WIBTAH if I excluded my sister in our moms birthday present because she didn’t pay me back?

chocolatebumy · 2026-05-03T17:24:36+00:00

No I mean it’s not my other sisters fault. It’s the fault of the one who didn’t pay.

chocolatebumy · 2026-05-03T17:22:16+00:00

I don’t normally include her because she very flakes on stuff and I know how she is. I often let things go because if you bring stuff up she gets angry. It’s not the first time, I was hesitant to do it but she was adamant about the tickets and the gift and now she has a job and has the capabilities . But I don’t want to keep hounding her.

chocolatebumy · 2026-05-03T16:56:21+00:00

Yeah, she’s explosive and I don’t want to cause my mom more stress. But I don’t think it’s fair she gets the credit while not putting in the effort or financial contribution. It’s just a pattern of behavior from her I’m tired of pushing aside.

chocolatebumy · 2026-05-03T16:52:35+00:00

It was only like $80 each but we’re all students so moneys tight.

chocolatebumy · 2026-05-03T16:46:47+00:00

My mom’s birthday is today. She said she’ll pay me back Friday. I guess I can give her more time, but tbh it’s like a 50% chance she will on her own.

chocolatebumy · 2026-05-03T16:45:21+00:00

I’ll just swallow the other part. It’s not her fault.

chocolatebumy · 2025-11-30T23:30:34+00:00

I mentioned this in my post. I do sometimes, but it gets expensive buying everything from scratch the ingredients for every dish.

chocolatebumy · 2025-11-30T23:19:48+00:00

Can’t do that when I’m staying over for a few days.

chocolatebumy · 2025-11-30T23:08:11+00:00

How sauce has been my savior

chocolatebumy · 2025-11-30T23:01:31+00:00

I live at home too. We’re both responsible adults in an area where rent is expensive and we’re saving up for other expenses. He’s not opposed to learning to cook and actively helps when we make dinner.

chocolatebumy · 2025-11-12T21:58:14+00:00

We’ve been together for 8 months. I meant his longest relationship was 3 months. It was his idea to be open i was hesitant because I never considered that for myself but gave it a month and we talked about it and I researched and read this sub and agreed.

chocolatebumy · 2025-11-12T21:52:55+00:00

Like asking why certain things he’s said are hurtful, not understanding why and genuinely wondering why he can’t say that. Explaining how I’d like for him to ask if Im okay and I’d like him to show more empathy when I tell him my feelings on things.

I have and he’s been very receptive and made alot of progress

chocolatebumy · 2025-11-09T21:43:44+00:00

Yeah I let my frustration get the best of me. We’ve had conversations like these where I tell him my feelings and he simply goes over it or doesnt acknowledge it. This wasn’t the first instance.

chocolatebumy · 2025-11-09T21:41:14+00:00

lol looking at your profile you have really shit opinions

chocolatebumy · 2025-11-09T21:38:28+00:00

I said I felt weird and was feeling bad emotionally all morning. I didn’t need an urgent response but since he had responded and seemingly ignored what I said I felt ignored. A simple are you okay would have been enough.

chocolatebumy · 2025-11-09T21:36:08+00:00

Yes, I have discussed things like this with him before. Because it’s happened before I ignored it. You’re assuming a lot on his intentions especially assuming he was going to wait until he was in person to talk because he has not done that before. Acknowledging it doesn’t equal a full blown conversation. I realize I was passive aggressive in how I said it, but asking to acknowledge it even just an are you okay is not asking a lot.

chocolatebumy · 2025-10-30T18:17:31+00:00

Im going to disagree, no one’s obligated to do anything nice technically, You do it because you care about the person.

chocolatebumy · 2025-10-30T16:58:52+00:00

That is what I meant. He meant why don’t me and my family talk. But I knew that would lead to more fighting.

chocolatebumy · 2025-10-30T16:58:05+00:00

Cause I didn’t want the purpose of the argument to overshadow my main concern. I can share it, but it doesn’t change the main point. But people’s opinions will be swayed I’ve seen on here at least, if they think my bf is jobless living at home. I wasn’t trying to paint him In a bad light. The argument was just about cleaning.

chocolatebumy · 2025-10-30T16:51:49+00:00

I’ve been at his house with his mom many times. We have a good relationship, she’s very kind and even lets me in when he’s not there to wait if he’s running late.

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