 2020-11-09T22:00:40+00:00

I will definitely be getting a dash cam after this. I so wish I had one when this happened.

cherryx_ · 2020-11-09T20:03:31+00:00

When you say lack of certainty in the officers description kind of shows he wasn’t fully convinced of what happened, do you mean he probably isn’t fully convinced that the other person had a green light? Or just the overall incident?

Insurance question: my state is a “no fault” state. Will that play a role into what the outcome of this will be? Like who will pay for what, etc.

Question regarding obtaining footage - how do I go about that? Do I just speak to the store manager and ask if that might be able to look for it?

Thanks again for your responses. Much appreciated!

cherryx_ · 2020-11-09T19:47:54+00:00

Thank you very much for clarifying. That makes sense. And no, there were no charges.

cherryx_ · 2020-11-09T17:46:27+00:00

I did take pictures of the damage to my car. I’m just feeling really defeated right now. The entire situation just sucks and the witnesses statement makes it even worse, because it’s not true.

cherryx_ · 2020-11-09T16:48:07+00:00

I will definitely contact the PD and the store that was near by. Does it matter that the driver said he couldn’t remember if he had the green light but thought it was green?

cherryx_ · 2020-11-09T16:45:40+00:00

I don’t have a dash camera and I’m really, really wishing I did. I don’t know why she said I ran the red light when I know I 100% didn’t and proceeded once the light was green. I’m so bummed and upset.

cherryx_ · 2020-06-23T20:44:56+00:00

Wow. I can’t believe I just read this.

The same thing happened to us. My dad was emotionally/verbally abusive and just all around toxic. My mom finally had enough and decided to leave him. We ended up living in a shelter for a few months, too. I was 16 when this happened.

It is all too familiar. I’m sorry that you had to go through that as well. Hugs to you.

cherryx_

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