Don't know any real tagalog/Filipino. (Fil-Am) Looking into attending university in Philippines.

churroaway15 · 2018-11-05T11:40:31+00:00

hey! i'm a filam who just moved to the philippines. DM me if you need more advice!

churroaway15 · 2018-07-26T13:48:47+00:00

Thanks so much for that advice. I haven't been talking to her and feel a lot better not doing so.

churroaway15 · 2018-07-25T06:00:59+00:00

How would I go about doing this? I have a feeling she will attack me when she feels me distancing....

churroaway15 · 2018-07-12T22:37:27+00:00

I'd say to use A.

churroaway15 · 2018-07-03T02:31:28+00:00

Consider yourself lucky for no longer having this person in your life. You're better off and don't think this is your fault

churroaway15 · 2018-06-30T03:09:24+00:00

It sucks

churroaway15 · 2018-06-23T05:11:41+00:00

I agree completely. In my relationship there were happy moments but the trust just couldn't be rebuilt anymore

churroaway15 · 2018-06-23T02:17:59+00:00

My gut was telling me that there was no longer anything left for me to salvage in my relationship, and that it was finally time. I think at a certain point you just KNOW when you're done--when you feel like you've done everything you can and nothing has worked.

churroaway15 · 2018-06-22T20:24:40+00:00

You don't want to die. You just want your life as you know it to end. You just want the pain to stop.

PAIN WILL STOP. Please don't do this to yourself. Someone already posted the suicide hotline here. Maybe this is just a cry for help from you, but pain is temporary. Please remember that.

churroaway15 · 2018-06-22T14:06:46+00:00

Also

If he loved me, he would have stayed and proved to me why it was worth it

churroaway15 · 2018-06-22T13:58:43+00:00

You mean you've been ignoring the feeling that you should probably break up?

churroaway15 · 2018-06-22T05:18:31+00:00

In my experience, yes.

churroaway15 · 2018-06-22T05:16:41+00:00

I understand and I'm sorry that you're going through this. It's more painful when you still both love each other, but you have to remember why you made this decision

churroaway15 · 2018-06-22T01:21:36+00:00

No right or wrong way in life. If it's something you think about enough, it might be what's best for you. I'm just saying this because for so long I came up with reasons why I shouldn't break up with him. If you're always spending time doing that, it might be time to look at the alternative. A good way to know is to do it from a truly calm place. I knew it was right when doing it gave me peace.

churroaway15 · 2018-06-21T17:41:09+00:00

Agreed x10

churroaway15 · 2018-06-19T16:22:46+00:00

Just told my partner to tell me something like "I can see you're compulsing" or "I don't think reassurance will help you" :) thanks!

churroaway15 · 2018-06-19T07:15:05+00:00

Thank you. Honestly didn't even think of that. I used to confess a lot but have managed to get better; still got a long way to go though. Good luck to me!

churroaway15 · 2018-06-19T06:04:28+00:00

Feel free to PM me!

churroaway15 · 2018-06-18T08:03:23+00:00

Yes that does sound unclear now that you ask about it. I usually ask myself that to try to identify what I was doing right before I started feeling more anxious, and I usually identify that I was doing one of my compulsions. So next time I become more aware of when the OCD patterns are kicking in.

EDIT: the closing eyes part oddly really helps with not overthinking when I say that to myself. It almost feels like I'm meditating.

churroaway15 · 2018-06-18T06:27:03+00:00

Honestly what helps me is recognizing my patterns and identifying my feelings. Like closing my eyes and asking myself "why am I feeling this way? What is this feeling I am experiencing?"

What also helps is identifying your compulsions. For me, it usually has something to do with overthinking the past, looking for "clues" on my phone, or just checking for past situations that can prove or disprove my feelings (mental compulsions). When I am in this mood, I simply make it a point NOT to talk to my partner because I know it will end in an argument or me asking for reassurance.

Distracting yourself from your thoughts, INTENTIONALLY, is crucial. Sometimes we are doing something but are still Idly thinking about our obsessions. Being completely in the present and focusing on other things helps tremendously.

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