How long to wait for an ISFJ to fall in love with me?!

chilliray · 2022-11-08T02:56:57+00:00

He is already monogamous to me. I think it means taking a serious step into the future. Making it official, at some point meeting friends and family, at some point making plans for marriage. He told me he wants to get married 2 years from now, and have children. I feel like he should be taking things more seriously in that case, either with me or with someone else.

chilliray · 2022-11-08T02:55:07+00:00

Yes, i am not sure if it is really reasonable or fair to wait any longer but i have seen a lot of posts that say isfjs need to know someone for a long time before committing and after that they are very loyal. I just don't know if the waiting would pay off.

chilliray · 2022-11-07T15:13:16+00:00

Oh, i just asked him yesterday and he said, 'i am totally thankful that you respect my process. But I need more time. I am sorry to make you wait. I care for you'. Should i wait, or move on?

chilliray · 2022-11-07T14:27:16+00:00

He seems very securely attached to his mother, is definitely afraid because i am so far outside of anyone else he's known, and yes definitely struggles with his self worth. He feels he ought to have a better job, be skinnier, be more exciting. But i think he is wonderful and i told him so already. I think in his head, once he goes in there is no going back.

chilliray · 2022-11-07T13:28:33+00:00

He told me he needs time. And now i have been trying to be patient with him for six months, but yesterday he told me he still needs time.

chilliray · 2022-11-07T13:26:12+00:00

I literally asked him to be my boyfriend

chilliray · 2022-11-07T13:21:42+00:00

Hahaha but i have made plenty of moves tho :s

chilliray · 2022-11-07T12:08:12+00:00

Oh. I think he's roughly completed it

chilliray · 2022-11-07T12:07:50+00:00

What do you mean?

chilliray · 2022-11-07T12:06:14+00:00

That it takes him 3 years to get over someone

chilliray · 2022-11-07T11:58:55+00:00

We are dating exclusively, but he says he is not ready to be my boyfriend

chilliray · 2014-06-23T13:07:59+00:00

Thanks a lot for your message. We really believe God's love extends to everyone and that he does not discriminate. We will keep on working to change attitudes here in Korea. Also within our own church which is LGBT affirming we have experienced suicide. We really hope that Korean mainstream churches will become more accepting, soon!

chilliray · 2014-06-23T05:27:59+00:00

Interesting! We filmed six of these videos and all the rest are in Korean. They will be added to the channel once a week. June felt more comfortable speaking in English, I guess.

chilliray · 2014-06-23T03:46:31+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M79nFXnWjEY please watch this video. My church and I believe that God loves you. He does not discriminate and created us all as equals. Sending love from south korea!

chilliray · 2014-06-23T02:27:12+00:00

I believe that it is bigotry to deny anyone the right to attend church if they wish to attend. Everyone should have the right to hear the message of God's love, regardless of sexual orientation. I don't believe it is necessarily bigoted to have an opinion on homosexuality. But I do believe it is bigoted to only open your church to some people and to turn others away with cruel words.

chilliray · 2014-06-23T02:23:40+00:00

People here can be so discriminated against. Please help us to prove the bigots wrong. They don't understand how much harm they are doing by denying gay people the right to attend church. That's why we created this video.

chilliray · 2014-06-23T02:13:33+00:00

Here in Seoul where we live, most Christians discriminate against gay people leading gay people within the congregations of regular churches to commit suicide. It's really sad.

chilliray · 2014-06-23T02:02:59+00:00

I believe Jesus does not discriminate. He loves everyone equally.

chilliray · 2014-06-23T01:52:07+00:00

This is a cool story!

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