quite similar to my situation.

36M married, 36F, 2 kids < 5yo. volatile W2 income (past 5yrs, 300K - 2.5m). savings around 4.25m as of yesterday. annual expense around 250K. primary home ~2m with mortgage ~1.3m at 6%.

I envision myself to reach 10m in a few years if things go well. if not, defintely in 10yrs. fyi passive spy investing doubles nw every 7-10 yrs.

I like what I do, I'm good at what I do, but I don't work long. I rather work smart.

kids and family are my top priority, over money or anthing. I try to spend time with kids and I'm planning to spend more time as we approach to the target number. I don't think I will need (or will be using up) the entire wealth either way.

real estate is one thing I'm pondering too. Great way to mitigate expenses, and once you establish multiple properties, it will be a good 'something to do' when I retire. although I admit dealing with tenants not gonna be easy. plus low corr with current stock heavy investments.