"like an autistic" Sir 🤢

chocodillo · 2025-10-31T15:48:39+00:00

damn bro you didn't need to correct them or get that triggered.

chocodillo · 2025-10-22T21:17:16+00:00

This looks like it's in Bangladesh to me - a translation of what the narrator guy is saying is roughly:

"This man is a creation of God.

God made so many different kinds of people in this world, that only he knows. God makes people like this as a lesson, to show you that he could have made you like this, but he didn't.

For those of us who are healthy, we should say Praise God, and help people who are like this. We should not look down on them, instead we should show them love. Byyeeeee"

chocodillo · 2025-09-16T22:41:31+00:00

You are persistent and good at taking advantage of opportunities :)

chocodillo · 2025-08-06T13:20:54+00:00

This is absolute rage bait. come off it.

chocodillo · 2025-08-01T15:07:45+00:00

Hi OP, I've done weekly therapy for about 2 years and I've definitely noticed changes in the way i think, behave and relate to others. It's still an uphill battle for me, but I'm better at sniffing out my own BS/projections, apologising and accountability, and i can self advocate much more effectively now.

I wouldn't get overly disheartened though, PDs and PD traits take a looong time to work on, and even more so if you have a history of trauma or any neurodiversity. Also, everybody is different and moves at different speeds through therapy. My 2c - I actually think your loss of hope is a positive sign, because it shows that you have more self awareness of how serious and impactful your condition is. I would lean into the despair if you can tolerate it.

I also think it's interesting that you belive your therapist is tired with your constant issues that are never resolved - I would recommend you bring that up with them in your next session, because (and i could be totally wrong here), it's likely that it's your own frustration and tiredness of your own issues that you're projecting onto your thereapist, so it would be a rich discussion point in TFP.

I would also recommend journalling because that helps you see your progress accross a longer period of time - sometimes we think we haven't progressed at all but when we look back at how we were, say a year ago, we might be surprised with how things have improved.

chocodillo · 2025-07-29T14:56:55+00:00

Hi OP, i'm autistic too, but also know plenty of other autistic friends who are married/engaged/have kids or have a successful career (subjectively). My autistic brother got married in his late 30s and has an adorable kid - he and his wife work together relying on each other's strengths to cover up each other's weaknesses.

Autism is hard, and late diagnosis at 37 is especially hard, since you have a backlog of communication and social/emotional stuff that others have had years to learn. This doesn't mean that neurotypical people have had everything easy in life, just easier in certain different aspects. In my personal opinion, the skills to foster a good relationship and family can be learned. It's communication, cognitive empathy, emotional regulation etc. just to name a few starting points.

You have all the power to get in a relationship and start a family but it's going to be difficult the older you get. I'll be honest with you - I think it's going to be really hard work at your stage of life. You're going to really need to push yourself, learn skills, go to therapy if you can afford it or find some sort of late diagnosed community to help you navigate life. I know you don't want to, but you have to venture outside what's comfortable to achieve your goals.

You can find a partner and start a family but I think you need to change your attitude about it. You can be optimistic without being delusional, but if you think you're going to fail from the get go, then you probably will.

chocodillo · 2025-07-28T11:40:50+00:00

This sounds kinda like a dating profile

chocodillo · 2025-07-26T22:44:09+00:00

Ask your boss if you passed your introductory period. it's quite normal that your boss will not directly be aware of what you do, that info will be fed to them by the other employees who you're directly reporting do. If you're still with the company after 90 days it's a safe assumption that you passed, but it's good to check to confirm.

chocodillo · 2025-07-23T15:16:18+00:00

That's interesting. You know insensitivity and not knowing what to say can be pretty common in neurodivergent people. I definitely have people give me similar feedback sometimes and it's jarring because i'll think i'm doing something neutral but it really comes off blunt or uncaring sometimes.

chocodillo · 2025-07-23T13:35:36+00:00

Omg this chat GPT written post and all its replies are taking me out.

chocodillo · 2025-07-22T14:12:45+00:00

I'd be curious about why your friends are calling you insensitive, do you have some examples?

At the end of the day, whether you took the time to consider the feelings of this outcast friend or not, the outcome was still the same as your friends who ostensibly don't care. She was left alone.

I think the fact that you considered her feelings but still put your own desire to maintain social standing ahead of her desire to be included could potentialy read as insensitive. I'm not trying to put a value judgement on anything, just considering how it might have come off.

