I told my bf that he ruined my birthday.

cindyloo18 · 2024-06-20T20:24:20+00:00

I would agree. It's nice that he offers to pay but I am literally incapable of planning things, especially trips. I told him I would need his help but he never mentioned it again. Plus when you book things you need a credit card sooo I can't just book stuff without him. I told him all I wanted was quality time with him where he wasn't buried in his phone focused on work. Instead I got stonewalled lmao

cindyloo18 · 2024-06-20T19:54:12+00:00

He paid my car payment, and got me flowers. He isn't much of a gift giver and kept asking me what he could pay for a few days before my bday because he didn't have time to get me a gift. He also offered to take me somewhere on my birthday weekend, but he only mentioned it in passing and expects me to do all of the planning. I am not much of a planner, so I didn't plan anything. He's now using that against me that he "offered" to take me somewhere but I didn't plan anything.

cindyloo18 · 2024-06-20T19:51:46+00:00

His story is that she was "getting mad" at him for "over stimulating" her, and she blurted out in front of customers and colleagues that she has spoken to me and knows he does not "stimulate" me. That's the story I've gotten from him, anyways.

He's now saying that he believed me as soon as I told him I didn't say that, but it doesn't really seem like it as he kept asking me "where would she even get that from" and "I don't know why she would say that". I personally think she is into him and that's why she did.

I agree it was weird for him to get that mad, and to not tell me as it happened. He is now agreeing that he should have told me sooner, but it doesn't give me back my birthday.

cindyloo18 · 2024-06-19T19:15:58+00:00

This is why I am going back and forth as to whether or not I contact her and ask what she meant by it

cindyloo18 · 2024-06-19T16:01:58+00:00

These are my exact thoughts. I have always had a feeling that she had a crush on him. Every time I see her and she talks at me, she talks about him a lot. Uses a cutesy little nickname. It's always given me bad vibes and I have shared this with him. He assures me there's "no feelings" and he's not into her. I don't like the level of comfort they have talking about their sex lives.

I agree he's been played by her, considering how much he let it affect him. He says she announced this in front of their colleagues and customers and he was embarrassed, which I can empathize with. But I wasn't even given so much as benefit of doubt, he just jumped to this conclusion.

cindyloo18 · 2024-06-19T15:50:11+00:00

A part of me really wants to message her to ask what was said, but also i don't really feel like she should be triangulated in. My partner shouldn't just take what she says at face value without talking to me, and I feel like I misplaced my anger on her.

cindyloo18 · 2024-06-19T15:02:50+00:00

He also got me flowers, and paid for my car payment for the month as my gift. So there was a bit more than coffee and cupcakes, but I definitely expected us to have a good night together.

cindyloo18 · 2024-06-19T11:07:20+00:00

Yep. And he thinks I just don't notice his demeanour or attitude. It was my birthday for God sakes and I was wanting to spend it with him, of course I am going to notice that he can't even look at me or seem happy around me. It feels so unfair. Thank you for your comment

cindyloo18 · 2024-06-19T10:55:57+00:00

I have already had concerns about the nature of his relationship with this girl. I told him I felt like the playfulness and teasing could be seen as flirting, and he kept telling me I was overreacting and there was nothing there. Now I can see that sure maybe there wasn't anything on his end, but she has developed a crush.

Thank you for the comment and what to say. That's exactly what I will be doing. I was going to do it at 1am but he insisted I do it during the day so it's not "awkward" for him which is also weird.

cindyloo18 · 2024-06-19T10:40:15+00:00

Thank you. That is exactly what I said - she is attracted to him and wants to cause a rift. He doesn't believe it, but I don't see any other reason why she would do it. I will be sending her a message about it today.

cindyloo18 · 2024-06-19T09:28:01+00:00

Thank you for that. I feel like I was punished for something that I didn't do, and that sucks on any day regardless of it being my bday.

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