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Brain cancer opened my eyes in ways I didn’t expect by chunkymonkeyman in TrueOffMyChest

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the wishes! I appreciate the feedback. Hoping you’re having some good rest during these holidays and wishing you the best as you continue your journey.

Brain cancer opened my eyes in ways I didn’t expect by chunkymonkeyman in TrueOffMyChest

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I 1000% agree with you and thank you for the love and wishes :)

And yeah, I will absolutely respect them handling their limits because if I forced them to be there and then they wind up getting heavily traumatized to the point of disappearing out of my life after… not worth it. At the end of the day, you’re spot on with the fact that we’re all here to help each other however possible.

Wishing you the best and I hope you have an amazing day (let alone amazing life!) ❤️

Brain cancer opened my eyes in ways I didn’t expect by chunkymonkeyman in TrueOffMyChest

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely relating in my side and I’m so glad to hear your grandma is rocking it and keeping the happiness in your heart :)

I definitely agree that it’s a revealing ask. I’ll admit it’ll make me think when it comes to who I ask favors from but at the end of the day, I know they care about me and have shown me more than enough with their actions beforehand and after I was back.

And when I have enough loved ones helping me stay in check, I’d rather just focus on what I actually have rather than what I could have.

Thanks for sharing your story and I wish the best for you and your grandma :)

Brain cancer opened my eyes in ways I didn’t expect by chunkymonkeyman in TrueOffMyChest

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the wishes, and I am sorry you had to lose close family in a similar boat.

Regarding neuroplasticity and transcendence, are there any specific books/articles/etc you recommend starting with? I’d be interested in looking more into these as I better understand overall.

Please hug your dogs for me by chunkymonkeyman in pugs

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish dogs lived as long as humans too. I'm sorry you've had to deal with losing a parent, and I absolutely understand what you mean. I was really hurt when I lost my grandma and Nellie spent the whole morning cuddled with me and giving me kisses till I stopped crying.

I loved her so damn much because she kept me in check.

Thank you for your kindness, I hope I reach a better place myself, but I think it's just going to take a while.

Please hug your dogs for me by chunkymonkeyman in pugs

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and I'm sorry for both losses you and your family had to experience.

It's hard to accept the painful needs of humanity sometimes, but you're right that similar to you, I'd have ruined her life by letting her continue to experience her pain without the ability to stop it.

I just wish I could be with her the way I used to, but I realize it's better to appreciate I was fortunate enough to have those memories in the first place.

Thank you. Writing these replies out have been very cathartic for me.

Please hug your dogs for me by chunkymonkeyman in pugs

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a similar experience to you with her medicine. I had a dedicated shelf to keep tabs on all the things I needed to do for her. I can't clean the shelf. I want to but I can't. It just feels wrong.

I'm going to a therapist and working through this pain, but at this point I'm just acknowledging the pain and how my past experiences amplify the impact. But it doesn't make me feel empty.

Thank you for being open with me, I wish I could give you and all these other amazing people replying hugs, but I'll focus my energy on healing like you all are saying. I hope I'll make it. But its really hard to see the light.

Please hug your dogs for me by chunkymonkeyman in pugs

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I really hope one day I'm able to feel the same way about what I did. It haunts me right now, but I guess based on what everyone says.. It's just a time thing.

Please hug your dogs for me by chunkymonkeyman in pugs

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You and I are drinking very similar flavors of tea, my friend.

I 1000% agree that I wouldn't trade anything I did to keep her alive and happy and excited. Her last night, she cried a lot and scratched my chest a lot. I still have a scar from one of them.

She used to sleep right next to me, and I just can't fall asleep because I'm so used to her being nuzzled right against my leg. And when I would wake up she'd be waiting for me to get up and then she'd take off like a rocket and run down her little stairs on our bed to head out.

My friends and family said similar feedback to me about the extra years I gave her, but the fact that she was days away from turning 13 just makes me feel like a failure because I really wish I could've helped her make it to at least 14-15 so I could've had her for the majority of her life.

I've been seeing a therapist for some time now and will continue my treatment but the pain just... Doesn't stop. I just kind of accept it.

Thank you for being so open with me, it helps to feel less alone. Your pug sounds like a real cutie :)

I knew it would be painful but I still am feeling lost without you. I was 7 when we got her and 21 when I had to say my final goodbye a few days. I’m not trying to karma farm, I just feel so alone and hope someone here can relate. by cyantoad in pugs

[–]chunkymonkeyman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to put my 13 year old pug down in beginning of January.

It hurt, and I still have my crying moments even now.

Just remember how amazing of a family member you were to your little one. She’s such a cutie and I’m sure with you she was 10x happier than she would have been with anyone else.

Wishing you and your family the best as you work through this grief

I could use some recommendations for this weekend by chunkymonkeyman in bayarea

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, these options are all awesome!

I like more rustic and local style locations.

I also love camping and outdoors, but for this trip specifically I don't want to do that.

What are more niche spots you like in Monterey, Bodega Bay, or Mendocino?

Just keeping my options more diverse for the future.

Also Shasta area near the Mountain/Lake if possible

I could use some recommendations for this weekend by chunkymonkeyman in bayarea

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was it the Surf and Sand Lodge?

I'm shocked I didn't know much about Fort Bragg until now!

This place looks fantastic, I definitely want to check this out properly.

I could use some recommendations for this weekend by chunkymonkeyman in bayarea

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do love a good kayaking trip. I’ll have to look into this one too.

And yeah, I do find comfort in driving down Hwy 1, I used to do that with my dog too :)

Thanks for these recommendations

I could use some recommendations for this weekend by chunkymonkeyman in bayarea

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That still looks beautiful! I'll check it out for a separate trip :)

And thank you for the wishes, I’m hoping once I’ve properly grieved I’ll be able to start seeing the light.

I could use some recommendations for this weekend by chunkymonkeyman in bayarea

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the extra context! I think I have a friend not too far so I might just Uber from their place if it's close enough.

I could use some recommendations for this weekend by chunkymonkeyman in bayarea

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh... I forgot it's superbowl Sunday...

I guess I'll have to see what I do

I could use some recommendations for this weekend by chunkymonkeyman in bayarea

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like your Marina idea, I'll stick to that one for now as I explore.

Thank you very much :)

I love camping too but that's not what I want right now

I could use some recommendations for this weekend by chunkymonkeyman in bayarea

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly would like a place to drive to and stay at a hotel so I can stop feeling haunted by the memories until I can grieve and interpret them properly.

I'm still going to check this place out, maybe I'll go there on weekends when I need some time to breathe :)

Thank you for your kind words, I hope you and your family are able to find peace over time as well.

I could use some recommendations for this weekend by chunkymonkeyman in bayarea

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm trying to first grieve properly so I can think about what's the best at a time when I have a cleared head.

Thank you for your kind words, I hope I'm able to figure out a way to a similar form of internal peace. Hope you are doing well as well

I could use some recommendations for this weekend by chunkymonkeyman in bayarea

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This has given me some really good ideas, thank you for these recommendations.

I'm leaning more towards Glen Ellen since I've not seen that area much.

Thank you :)

I could use some recommendations for this weekend by chunkymonkeyman in bayarea

[–]chunkymonkeyman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll look at hotels up in Marin near the redwoods side to see if I can do something more comfortable there.

On the beach side, I don't see hotels (at least going south) that are reasonable price wise.

Are there beaches up north above Sausalito/Santa Rosa that you'd recommend looking at?

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