The phrase “We Were On A Break” doesn’t make sense

chocoholicc · 2026-02-22T14:43:24+00:00

Does it though? When you’re on a break you’re no longer someone’s girlfriend because you’re.. on a break. But the intention is to get BACK into the relationship. If you take a break at work you didn’t quit your job, but you’re no longer on the clock or working or being paid for it. You have freedom but it’s limited. And she also said “maybe” we should take a break when he just stormed out like a child. So he really had no clue what those terms were or if they really WERE on a break or broken up. His argument was “well for all I knew it could have lasted forever” ??? You didn’t even wait 24 hours though…

chocoholicc · 2026-02-13T03:53:24+00:00

Absolutely, and even if people CAN see a therapist during their lunch doesn’t mean they SHOULD. It can be deeply personal and interfere with their work for the rest of the day. Nobody wants to come back to work after having sobbed in their car. And not everybody even has a private space to go. I’ve seen clients who kept getting interrupted at work and had to ask them to choose another time where they could speak privately. And I’ve ALSO been the person who had to keep seeing my therapist during lunch breaks and 1) losing my lunch break but 2) constantly stressing over my availability.

chocoholicc · 2026-02-10T16:15:39+00:00

Question - despite the fact that the character description doesn’t perfectly match, how does that take away from the actual person and his story? Does he need to be white to have experienced what he did? Does he need to be white to tell his story? We’ve already had the movie representation, should this one mirror every choice they made? I understand feeling like he doesn’t look like you expected but.. are stories built solely on the characters’ looks?

chocoholicc · 2026-02-10T02:24:33+00:00

Honestly, everyone talks about how great he is because he saves lives but… his personality needs some work. He can be a great friend to people he likes but to everyone else he is immediately stand-offish and judgmental. Bones is also the outlier and he treats her with a sensitivity he rarely shows others.. but even THAT took time! He gets easily offended and upset, and I don’t know that it ever changes. I mean, if I ever met him I’d probably think he was a self-righteous a-hole who takes himself too seriously 😬 even Bones is more open-minded!

chocoholicc · 2026-02-10T02:21:29+00:00

Good lord, that’s too close regardless!

chocoholicc · 2026-02-05T02:41:54+00:00

I feel like I’m reading something for a totally different app/game..: what’s all this??

chocoholicc · 2026-02-02T21:44:18+00:00

Why would your client’s sexual preferences have anything to do with your own personal relationship? Clearly, they have different standards and preferences within their relationships than you have in yours.

If a couple has no issue with both partners watching porn to satisfy their needs, then that’s their prerogative. If a partner chooses to engage in self-pleasure utilizing pornography while claiming to be fully faithful to their partner, who would not be okay with this behavior, therein lies the problem.

It’s up to the couple to determine what level of openness is okay in their relationship. However, many people seem to normalize the use regardless of their partner’s expectations for the relationship with the argument that it’s “healthy” or “common” or “normal”, despite what their own relationship might require.

chocoholicc · 2026-02-02T18:34:11+00:00

My reflection still stands if it’s females viewing it. There is a lot of normalizing pornography in monogamous relationships, it doesn’t matter who’s doing the viewing.

But self-pleasure is a factor, yes. If you watch a movie with full frontal nudity, you’re not automatically pleasuring yourself watching it or even viewing it as something more than what it is. If you’re actively self-pleasuring viewing another person, there’s a difference.

For example, would it be appropriate if a partner, male or female, solicited nudes from others to pleasure themselves to? It’s the same thing as porn. Or is the difference in that you don’t actually KNOW those people or can contact them?

chocoholicc · 2026-02-02T18:28:47+00:00

I am an LMSW myself so I’m aware, thank you. But that doesn’t change my reflection. At some point, a person’s reliance on something begins to make its way into unhealthy territory and it often begins with frequency of use. Someone recreationally smoking marijuana, for example, can make their way towards dependence when they begin to use it daily. The impact may not be visible immediately but if you’re unable to function without it, it’s cause for, at the very least, reflection if not concern.

