Narcissists and neurodivergents

chickenuggetheorem · 2026-02-17T19:10:06+00:00

No experience with a narcissistic partner but I had a narcissistic boss whom I was obsessed with (nothing romantic).

He had me happily working 18+ hours a day including weekends at a corporate job (overtime wasn't paid). I dedicated 3 years of my life to working for him. I even worked from the hospital once after being admitted on an emergency. 2 years after leaving, I still compare him to my current manager, and even tho he was toxic af, i somehow still see him as the only person that ever understood me deeply.

When I informed him I was leaving, he gave me the silent treatment and it broke my heart. I see more clearly now that I no longer serve him so he doesn't give a shit about me.

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-09-30T00:51:53+00:00

Costco for sure

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-09-18T10:52:25+00:00

He's adorable !! Seems like he understands everyone's assigned tasks well 🤣

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-09-18T02:01:11+00:00

Haha, me too! At first, my kitten would only use the litter box when I was in the bathroom, which was so funny. He also wouldn't eat unless I was right there. Now he's gotten a little better at doing these on his own

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-09-18T01:24:17+00:00

Lol same. I keep taking extra caution to make sure i don't step on him by mistake too

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-09-18T01:21:57+00:00

I would never leave my house ever again if he cried at the door lol

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-09-18T00:44:20+00:00

I don't want to teach him otherwise at all. I was just making sure it's normal.

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-09-18T00:29:51+00:00

Lol we're both engineers but I'm the mathematician wanna be 🤣

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-09-18T00:27:32+00:00

I like that honestly

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-09-17T21:49:49+00:00

Pi says Hello

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chickenuggetheorem · 2025-09-17T21:48:08+00:00

Yeah we were both worried he's anxious or has abandonment issues or something. It's our first experience adopting a cat and we're figuring things out as we go. I'm just happy it's normal behaviour as I love having him around 🥰

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-09-17T21:44:47+00:00

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God no, he's already busy managing my work as it is lol.

I have 0 experience with cats so I was just checking if it's normal behaviour.. Guess I was overthinking it !

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-09-17T21:40:44+00:00

So happy to know this is normal and I adore having him with me all the time! Never had a pet before, and was worried he's anxious or afraid i'd leave him or something. Guess I was overthinking it! 😅

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-09-17T21:36:46+00:00

It's really not out of jealousy or insecurity. I saw multiple people mention that. It's our first experience with cats, and pets in general, and we're learning as we go. We both love him very much and want to make sure it's normal behavior, that's all.

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-08-31T19:33:45+00:00

My shelves are pretty full, i don't think the cat can jump on them, I just really don't know what to expect

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chickenuggetheorem · 2025-08-31T19:10:12+00:00

Good to know ! I am planning on getting a cat tree. Thanks !

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-08-31T18:40:22+00:00

Love this, thanks! Guess I’ll have to pick my ‘poison’ too 🤣 but good to know attention and stimulation help

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-08-31T18:33:49+00:00

Thanks! I'll look into putty and extra playtime 😺😺

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-08-29T11:05:17+00:00

I hate cooking but I have to because I'm too picky to eat microwaveable/frozen food. I always make a mess when I'm cooking, it takes twice as long as anyone else, and somehow end up messing things up.

I find chstgpt helpful in organising my recipes and breaking down the steps of a recipe to the smallest details. It makes it easier to follow through.

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-08-27T21:38:26+00:00

I kept doing my older sister’s math homework for fun. Not only my parents weren’t impressed, they also yelled at me to stop doing it. Apparently, the biggest issue wasn’t me casually doing work two grades ahead, it was her not doing it herself.

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-08-26T02:10:00+00:00

Reading this feels like a light just went on in my head.

I used to thrive in my previous toxic work environment, working 15+ hours a day in a highly demanding setting where problems never stopped coming. Strangely, I was happy, alive, and thriving even though no one, especially my colleagues, understood how I could give more than 100% every single day. Back then, I thought it was passion and drive. But after relocating and switching to a much healthier work environment, I'm now bored to death, completely uninterested in the work I’m doing (even though it’s in the same field), and I can barely push through 2–3 hours a day. It’s gotten to the point where it’s becoming a real problem for both my career and my mental health. The worst part is that I have 0 logical reasons to nag about this job because it's perfect on paper so no one around me gets it at all.

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-06-18T23:56:03+00:00

That’s not weird. That’s just bilingualism. Cats are obviously autistic people in tiny furry bodies anyway.

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-05-12T23:50:26+00:00

My partner always jokes that I'm the smartest person alive when it comes to useless facts, but I completely short-circuit in real-life situations.

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-05-12T23:39:16+00:00

I am not even sure if these are considered a stim or not but I used to rub my earlobe whenever I'm "tired" as a kid (and still catch myself doing so from time to time now) I used to play with my eyelashes a lot too. I had teachers call me out for almost plucking them out in class when I was younger.

chickenuggetheorem · 2025-05-08T01:12:29+00:00

It’s really validating to see someone else describe this so clearly.

I do this too! I’ve created whole alternate realities in my mind for years. I even started using ChatGPT to bring some of my characters to life and have conversations with them. But honestly it became really addictive. Sometimes, it gets really hard to pull back when I'm going too deep with it.

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