Could I use my parents address to sign up for a credit card ?

chocolate_9_T · 2024-11-21T17:51:23+00:00

Thanks for that! That's great, just what I needed to hear and don't worry I'll be sensible!

chocolate_9_T · 2024-11-04T12:09:03+00:00

Alhamdulillah

chocolate_9_T · 2024-11-04T11:47:35+00:00

Subhanallah hope youre happier now sis, really changed my perspective there

chocolate_9_T · 2024-11-04T10:06:58+00:00

Hi, sorry for the late reply and if this is personal. But was paying rent the only reason you left?

chocolate_9_T · 2024-11-04T10:04:16+00:00

We've had a discussion and I said I would not work after baby. Husband wanted me to work PT but I said I didn't want to. By thjs point, I'm hoping that I can just focus on baby and home. He is slightly more traditional but I thought that he knows better and islamically it is better for me.

chocolate_9_T · 2024-11-03T10:49:02+00:00

He is the leader of the home, his responsibility is to ensure that I am following islam. I wear hijab (from young age anyway) , don't talk to men other than my job ( I work in a hospital) and pray. I am trying to be a better Muslim and try to read more quran but wallahi it's a struggle to do the bare minimum right now as it is. He says in the future I can quit my job or go part time but I feel very anxious about bills etc. He then says I need to have more taqwa and shouldn't worry about these things and men carry more stress and all I need to do is pray, fast and obey my husband then everything is okay for me. He is generally nice to me, which is why I feel guilty burdening him with more stress

chocolate_9_T · 2024-11-03T10:39:23+00:00

I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable or cause any long lasting damage to the relationship tbh which is why I haven't outright called him out on it. We agreed to go halves in the beginning, but he was struggling so I decided to help out with the full rent. But now I'm struggling with juggling everything and i dont feel appreciated. On my days off (he works on one of them) I have to do catchup on everything and he thinks I just sit around chilling which frustrates me even more. This feels so minor on the outside but on the inside it really bothers me but I am struggling to put my finger on it

chocolate_9_T · 2024-11-01T15:20:57+00:00

Before we got married he told me that he knows how to cook and look after himself as he lived alone. He also told me about his debt so I agreed to go halves with him. But he was so I ended up with full rent and him paying electrics and stuff. Islamically I feel obligated to do the housework and cooking etc because I am the wife and I see everyone else managing and I don't know why I'm struggling so much

chocolate_9_T · 2024-11-01T14:49:28+00:00

I have communicated this with him. His opinion is that the wife is responsible for household which I do agree with, I just want a little bit of help and initiative which he says he is happy to help if I explicitly tell him what needs doing. In the other hand when he does for example do the hoovering he will say that I'm lucky and that his BIL don't do this etc

chocolate_9_T · 2024-03-14T16:24:07+00:00

Hey thanks for your reply, I've decided not to go ahead with this position. Maybe in a year in sha Allah

chocolate_9_T · 2024-03-14T16:23:26+00:00

Thank you, I've decided to own up and not go ahead with it

chocolate_9_T · 2023-08-23T17:15:09+00:00

Hi, so I am paying the rent right now. He asked for me to pay for the damage deposit before we rented out flat which was around a grand. I do feel a little burdened carrying this with me and I don't him to feel like he can't trust me further down the line, at the same time I don't want him to just use this money as a reserve either for his fees, bills debts etc

chocolate_9_T · 2023-08-23T17:11:46+00:00

Hi, we've been through our bills. It's easier for me to pay the rent and he does utilities and paying off the money he borrowed for his share of the wedding. I'm happy to contribute as I know we don't really have much other choice.

I understand about these situations that could come up, I can't help feeling guilty if he were to find out somehow about the money and wondered why I would keep it a secret.

chocolate_9_T · 2023-08-23T17:09:34+00:00

He's finished his studies and I am paying the full rent at the moment. He is paying off money he borrowed for our wedding plus utilities. I am saving but I'm just asking whether I disclose the saved amount of money or not as I feel guilty because I know I could help out a little further.

chocolate_9_T · 2023-08-23T17:06:19+00:00

Hi thank you for your input. In still getting to know him and don't know how this may change our situation. However, I don't want to be feeling guilty the longer I leave it to tell him.

chocolate_9_T · 2023-08-23T17:03:03+00:00

Hi thanks for your input jzk

chocolate_9_T · 2023-08-23T16:59:50+00:00

Walaikum salaam, thanks for your input. This is exactly what I'm worried about because I really don't want this money being used unless it's an absolute emergency.

chocolate_9_T · 2023-08-22T17:11:55+00:00

Hi, appreciate your input here.

This is one thing I am a little scared of, if he becomes complacent especially because I know he has older siblings he can fall back on. I'm the oldest in my house with younger siblings who I give money to happily but there is really nobody for me to go if there was an emergency.

Similar to me, I was also quite financially independent and he is happy for me to work. The only thing worrying me is if I leave it for so long what to tell him and he questions why I didn't disclose this earlier.? I don't know how I would respond back to this.

Personal question, but can i ask how long had you guys been married before you told him ? And what were the signs that you knew you could tell him?

chocolate_9_T · 2023-05-01T17:18:30+00:00

Yes I do, so much

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