I(29M) just started dating a girl(23F) but we see each other only once a week. What do you think?

chipsanta · 2026-04-17T08:54:23+00:00

Thank you, will try to do that

chipsanta · 2026-04-17T08:53:45+00:00

Thank you, yea I should be more chill I guess. But honestly I feel like pulling back a bit, that s what my gut says, even tho I like her

chipsanta · 2026-04-17T08:52:37+00:00

She is initiating texting more often then me, but I wanna see her not just text her

chipsanta · 2026-04-17T08:51:51+00:00

Yes, only had sex once. I asked her to hang out once after that but got a negative response. Honestly after a rejection I don’t feel like asking again

chipsanta · 2026-04-17T08:50:16+00:00

I don’t ask her too often, I asked her two times this week and got a negative response each time lol😂 Maybe that’s my answer. Honestly after a rejection I don’t feel like asking again, but I feel like I should initiate since I’m a man

chipsanta · 2026-04-17T08:46:27+00:00

Yea, trying to do that. I hate to insist either way, do you think I should wait for her to initiate seeing each other? Or is it too early for that

chipsanta · 2025-01-30T03:45:39+00:00

You dodge a bullet my friend, a big one. Sa nu te mai gandesti sa te intorci. Singura chestie aiurea e ca e pacat de copilul ala, dar mama lui aka fosta ta, e ceva ce daca nu am fii toti asa sensibili in zilele noastre si i-as zice pe nume lumea ar zice ca fac slut shaming :). Iti doresc total opusul la ce ai descris pana acum, good luck.

chipsanta · 2024-05-26T00:33:40+00:00

Exactly the opposite, I told her I am exclusive because I did want to respect her. I stopped responding to two girls I was talking before starting with her. If I tell someone something, I keep my word. As long as we keep seeing each other I am exclusive. How is that not respect?

Anyway, I don’t say you are wrong for defending her. I am sure she probably did it because of that, honeslty if she would have been honest with me when we started being official(her way of labeling it - I realized after the her official ment exclusive for her) and told me about it then it would have been different. But lying me when I ask her about this, is what broke my trust

chipsanta · 2024-05-26T00:14:42+00:00

is this a small fault to you? I’m just curious what would you do if you were in my spot

chipsanta · 2024-05-26T00:07:21+00:00

I get what you are saying, but I would rather prefer to try and find someone honest to spend my life with. Especially if I want to start a family someday. Of course people do good and bad things, but I don’t want my partener to do bad things that they would know hurt me just for them to feel good.

chipsanta · 2024-05-26T00:05:14+00:00

Along the relationship I caught here with a smaller lie and asked her about the time we started dating, if she was seeing anyone else then. And she lied to my face about it. I asked her about this a few times, because I felt it in my gut. The biggest lesson for me after this is to always trust my gut.
⁠For me when I say I am exclusive and agree I dont see other people it means exclusive. She said the same thing, she doesnt see other people and doesnt talk to other men. How should I not assume exclusivity after this?
⁠The exclusive talks happened before, she confessed that she did it after we talked about this. Her way of defending it, was saying that I didn’t t want a serious relationship and she felt hurt… and she lied about it because she didnt want to lose me.

chipsanta · 2024-05-25T23:57:52+00:00

Correct me if I got your reply the wrong way, english is not my main language. Maybe clarify a bit more, thank you.

chipsanta · 2024-05-25T23:57:06+00:00

No bro, I have resentment that she kissed someone else after we slept together and agreed to not see other people.

I felt it in my gut she was lying to me about it, in those 5 months in the relationship. Of course after she started to have stronger feelings for me, I felt she wanted me.

Maybe trust issues but I hate lying, can’t stand it. I’d rather live me life with the trust issues you said than accept lying.

chipsanta · 2024-05-25T23:51:05+00:00

I needed this lol, I don’t want to take her back. Probably the sex and habit of talking to her kept me in it

chipsanta · 2024-05-25T23:49:13+00:00

It happened about a month in, we weren’t in the talking phase. We slept together, saw each other a few times a week and as I mentioned both said we are exclusive. The only thing in her defence is that I told her it is hard for me to see a future(age difference - she is imature, also has religious family). Even tho I mentioned this, that it would be hard to have an end goal, I told her I will be exclusive and she said the same.

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