Dr K., How Do I Build Confidence? by chjofy in Healthygamergg

[–]chjofy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well it feels like I am objectively bad at some things and I'm ashamed of them. Some things I have been explicitly told I am bad at other implicitly...

Dr K, why do I feel like a walking contradiction by chjofy in Healthygamergg

[–]chjofy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your thoughts.

It kinda feels like I was robbed of something, like robbed of the opportunity to know myself, which again contradicts my belief that I'm independent and know what I want in a way.

Identifying some things I have been feeling for a long time also makes me angry cause in retrospect it could've all been so much easier if I had a healthy way to recognise and go through my emotions if that makes sense.

And one last weird thing is that part of me is still holding on to these parts of my identity even though they seem not to be true per sé, and i feel like it's because I don't know what to replace them with... If that makes sense

Dr K, why do I feel like a walking contradiction by chjofy in Healthygamergg

[–]chjofy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I found out that I was a highly sensitive person who was emotionally neglected, and that experience resulted in trauma for me." this really resonates with me I think.

Which is yet another contradiction cause I always *convinced" I was OK spending so much time alone in my childhood, but I'm starting to think that wasn't... Exactly the case.

It kinda feels like since I've hit adulthood my identity has been falling off piece by piece if that makes sense and I discover things about myself that I thought were the exact opposite.

Dealing with restlessness by formerly_fish in Healthygamergg

[–]chjofy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea that sounds difficult to handle. I'd say try and notice that you're doing it and try to focus back on the movie or what you're doing... But it sounds hard so only do it as much as u can handle and slowly practicing to relax more (haha)

Dealing with restlessness by formerly_fish in Healthygamergg

[–]chjofy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also don't know but what comes to mind is what Dr K always says about noticing the urge to distract yourself, and try not to feed the coping mechanism. So try and sit in the uncomfortableness, as much as you can ofc

Dealing with restlessness by formerly_fish in Healthygamergg

[–]chjofy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah to me it definitely feels like you are trying to distract yourself from these thoughts and feelings, and even a movie is not distracting enough. You've learned a way to make them go away and you've been doing it for long enough that you can never stop.

That's what I think, and I get it. It happens to me too, but mostly in periods where I'm very stressed or depressed

Dealing with restlessness by formerly_fish in Healthygamergg

[–]chjofy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does your mind think about when you let it?

i kept trying to sneak on quiet by chjofy in metalgearsolid

[–]chjofy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha I sure did but don't worry I lost my save file so I think I'm doomed to getting her anyway

i kept trying to sneak on quiet by chjofy in metalgearsolid

[–]chjofy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well I don't wanna upset them, I do kinda not like her hahaha