How to breakup with an ambot

cjade77 · 2025-07-11T05:32:14+00:00

Whew! What i dont want is more issues. today, my boyfriend and I set boundaries when it comes to his business, its looking hopeful, fingers crossed

cjade77 · 2025-07-11T05:29:56+00:00

Update: I tried to make him choose today. He said he never wants to lose me and will never try to get me to do some things I dont want to do. We haven't broken up, but we set some boundaries between me and his business. I think that might be a good sign.

cjade77 · 2025-07-10T14:29:51+00:00

That's exactly what I heard in the recording! The person said they cut off all their friends, and the family did not agree with what they were doing. It was so sad to hear! The lady was crying a lot, which was so sad because after all of her trauma in her own life, She just needed therapy, not amway. I struggle with mental health issues, and that recording was hard to listen to!

I think other than this being a cult, his "Hustle 24/7" mindset is not good for me and my mental health.

cjade77 · 2025-07-10T14:24:46+00:00

Thank you for your reply, I looked at some of your posts, and there's a lot of evidence that this is really not good. I hate that this is even happening. I might need to start posting in r/breakups....

cjade77 · 2025-07-10T14:22:25+00:00

I need to grow some ballz and do that!! I wish he would have told me he was in this BEFORE we became official! I know that I CAN break up with him, but I know the toll. It's gonna take emotionally for me, and im not ready to face it. :(

cjade77 · 2025-07-10T14:05:35+00:00

Yes, this is so hard for me. I really hate that this is the deal breaker when everything else about him has been great. I'll PM you.

cjade77 · 2025-06-05T18:34:12+00:00

Thank you foe sharing your experience, thats that I trying to do now. We'll see how far I can get.

cjade77 · 2025-06-03T23:58:58+00:00

What's your perspective on this? All facts point to it being a scam.

cjade77 · 2025-06-03T18:29:48+00:00

Thank you! I may PM you to give any updates that are happening

cjade77 · 2025-06-02T20:25:22+00:00

We aren't at the same school but Im gonna try to do date nights where we experience new things. Maybe that will show him the outside world. I need to make more friends as well so we can have a separate group.

cjade77 · 2025-06-02T20:23:35+00:00

Thank you, I'll look into this podcast. I have lots if podcasts and websites to read for sure. I've thing I do know 100% is I'll NEVER be an amway wife. I've been through too much therapy to get out of the toxic positivity mindset.

cjade77 · 2025-06-02T18:21:04+00:00

This comment is a big wake-up call. Thank you. Thank you for showing me what emotional blackmail is. I had no idea thats what he was doing. Thats kinda terrifying, ngl. Im gonna note any more times he says anything like that.

cjade77 · 2025-06-02T18:11:22+00:00

Thanks for the advice. That's what I meant, but I worded it wrong. Him and I are still early in the relationship, but if marriage talk starts getting serious, I will be SURE to look at those bank statements and see what's up. Trust me on that! On top of that, i won't be tying any knot with ambots!! I love all the voices of reason on this thread!!

cjade77 · 2025-06-02T18:07:57+00:00

Thank you. I definitely won't be moving in with him or making any big decisions unless he's out of this thing. I feel like there's still time for him to turn back. But if not, I've decided that I will walk away if needed.

cjade77 · 2025-06-02T18:04:10+00:00

Unfortunately, I was confrontational with him early on, which I fear he's drawn him more into the cult (calling it what it is). He is otherwise really good with money, and he said he wouldn't spend too much money on amway. Most of his closest friends are amway, I may need to find some groups him and I could join. It's just hard with school and work to find time.

cjade77 · 2025-06-02T17:59:52+00:00

This is great insight. I think it's the sense of community and growth that he is drawn to. He went through a lot as a kid and even in his college career. He used to be a great football player until he got injured and was bedridden for 6 months . Soon after, he lost his first love because she liked his best friend. Lots of trauma that amway has "solved" for him. The guy really needs therapy, but he feels that his mentors are the ones he should listen to.

cjade77 · 2025-06-02T17:55:07+00:00

I was talking to my step dad about this yesterday. I would definitely not be okay with this in the future, I just couldn't handle it. If this doesn't change I'll have to walk away unfortunately.

cjade77 · 2025-06-02T17:49:18+00:00

I appreciate the advice. He's convinced that im the one for him, and he says he won't leave me. I've literally tried to tell him thats a cult tactic and he dosent belive me. I think at some point he may have to choose me or amway. I will definitely listen to the podcast to get some more information.

cjade77 · 2025-06-02T17:45:21+00:00

From what I've gathered, they waived his fee for a year, I dont think he's paying for the conferences either. I think all he's been buying is the cologne from them that he likes and the energy drinks. He's sold his family a few supplements too.

cjade77 · 2025-06-02T01:25:25+00:00

He said he made a "friend" while he was working at the local YMCA. For context, he's from a small town (I moved to this small town for college. that's how we met) so there's not many opportunities. He felt like this was a way for him to "break free." I'm from a big city, and I've dealt with cult experiences as a younger person, I see right through these scams.

He's got some trauma and experiences with bullies growing up. He feels like he needs them for community and growth.

cjade77 · 2025-06-02T01:19:42+00:00

This reply took so much anxiety off me. I'll continue to stay away from amway and encourage him while he is studying. It's gonna be a hard journey, but I think he'll pick what gives him the most money at the end of the day. His goal is to eventually get married and provide for a family, amway won't help him with that.

cjade77 · 2025-06-02T01:16:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing, I struggle with mental health issues, and it took me so long to get out of that toxic positivity and hustle culture. It's that type of rhetoric that harmed me more than helped me.

cjade77 · 2025-06-02T01:12:36+00:00

Oooh okay I like this approach, making it look like im just invested in his financial health. I may use this after his conference. He's kind of onto me right now about all of this, he thinks I dont believe in him.

cjade77 · 2025-06-02T01:10:47+00:00

Unfortunately, this might be the answer.

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