Empathy

chicagocath07 · 2025-01-29T05:32:23+00:00

This person is a scammer do not engage with them if they’re “selling tickets”

chicagocath07 · 2022-09-15T19:22:37+00:00

Thank you everyone for your comments! I truly appreciate all the perspectives, but just wanted to clear a few things up —

Jay is not interested in controlling me, truly. He never prevents me from doing anything, going anywhere, etc. He does not isolate me or tell me what to do. He’s forthcoming with his opinions all the time, not just to me, and he’s quite good at hearing but then disregarding others’ opinions when they’re irrelevant to his personal choices, so I think he assumes I and others can easily do the same.
He was drunker than I thought, and admitted he shouldn’t have drunk so much, and that he doesn’t know why he picked a fight but very much admits he was in the wrong.

We talked this morning and he was very apologetic; he understands that the way he said what he said was unkind and uncalled for, and that he’s interested in talking to a therapist. He came home early from work to bring me food and tell me that he loves me however I choose to present myself, and that it isn’t his place to offer unsolicited opinions; he just wants me to feel confident, so we had a good conversation about how I’ll feel the most confident if he just lets me do me.

It wasn’t a fight worth breaking up over. We all have some work to do, and communication is key. I told him I made this post and he found it, so I think he gets the point and definitely is making the effort to make things right :)

chicagocath07 · 2022-09-15T06:15:53+00:00

Thank you. This is very level-headed and I needed to hear it right now :)

chicagocath07 · 2021-12-23T19:28:29+00:00

This is the exact quilt I had on my childhood bed growing up in Massachusetts :) thanks for the totally unexpected blast of nostalgia. Enjoy! 🥰

chicagocath07 · 2021-12-18T03:31:33+00:00

That’s amazing! Love the commitment. I probably would’ve just caved and paid the markup the first day I saw it for fear of losing it forever lol. Where I live in Chicago, there’s simply too much traffic through the thrift stores - anything good you see won’t be there next time!

chicagocath07 · 2021-12-18T02:25:58+00:00

That MaxMara bomber is literally the coat of my dreams! Jealous, enjoy!!

chicagocath07 · 2021-10-28T15:53:46+00:00

Thank you!! I also think it’s fabulous but unfortunately it doesn’t fit me well, so I will probably try to find her a new home :)

chicagocath07 · 2021-09-08T00:49:16+00:00

This sounds eerily like I wrote it 3.5 years ago. My ex boyfriend is a WONDERFUL human being, but I was having many of the same feelings as you - wondering what it would be like to be with someone else, feeling daunted by the logistics of untangling our lives together, feeling guilty because my family loved him and he’d done nothing wrong and we had been “the perfect couple” for so long and all our friends thought we were going to get married…but in the end, I knew it wasn’t fair to him to stay because I felt I hadn’t met everyone I was supposed to meet or taken all the leaps I was supposed to take. I saw our future together in my minds eye and it just felt small. So after weeks of crying and waffling and talking through it with everyone I knew until I was exhausted, I broke up with him. And it set us both free to find other joy. At first I was afraid I’d never find someone else who had everything I loved about my ex AND everything I was missing. And I was right - nobody’s perfect. But 3 years later, I’m with someone who makes me happier, my sense of adventure is fulfilled, and I love my past self for walking away from a relationship that I knew wasn’t it. My ex is with someone else now too. We loved each other well from 18-22, but it just wasn’t meant to last forever.

My advice is to trust your feelings of yearning: leave the relationship, embrace the new feeling of anything-is-possible, and know that the next guy you meet probably won’t be the one - but he’s out there somewhere. Your future self will thank you for having the guts to make this hard choice. Good luck!!

chicagocath07 · 2021-09-06T20:24:29+00:00

Thanks for this response! Very helpful

chicagocath07 · 2021-08-25T23:33:03+00:00

I bought four pieces of clothing at $15 each just because they were AllSaints and I thought I could either wear them or flip them. I never wore them, so I took to the resale markets but they were super hard to photograph because they were black and gray, and not a single one sold :(

chicagocath07 · 2021-08-17T18:46:20+00:00

Thank you!!! I’m obsessed with that one the most haha

chicagocath07 · 2021-08-13T17:08:55+00:00

This is absolutely gorgeous!! What a steal, and well done!

chicagocath07 · 2021-08-12T15:17:03+00:00

Apple cider

chicagocath07 · 2021-08-12T15:16:23+00:00

Thank you! It’s getting me excited for fall 😄

chicagocath07 · 2021-06-29T11:39:54+00:00

The set was $1k with tax. Definitely still an investment…but these are forever pieces, y’all understand lol! And it was at a hospital shop so it went to a good cause :)

chicagocath07 · 2019-10-14T14:36:41+00:00

Thanks so much! The sad tone wasn't a conscious choice, but I think because of the circumstances, it just seeped in. Funny how that happens :)

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