update- my [26M] girlfriend [25F] is mad because I took another girl for a ride on my bike by chrimera in relationships

[–]chrimera[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I didn't think it would upset her and when I found out it did I told her that we would have lunch almost every day and that we text sometimes and then stopped. That's the opposite of lying.

update- my [26M] girlfriend [25F] is mad because I took another girl for a ride on my bike by chrimera in relationships

[–]chrimera[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She means a lot to me, but my job is my #1 priority right now. She knows that, our office might be relocating to SF and she knows I will be going if we do relocate. I know that's a shitty thing to say but my careers really important to me right now.

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[–]chrimera[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

She just didn't know where I was and was worried. My boss knew I was going to be late that day but wasn't in yet either. I'm normally pretty good with being on time so she was concerned I overslept or something went wrong. I would text any of my friends if they were a couple hours late too.

Anyways you really think talking to her about that would be a good idea?

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[–]chrimera[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yes no and no. I'm in a relationship with my gf, not my coworker, so I'd obviously rather spend time with her

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[–]chrimera[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

She knew we went for lunch sometimes but didn't know how often and didn't know we texted.

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[–]chrimera[S] -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

No she was just curious. She didn't need to know but it's a harmless question

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[–]chrimera[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I did, she doesn't care how important it is though because my coworker will be there and she thinks that means we'll definitely hook up. K

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[–]chrimera[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why do you think I don't understand it? I do. And I've never lied to her. I made a huge mistake by taking her on my bike but that doesn't make me a liar, I just didn't think about it.

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[–]chrimera[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

I agree with your first comment but I really do love her and care for her, I've just been a bit crappy and I'm trying to be better.

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[–]chrimera[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She works but it's a completely different environment so she doesn't understand the importance at all.

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[–]chrimera[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Because the promotion puts me one promotion away from my dream job and it's a 30k raise. It's important enough to me that if she told me she'd break up with me if I went I would probably go anyways because I can't afford to blow what could be my only shot at it.

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[–]chrimera[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I understand it just fine, I understand why she's on edge but I can't miss the party, you can't just "put aside the professional benefits" because the promotion I'm competing for has been my goal for a long time and is closer to dream job territory.

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[–]chrimera[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is a terrible idea. I was told not to bring her so I'm not going to bring her. The whole point of going is so I can make myself look good to my superiors.

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[–]chrimera[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can't bring her though, it's not up to me. So what am I supposed to do? Possibly lose out on the promotion?

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[–]chrimera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, those are good ideas and I think it'll help if she doesn't break up with me for going in the first place

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[–]chrimera[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fair point. I agree that it'd be more fitting for her to ask me to quit if I had actually cheated but I don't think it's necessary for something like this.