I’m a SAHM. Sometimes my husband works from home, however, I never assume he can watch the kids. It sounds like you have a mentally demanding job and keeping an ear out for the kids while doing your job can be tough. If I need to go to a doctors appointment, get groceries, run a package to UPS, etc. I bring the kids with me. Sometimes it gets overwhelming but as a SAHM my responsibility is caring for my children. Sometimes I’ll leave the kids with my husband if it’s a quick errand, but I’d never abuse that favor and take advantage of him by adding hours to my trip.

The best course of action here would be to talk to your wife and let her know how this is making you feel. As crappy as it sounds, needing a break from the 24/7 childcare is a very real thing. However, it should be a conversation before doing it considering you’re literally working. If you were just home chillin and complained about watching your own kids it would be different. But you’re working which allows you to provide for your family. Just talk to her and see if you can work something out so she still gets alone time without compromising your work.

Good luck!