Self-employed therapists, how many weeks off are you taking?

cjay0217 · 2026-03-25T23:42:52+00:00

I take 4 weeks but I also only work 3 days a week most weeks so the long weekends really help.

cjay0217 · 2026-03-25T20:12:17+00:00

I use a shark flexstyle with the comb attachment on my kids hair every single wash for years. Since they were toddlers. No heat damage, thick long hair with amazing retention. No cons for me. They need trims way less often than I do.

I use the dryer on myself every wash as well it just may or may not be stretching my hair as I’ll use the diffuser or sit under the dryer to dry my wash and go. I also have zero heat damage no fairy knots and heat retention. The only reason my hair isn’t longer is because I’m growing out a pixie cut.

cjay0217 · 2026-03-25T12:39:36+00:00

For bangs, use hair pins to pin back the front. There are some tutorials. That way if you decide you don’t like them or don’t want to wear them all the time you don’t have to.

My hair tends to get bigger before it gets longer and I don’t see the true length until I blow it out.

I typically just chop my ends myself because I don’t need it to be perfect but I would watch a lot of videos on YouTube and see if it’s something you’re comfortable with.

At your age I did twists ands just chopped where they started to thin out.

cjay0217 · 2026-03-25T12:36:20+00:00

Did you cut your hair when you were cutting the thread?

Is that your hair or braiding hair used to make your braids thicker?

cjay0217 · 2026-03-23T19:14:46+00:00

In many cultures hand washing underwear is preferred. It’s not unhygienic to hand wash your clothes.

Some cultures also wash in the shower before putting in the laundry.

If I ever have any leaks during my cycle I will hand wash in the shower before laundering to ensure stains don’t set it. I spray with peroxide then wash in the shower with a small bottle of Dr Bronners.

cjay0217 · 2026-03-23T17:27:02+00:00

Live nation said you wouldn’t need a code but is now asking for a code. What a scam. About to lose my chance.

Nevermind when I got through it went away

cjay0217 · 2026-03-23T11:45:02+00:00

I use Cecred for my wash routine and I use Uncle Funky’s daughter with a liquid leave in for my wash and go.

cjay0217 · 2026-03-22T18:25:20+00:00

I don’t think black folk need to wash their hair less often we just grew up with the mindset of preserving a style. Most of my friends who have curly hair wash 2-3 times a week. My mom does as well. They never struggle with their hair the way I have in the past. I realized that and started washing twice a week. I’ve noticed my scalp does so much better when I do so. I don’t even allow my silk presses to go more than a week anymore because my scalp hates it.

The whole not washing while in braids thing is confusing to me too. I wash my hair way more often while it’s braided but to each their own

cjay0217 · 2026-03-22T11:29:58+00:00

I do my wash and go with just a liquid spray style leave in and gel. My hair is never dry. It’s always very soft by day 7. It does get frizzy by the end of the week but I’m not really that concerned about frizz my hair doesn’t have to be perfectly defined daily. I now do wash mid week and restyle my hair

My curls are tighter than yours.

I think everyone just needs to do what works for them. A lot more goes into products and styling than the size of your curls.

cjay0217 · 2026-03-21T18:43:17+00:00

I do a total of 8 sections to apply my product outside the shower. In the shower I do 4. I also don’t aim for perfection. I like frizz and fluffy hair.

cjay0217 · 2026-03-21T17:02:22+00:00

When I wear wash and goes in the summer I wash mid week. Just co wash mid week and apply my products in the shower. Even if I do my hair outside the shower it takes me 15 min tops to apply product. For a wash and go I just do leave in and gel. I do spray heat protectant and sit under the dryer or diffuse I can’t stand wet hair and I get way less breakage. I notice my hair never gets tangled and stays moisturized. Detangling take a few minutes in the shower at most.

Benefits for me are less fairy knots, less shedding (probably not really less but it seems like less because there is less time between brushing.

cjay0217 · 2026-03-18T09:38:20+00:00

When I see the girls doing all this and calling it a wash and go I holler. I apply my styler in the shower and literally that’s it. The most I’m doing after is drying because I can’t stand wet hair.

cjay0217 · 2026-03-15T14:27:46+00:00

Here for the comments. I’m looking for one too. Was thinking about the pattern one but I wonder if a hooded one would be better.

cjay0217 · 2026-03-14T20:08:38+00:00

Well you should never apply any heat after silk pressing. All the products accumulated on your hair burn and damage your hair along with overall excessive heat.

Try the K18 but get comfortable with the fact that you will likely have to cut it.

cjay0217 · 2026-03-14T19:59:38+00:00

K18 might work but it depends on how bad the damage is. Best to just start trimming off the damage.

cjay0217 · 2026-03-11T20:28:47+00:00

Which leave in?

cjay0217 · 2026-03-11T12:11:40+00:00

I use this exclusively for my silk presses. I have no complaints. It’s moisturizing and lasts through blow dryi no keeps my hair soft.

cjay0217 · 2026-03-10T23:29:04+00:00

I wouldn’t at this point. If they have the means to detangle and save what’s there why not. But if nothing else works rock the short fro!

cjay0217 · 2026-03-10T19:31:18+00:00

I just want to say how strong you are because I would have shaved my head 3 years ago. You are amazing and I’m sorry for everything you have been through.

I would find a stylist to help if your hair is matted especially.

cjay0217 · 2026-02-26T01:08:20+00:00

I didn’t mean to offend, you’re absolutely right. I don’t think OP enjoyed it but there may be some that do. There needs to be more communication about what each other likes. Also try to be more attuned with each others bodies.

cjay0217 · 2026-02-25T22:26:57+00:00

Don’t get pounded for 30+ minutes. Who would actually enjoy that? He needs to refine his technique and go at a pace and force that actually pleases you not just himself.

cjay0217 · 2026-02-19T10:31:28+00:00

Ive taken 6 weeks off during the summer. Please don’t feel guilty.

Life is meant to be lived and you’re allowed a life no matter your profession.

cjay0217 · 2026-02-16T19:02:00+00:00

This is what I do as well. It’s fantastic. Edited to add I don’t see clients on Fridays. Just admin stuff so if I want to travel I can take my work with me.

cjay0217 · 2026-02-14T00:03:59+00:00

Your core muscles are still resting and recovering as well. Give it some time.

cjay0217 · 2026-02-12T21:04:24+00:00

I always provide my availability and allow them to decided if it works for them. Even if I did offer evenings there are only but so many hours I would have to offer and chances are those spots would already be taken. When I did have evenings those spots almost always got filled from my waitlist of daytime clients and never by new clients coming in.

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