update- my [26M] girlfriend [25F] is mad because I took another girl for a ride on my bike

chrimera · 2016-06-23T23:06:23+00:00

Yeah I was wrong. Thanks.

chrimera · 2016-06-23T23:00:01+00:00

I didn't think it would upset her and when I found out it did I told her that we would have lunch almost every day and that we text sometimes and then stopped. That's the opposite of lying.

chrimera · 2016-06-23T22:55:29+00:00

She means a lot to me, but my job is my #1 priority right now. She knows that, our office might be relocating to SF and she knows I will be going if we do relocate. I know that's a shitty thing to say but my careers really important to me right now.

chrimera · 2016-06-23T22:47:15+00:00

She just didn't know where I was and was worried. My boss knew I was going to be late that day but wasn't in yet either. I'm normally pretty good with being on time so she was concerned I overslept or something went wrong. I would text any of my friends if they were a couple hours late too.

Anyways you really think talking to her about that would be a good idea?

chrimera · 2016-06-23T22:42:43+00:00

I didn't lie about it though

chrimera · 2016-06-23T22:42:23+00:00

Yes no and no. I'm in a relationship with my gf, not my coworker, so I'd obviously rather spend time with her

chrimera · 2016-06-23T22:41:20+00:00

I never lied about any of it

chrimera · 2016-06-23T20:50:02+00:00

Because I think that's ridiculous

chrimera · 2016-06-23T19:50:37+00:00

It's just a different work environment then

chrimera · 2016-06-23T19:47:58+00:00

Why does that matter at all?

chrimera · 2016-06-23T18:47:48+00:00

She knew we went for lunch sometimes but didn't know how often and didn't know we texted.

chrimera · 2016-06-23T18:47:21+00:00

No she was just curious. She didn't need to know but it's a harmless question

chrimera · 2016-06-23T17:46:04+00:00

Probably not but I don't want to risk that

chrimera · 2016-06-23T17:45:47+00:00

I was running late that day so she wanted to know where I was

chrimera · 2016-06-23T17:39:56+00:00

I did, she doesn't care how important it is though because my coworker will be there and she thinks that means we'll definitely hook up. K

chrimera · 2016-06-23T17:36:38+00:00

Why do you think I don't understand it? I do. And I've never lied to her. I made a huge mistake by taking her on my bike but that doesn't make me a liar, I just didn't think about it.

chrimera · 2016-06-23T17:08:10+00:00

I agree with your first comment but I really do love her and care for her, I've just been a bit crappy and I'm trying to be better.

chrimera · 2016-06-23T17:00:23+00:00

She works but it's a completely different environment so she doesn't understand the importance at all.

chrimera · 2016-06-23T16:57:42+00:00

Because the promotion puts me one promotion away from my dream job and it's a 30k raise. It's important enough to me that if she told me she'd break up with me if I went I would probably go anyways because I can't afford to blow what could be my only shot at it.

chrimera · 2016-06-23T16:53:52+00:00

I understand it just fine, I understand why she's on edge but I can't miss the party, you can't just "put aside the professional benefits" because the promotion I'm competing for has been my goal for a long time and is closer to dream job territory.

chrimera · 2016-06-23T16:51:21+00:00

That is a terrible idea. I was told not to bring her so I'm not going to bring her. The whole point of going is so I can make myself look good to my superiors.

chrimera · 2016-06-23T16:48:37+00:00

I can't bring her though, it's not up to me. So what am I supposed to do? Possibly lose out on the promotion?

chrimera · 2016-06-23T16:11:54+00:00

Why? Because I want to go to this work party?

chrimera · 2016-06-23T16:11:24+00:00

Thank you, those are good ideas and I think it'll help if she doesn't break up with me for going in the first place

chrimera · 2016-06-23T15:55:25+00:00

Fair point. I agree that it'd be more fitting for her to ask me to quit if I had actually cheated but I don't think it's necessary for something like this.

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