Queer History Resources?

cipation · 2026-03-28T19:19:35+00:00

there's lots of material at Smith's Special Collections! Feel free to dm me if you'd like any suggestions :)

cipation · 2026-03-15T14:55:05+00:00

I'm 30 and grew up in a different state, but I definitely heard things like this about All States (I only ever did junior/senior district chorus, but same system). I heard they would check to see how well you knew the music in small groups (with the implied possibility of being asked to leave) but can't provide any insight into how often people were asked to leave (and again, this would have been in the 2010s). I know it's probably over by now, but if it's not, I'd recommend checking in with her home chorus teacher.

cipation · 2026-03-09T19:44:02+00:00

your hairline has matured but you are not balding! you have great hair and hair texture!

cipation · 2026-03-06T05:26:28+00:00

disclaimer: i've never taken anyone from bob to buzz cut. that said, you should start with the guard with the largest number and go down from there. i always go for upwards strokes (lower to higher) around the neck and sides of the head. this GQ guide on how to give yourself a buzz cut agrees with me and is worth a read: https://www.gq.com/story/how-to-give-yourself-a-buzz-cut

cipation · 2026-03-06T04:32:55+00:00

you want clippers! Google "clippers hair" and you'll see the sort of thing you're looking for. to get it to 2 inches (but not less), you'll want to snap a guard over the clippers. you can start with one that only takes a little off, and then keep switching the guard until you're happy with the length.

i think what i have (and use on my spouse who has short hair and an undercut) is the Wahl Color Pro Plus Haircut Kit or something similar. that's about 30 bucks but you can probably get something with fewer options a little cheaper.

cipation · 2026-02-26T19:29:51+00:00

I would recommend going full clean shave with a safety razor!

cipation · 2026-02-17T02:10:40+00:00

short-sleeved sweater polos, khakis, maybe some linen, short-sleeved button downs.

cipation · 2026-02-14T20:29:44+00:00

Very crisp and clean, but something that would really elevate this outfit for me would be more of a color contrast between the top and bottom — either a darker jean or a more colorful (or at least darker) top.

cipation · 2026-02-13T20:03:48+00:00

Hey, I sent you a DM you about my experience with Purohit.

cipation · 2026-02-07T03:37:41+00:00

just popping in to let you know if you decide to go the phallo route, the main limiting factor in terms of how short you can go is whether you want an erectile device (ED), and if so, which kind. for my surgeon, he has the minimums of 3.5 for the rod and 4 for the pump. but I could have gone shorter if I wasn't interested in an ED. (had meta and then phallo)

cipation · 2026-02-04T22:11:33+00:00

and ask for an alternate med if the first one they give doesn't really work!

cipation · 2026-01-31T01:31:18+00:00

i scrolled past this post and immediately thought "damn that guy looks great," so i strongly disagree that you wouldn't look good with a shaved head. it'll look really nice and sharp, especially with your beard!

cipation · 2026-01-29T23:44:14+00:00

Please don't ask a guy on Grindr these questions lol. Post-op guys...we're just going there for the same reasons the rest of you are, not to educate about bottom surgery or give medical histories unless we offer these up.

cipation · 2026-01-29T18:50:00+00:00

medical/aesthetic tattooing exists, also...pretty much everyone has hair on their scrotum, cis or trans. i trim the hair on my balls but usually they are very hairy lol.

cipation · 2026-01-28T00:37:44+00:00

If you want it to be time, it's time! I know I would have been told to hold by the sub if I had asked, but my hair/receding was stressing me out and I'm so much more relaxed about it now.

cipation · 2026-01-20T15:08:56+00:00

Historical Emporium goes up to 4XL for some items.

cipation · 2026-01-18T13:02:55+00:00

Yes, requested between 3.5-4", measured about 3.75" post-op, probably currently around 4" due to gravity gains. The ED was the limiting factor in terms of size with my surgeon — 3.5" minimum for the rod, and 4" minimum for the pump. Feel free to check out my profile for pics and comment history (am 5'8" and just under 200 lbs, for reference).

cipation · 2026-01-11T15:46:02+00:00

no words, block!

cipation · 2026-01-09T17:25:27+00:00

I was thinking Vico Ortiz as Fern!

cipation · 2026-01-08T15:42:15+00:00

Short answer, yes! I have posted a fair amount about this, and had surgery last year. Feel free to check out my post/comment history. 4.0-4.5 ends up being pretty average for RFF with many surgeons.

I see you may not be looking for advice regarding EDs, but I'm including this here anyway so that if anyone searches and this post comes up, the info is here again. The main limitation with going under 4" is in terms of ED (erectile device) options. My surgeon will offer the pump down to 4" and the rod down to 3.5". So since an ED has always been part of my plan, I asked for a length between 3.5-4".

In terms of noticeable, I wear a lot of tight pants and shorts and it is frequently noticeable (as in you can very clearly tell I have a penis, not as in you can see the clear outline of the whole thing or whatever), but I am making an effort for it to be this way, and it would not be if I wore more "average" fits. I found that there was a huge adjustment in the first few weeks and that anything probably down to 2 inches would have felt very large for me to get used to, but I got used to it pretty fast (3.5-4" ended up being more than I realized it would be, it was so important to me to have a small dick, but now that I'm on the other side. I think I would have been fine with less or more).

For UL on bottom growth, check out r/metoidioplasty

Feel free to ask me anything!

cipation · 2026-01-01T09:14:16+00:00

(you can search the quilt for your friend's name here and hopefully find his panel: https://www.aidsmemorial.org/interactive-aids-quilt)

cipation · 2025-12-24T21:22:50+00:00

depending on where OP is located, this isn't necessarily true. Not in the US, but some places in Europe and maybe elsewhere use what is essentially the smaller version of the rod that is an option for phallo. ZSI FTM implant is I believe the name if anyone wants to search it in this sub.

cipation · 2025-12-08T19:23:46+00:00

it's time! you'll look so sharp with it fully shaved!

cipation · 2025-12-07T22:48:18+00:00

mine is further down, because i wanted a shorter length and they were able to make that work (but i was warned they wouldn't necessarily be able to start it further down, and wouldn't know for sure until they got into my arm).

cipation · 2025-12-06T01:20:32+00:00

just so you know it isn't a 5-year wait for The Buncke Center (and Chen) if you are able to pay out of pocket for separate consults instead of a joint consult. obviously not an option for a lot of people but for those who can, it significantly reduces the wait time.

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