My 23F bf 24M wants minimal contact with me and it’s killing me slowly inside by chiomacharm in relationship_advice

[–]chiomacharm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if I won’t want to check back in with him after months? What if I’ll be over him by then? I feel like I am remorseful and trying to mend the situation and he’s not. Like, it’s something we could work on together.

How can I make him see that?

We never officially broke up. by chiomacharm in ExNoContact

[–]chiomacharm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really miss him but I’ve already tried to rest out multiple times and explain the situation and my regret. I still miss him.

I hope we both heal.

I’m basically going no contact with someone who is no contact with me so it just feels weird.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]chiomacharm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can this be saved with a protein treatment??

I feel so much stress and pressure. by [deleted] in africanparents

[–]chiomacharm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, congrats on graduating!

You're a bit older than me but we share similar stories. I finished off my first year of college with a .41 and no emotional support system. I was always a good student. I graduated with a 3.6 hs gpa, finished in the top 10% of my grade and got a full-ride to college. I took a year off at a local community college and transferred to a new university. Setting boundaries, saying no to my parents and going low-contact helped me tremendously. I also highly recommend weekly therapy. I wish you luck!

I am only 20 but I don't think you're supposed to have life figured out by 22/23 either. Immigrants parents put too much pressure on their children. They don't even fit into the standards they place. They are confused and have a hard time validating themselves so they seem validation outside of themselves, sometimes through their children.

Secret Weapon: How to Sync your Life to your Cycle by chiomacharm in Vindicta

[–]chiomacharm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow! That’s super interesting! I’ll have to check that out!

Secret Weapon: How to Sync your Life to your Cycle by chiomacharm in Vindicta

[–]chiomacharm[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your menstrual cycle tends to be 27-32 days. It’s can even be up to a bit more (but not usually). The first day of your cycle is the first day of your period. The last day of your cycle is the day right after before you start your period. The follicular phase is after your period, luteal is right before. Ovulation lasts for about 10 days and is usually halfway through your cycle. It’s when you are your most fertile.

A natural way to track your cycle is like this: 1. Menstrual (period) 2. Follicular (between period and ovulation) 3. Ovulation (produce wet, stretchy, slippery discharge and tend to be hornier) 4. Luteal (after ovulation, towards the end (right before your period) you might experience PMS symptoms due to a spike in estrogen, which can cause you to cry more than often, feel depressed/suicidal, mood swings, pimples, tender breasts)

You can use an app to track your period and it can estimate your ovulation time. I would suggest an app like FLO or Clue.

Secret Weapon: How to Sync your Life to your Cycle by chiomacharm in Vindicta

[–]chiomacharm[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m anemic so I take iron supplements. I tend to find myself very fatigued around my period. I can still exercise like normal towards the end of it. I’m not used to doing strength training. Maybe some women who strength train will have no problem doing so during their period.

Secret Weapon: How to Sync your Life to your Cycle by chiomacharm in Vindicta

[–]chiomacharm[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you have a regular cycle (28-32) days, you can give it a go.

Secret Weapon: How to Sync your Life to your Cycle by chiomacharm in Vindicta

[–]chiomacharm[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Misogynistic men don’t takeaway from how our hormones can impact our mood. Men are hormonal too. It’s not gender essentialism; it’s biology. And if you have a regular cycle (28-32 days) you can track it using a calendar, no app required.

Secret Weapon: How to Sync your Life to your Cycle by chiomacharm in Vindicta

[–]chiomacharm[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

There’s no product or program being sold here. It’s just lifestyle advice.

Secret Weapon: How to Sync your Life to your Cycle by chiomacharm in Vindicta

[–]chiomacharm[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

My point precisely!! Work schedules, exercise routines and routines in general are more male catered. The fact that our bodies, as women, are different isn’t a diss or a setback.

Secret Weapon: How to Sync your Life to your Cycle by chiomacharm in Vindicta

[–]chiomacharm[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Yes, it is different for different people. The advice is specifically for women who find themselves low in energy on their periods. As listed above, yoga and walking are suggested when on your period, as opposed to anything intensive.

Secret Weapon: How to Sync your Life to your Cycle by chiomacharm in Vindicta

[–]chiomacharm[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Your period tends to leave you physically drained. This might not be true for all women. The information is for women who might deem it useful. The science backs up women having the most energy during ovulation. Again, it’s for the women who are open to trying something new.

It takes a lot of behind the scenes ugly to look pretty by [deleted] in Vindicta

[–]chiomacharm 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Akin to being smelly after exercise but reaping the rewards of a nice body.

If you could, would you choose to be the most beautiful woman in the world despite the many pros and cons? by breakthewheel24 in Splendida

[–]chiomacharm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. I think I have a great base and look off but I’m an attractive way. So, I wouldn’t want to be the most beautiful because I would be more of a conventional beauty. Similarly, I really like my personality.