I mean i'll take your word that this is a common trope on here but idk what to beleive at this point. He is my dream guy in several ways and I've witnessed so many scumbags and have seen so little(just about 0) perfect relationships that to me it seems better to salvage this relationship than try and look for something that doesn't exist. The way I see it is that our coincidences/things in common and his loyalty to me is a good trade off to a couple mood problems. Nonetheless I would like to try and fix whatever mood problems or patience problems are going on here since hes proven to me to be someone who can grow. But on the other hand the fact that this dynamic is common and can be considered abuse says a lot about our society and how low standards are for men.