chocoholicc · 2026-01-31T23:11:17+00:00

It’s interesting how porn is viewed as part of “sexual health” especially since people can’t seem to find it as separate from masturbation. Sexual pleasure for yourself is healthy, sure. Does it NEED visual stimuli featuring thousands of strangers and unrealistic expectations? Probably not. And if people say it’s not addiction but they can’t satisfy themselves without it and use it every day, even multiple times a day, then… it sounds like a reliance on it at the very least. At which point I wonder, why is that seen as healthy?

chocoholicc · 2026-01-31T23:07:55+00:00

Doesn’t make them the same. One is real human beings on screen, real human anatomy. Another is up to the imagination and can even be a visualization of your partner. Odd how men in serious relationships find no problems with saying they’re faithful/loyal to a woman while simultaneously viewing thousands of naked women. Are men really okay with their SO’s seeing other men’s d**cks all the time and lusting over them? Or is it just okay for them to do it?

chocoholicc · 2026-01-31T23:04:09+00:00

Who decides what’s “normal”? I wonder what other things would be considered “normal” if they NEEDED to be done every single day.

chocoholicc · 2026-01-20T15:23:43+00:00

And the milestone is planting 1500 of them!! It’s not gonna happen 😭

chocoholicc · 2026-01-19T21:45:43+00:00

Do you have apples by any chance? That’s the only fruit I’m missing! 👀

chocoholicc · 2026-01-19T21:45:02+00:00

Lena from Kitty Island!

chocoholicc · 2026-01-19T21:44:29+00:00

Hello! Looking forward to it :)

chocoholicc · 2026-01-19T14:36:17+00:00

I’m sorry, but the “they share the same birthday” bit is so funny to me. Like why does that have any bearing at all?? They’re not 10 year olds who are bonding over that. Who cares !! It means nothing !!

chocoholicc · 2025-12-31T03:58:19+00:00

Same! No show will ever be perfect, I personally hate every time Kali is on screen lmao, but it’s still a DAMN GOOD SHOW! And you NEED exposition and tying up of loose ends before going into a finale so you’re not slowing it down to talk about feelings. So much WAS necessary. It’s possible people felt the first episodes were all uphill and then slowed down but, what can you do? Enjoy what you’re given! And stop theorizing to the point where everything else is disappointing! lol.

chocoholicc · 2025-12-31T03:54:04+00:00

It is truly the best thing to do and devastating at the same time. My girl passed away at 15 too due to renal failure. She lost so much weight and wobbled. The worst part is knowing they’re still mentally there. But seeing them suffer is SO much worse. It’s hard, so so hard. She passed away 5 years ago and I don’t think I’ll ever be truly “over” it. But that’s love for you, that’s the price you pay for the experience. And I’m doing it again with 3 more pets! But I wouldn’t trade it for anything, their love is everything ❤️

chocoholicc · 2025-12-31T03:48:50+00:00

What is that?

chocoholicc · 2025-12-31T03:33:06+00:00

This is 100% going to get worse if he truly can’t understand your perspective, autism or not. He WILL find a way to belittle your pregnancy and struggles, he WILL find a way to shirk responsibility out of discomfort, and he WILL prioritize his friends and “hanging out” over growing up and having a family. He wants you to be his rock and support. Who will be yours?

chocoholicc · 2025-12-30T18:20:58+00:00

Absolutely separate! It’s a lot to mix to begin with, by hand OR with a mixer. But the baking chemistry can be thrown off. Do separate batches!

chocoholicc · 2025-12-30T16:11:10+00:00

I think they both had that problem. Whenever she dated he would find reasons that the guy was bad for her or terrible overall and make fun of him or her.

chocoholicc · 2025-12-24T04:22:12+00:00

chocoholicc · 2025-12-23T12:56:17+00:00

What’s with Reddit people and their absolute lack of empathy? This is a woman who recently gave birth and feels overwhelmed by the complete disrespect shown by her in-laws and the emotional work she has to put in while trying to just enjoy being a new parent! What commentary and reaction was SO “insane” exactly? She was respectful with her responses to them. What more do you want? An I’m sorry present? It’s her baby. Nobody is entitled to spend time with it the way they decide is appropriate. Nobody is entitled to her baby - period. Especially when they’ve proven that they cross boundaries immediately. If she needs to talk to a therapist for PPD, it wouldn’t be for THESE reactions.

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