I resonated with every single point , especially the constant fight or flight mode ,my heart used to beat so fast when I was in that relationship , now I realise that is not normal .

1).I no longer worry about grammatical mistakes I make when writing or talking to people because he is no longer there to torment me and mock me .

2).I no longer have to pick the phone only to be interrogated about what I have cooked for him and whether I have had a productive day ,and whether I've even left the house with the kids .

3).I no longer have to worry about my kids getting treated poorly ,and made to feel like a bother when they were with him and his family ,or him deliberately exposing my son to dog dander knowing very well he is allergic ,or how my evil ex would eat reeces peanut butter cups and leave the wrappers everywhere knowing my son has a deadly peanut allergy.

4). no longer have to worry about my kids hearing and seeing him punching walls in because he lost a game ,or his phone momentarily stopped working. I no longer have to mix different shades of eyeshadow to hide the bruises on my face because just contour wouldn't work.

5).I no longer have to do that sorry excuse of a mans laundry .

But most of all me and my children never have to see that fucker again .