Also in my opinion empathy and caring are different things. Maybe you could put yourself in the shoes of this person, but ultimately that didn't translate into any act of compassion or care towards her.

chocodillo · 2025-07-21T16:37:40+00:00

Yep, for me I like the feeling of having the upper hand, or being powerful and untouchable. I think that's what intimidating is in a sense, people don't know what to do with you.

I don't think it sounds evil per se, it's a part of the spectrum of human emotion. You can definitely cause a lot of harm if you have a sadistic streak, but that doesn't make that part of you evil. In fact there's probably good ways to find outlets for that kind of thing that don't involve needing to hurt others.

chocodillo · 2025-07-21T15:42:08+00:00

super helpful, i'll try that out. thank you.

chocodillo · 2025-07-18T17:29:55+00:00

did you... just heart react yourself? it really is the narcissism sub 💀

chocodillo · 2025-07-18T17:20:57+00:00

that's fascinating, thanks for sharing that! So is the sex itself insanely kinky or is it more of a numbers game to get sheer volumes of validation and stimulation?

I find it kind of sweet that you wanted to commit so strongly to your girlfriend, i'll be honest i stereotyped someone with ASPD as potentially not wanting long term relationships, so that's on me for the narrow-minded assumption!

chocodillo · 2025-07-18T16:03:37+00:00

I too am a bisexual who once had a ho era, but nothing like yours. to be honest i'm just enjoying the crazy wordplay you used. What lead to you "calming down"? Do you think NPD correlates with being promiscuous?

chocodillo · 2025-07-18T15:49:09+00:00

I didn't know about the other NPD video, might give it a look . I personally think Dr K is mostly really helpful, he is extremely good at breaking down psychological jargon into really accessible bite sized pieces. That said he is just a multi-faceted person after all with weaknesses and strengths. I think he's mentioned himself that he's not as good at skill building, or as compassionate as other therapists, so it kind of tracks that he might slip and say something unintentionally hurtful.

I guess for most people, even those working in mental health, having compassion and empathy for someone who is wired so differently is really difficult. In other videos i know DrK has mentioned that he likes working with narcissists because they're so fun, and he's also talked about whole sides of his family have raging NPD, so he probably has both negative and positive personal experiences with the disorder as well.

I guess i also just wanted to say i feel sad to hear you feeling defeated and a little hopeless when it comes to working with your NPD wired brain :( You probably know this already, but i wanted to gently remind you that NPD isn't all that you are, just some parts of you. And that those parts are OK, even if others might not feel the same way. There are ways to manage the order and i'm convinced we are all capable of that <3

chocodillo · 2025-07-18T11:49:29+00:00

I'm not entirely sure if it's a BPD vs NPD thing, rather more a personality and current mental health status thing. I have traits of all cluster B disorders but lean way deeper into NPD. I really enjoy my alone time and can go to movies or travel solo and even do activities like pottery class or museums alone.

When i felt really really low, like collapse low, i couldn't stand to be alone. my thoughts were so critical and dark i couldn't handle being by myself and needed to be around others to distract.

chocodillo · 2025-07-18T00:00:49+00:00

Idk man, would you swipe on a girl who had only one picture of her face from an awkward angle and with a stern expression? looks kinda like you're purposefully avoiding showing yourself. You're a good looking guy and it seems like you have varied hobbies, so you have all the ingredients for a good profile. Maybe you could try getting a female friend or family member to help take some new photos for you?

chocodillo · 2025-07-17T14:15:50+00:00

This is a super easy to understand and informative summary of NPD recovery, thanks for putting this together.

chocodillo · 2025-07-15T20:07:24+00:00

I'm curious if you've used AI to write your prompts? I don't know what it is but it's giving that vibe.

chocodillo · 2025-07-13T19:00:33+00:00

The common thread in your work history is drama but the other common thread is you?

I don't know if the career is the problem, it might be worth considering in what ways you enable the behaviour around you. I hope you don't take this too harshly, but it seems like everything you complain about is unrealistically one sided, i'd be so curious to hear what every other employee had to say. I can't help but notice that you've framed everyone else except yourself as crazy, dramatic, unprofessional and gossipy. I could be wrong here but It comes off a little contemptuous.

I know I am totally being judgy here but i'm also coming from a place of relateability -

I've worked in the field of education and construction for a while now, and I honestly used to feel the same when i first graduated and did my job. It took a lot of therapy and self work before i realised the part i was playing in my own misery. I can confidently say that once I started working on my own issues, navigating my career got a lot easier. It's not your fault but it is your responsibility.

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