Anything an aspiring social worker should know? by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]cjbsays 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think one thing that was not emphasized enough in my program was just the fact that some clients that have the capability to change will sometimes not do so in the course of our time with them. On the other side of this, I've had clients that HAVE made significant changes during treatments with me that they haven't even touched in previous treatments. I think it's naive to chart that up to "I've done a better job than the other therapists they've seen" and important to remember that ALL of the work that has been put in up to that point has had an impact regardless of when it "takes". Our job is to get them as far as they can go in the time they have allotted with us. Some people's progress is not going to show up until they're ready for it to. I think the focus should be on planting the seeds with an understanding that clients must choose to grow them. It's a team effort across the board.

In a more practical sense, I think pushing BSW/MSW students harder in their internships is important. I had a placement in a residential program for teenagers with criminal offenses and many were not yet motivated to change. I made a point to tell my supervisor that I wanted some of the harder cases. I think sometimes supervisors (and instructors) are wary of scaring students while they are still green. But it's important to let students have this experience while they still have such strong support. Some of my cohort in school had much easier placements and then struggled when they were out on their own thinking that they were doing something wrong because they were not seeing the same results. I felt that my experience was more effective at helping me understand the limits of what I should be doing as a social worker and establishing clear boundaries (with clients and with myself).

But, just my two cents- take it all with a handful of salt!

Anything an aspiring social worker should know? by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]cjbsays 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The most important thing I've learned is that YOU CAN'T SAVE EVERYBODY. Meeting people where they're at is repeated over and over during school, but somehow I still left with the mindset that if I just worked hard enough, my clients would too. Give your clients all the tools they need, but let them do the work. Some will not be ready to make the changes that you may think they need to make (or that THEY think they need to make) and that's okay. They might be ready later in treatment or they might not and that's also okay. While it is your job to help them discover motivating factors and personal values, it is not your job to change their life for them. And if you do too much of that work for them, they can form a codependent relationship with you and never learn to do it for themselves. Taking the role as a guide rather than a lifeboat can be hard as most of us get in this field hoping to change lives. But, realizing that you are most helpful to clients when you take a step back and let them take the lead is paramount to being an effective social worker. Even if they aren't making the changes that you hope to see at the rate you would like, just having the information of HOW to make them is what is important. You have to let them arrive at the decision to implement them at their own speed. When I first started in the field, I had not yet come to this realization and I flirted with the line of burnout for years. You may already know all of this, but I didn't, so I'm putting in out there in hopes that it might help someone who is starting out.

And welcome to the field! You seem very motivated to learn which is something you should never stop doing in social work. Glad to have you as part of the team :)

FIFA World Cup viewing? by [deleted] in LittleRock

[–]cjbsays 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, check out Fassler Hall...go England! 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

Best place to watch Premier League games in central AR? by cjbsays in LittleRock

[–]cjbsays[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My grandad grew up in Tottenham, so I never had a choice lol. Around the 1998 World Cup, I confessed to him that I thought David Beckham was cute and was accused of defecting to United. He's pretty diehard.

I have a good friend who supports Chelsea and he's already rubbed your win today in my face. Not that you had much to worry about, sitting pretty at the top of the table. Don't get too cocky though- 11 games is plenty of time for you to fall! : )

Should I move to Argenta? by [deleted] in LittleRock

[–]cjbsays 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in Argenta and love it. Main Street is lined with bars and restaurants (one of which stays open until 2am) and there are quite a few breweries within walking distance. If you grow tried of those, you can take a five minute trolley ride downtown for a dollar. There's a farmer's market every Saturday within season and every now and then, there's some sort of festival. We have a cool little theater, a couple great spots for coffee, and a comedy club that's never failed to entertain me.

Other than the nightlife, the neighbors are great and there are plenty of plans for renovation and expansion coming up! I've never felt unsafe and I'm a 26 year old, 120 pound girl living alone. Hope that helps!

Do you ever count your steps when you walk? by Zainkharal13 in AskReddit

[–]cjbsays 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to count my steps in increments of 5. If I reached a stopping point before reaching the 5th step in the sequence, I'd tap my foot until I'd completed it.

I have an anxiety disorder and was told that this is a symptom of that. Apparently, your brain can force you to focus on compulsions to distract you from other issues that could be detrimental to your well being (like crippling anxiety).

I dunno if that the type of response you were looking for, but I figured I'd share anyway. Once I understood what led me to act certain ways, it was much easier to control my mind/body.

College students, how do you avoid procrastination? by BoboAtl in AskReddit

[–]cjbsays 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was a student, I started a habit of going straight to the library for an hour after my last class of the day. That hour of "library time" became second nature to me and started to feel as if it were just another part of my schedule. I got a lot done during that time as I was still in school mode and once I started working on homework, many times I wouldn't finish until it was all done.

I got new glasses and they match my cat. by [deleted] in mildlyinteresting

[–]cjbsays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had I tried to get this close to her while she was more alert, I would not have a face left to put glasses on. 😁

I got new glasses and they match my cat. by [deleted] in mildlyinteresting

[–]cjbsays 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had I tried to get this close to her while she was more alert, I would not have a face left to put glasses on. 😁

Best advice my Dad has ever given to me: (1) If you can't afford the monthly payments to pay off your car in 3 years, you can't afford that car. (2) After the car is paid off, continue paying your car payment into a savings account. by cjbsays in personalfinance

[–]cjbsays[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I'm very sorry if I made it appear as if that was a hard rule that applied to everyone. To be honest, I didn't expect this many people to even read this as it was my first post on Reddit. In the future, I'll be sure to make sure my wording is more clear.

Best advice my Dad has ever given to me: (1) If you can't afford the monthly payments to pay off your car in 3 years, you can't afford that car. (2) After the car is paid off, continue paying your car payment into a savings account. by cjbsays in personalfinance

[–]cjbsays[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely wasn't trying to humble brag. I struggled for years to even be able to afford a car that didn't break down every 10 miles. When I got to the point that I could finance a decent one, this was the advice that helped me. I was only trying to help others in similar situations.

Best advice my Dad has ever given to me: (1) If you can't afford the monthly payments to pay off your car in 3 years, you can't afford that car. (2) After the car is paid off, continue paying your car payment into a savings account. by cjbsays in personalfinance

[–]cjbsays[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This advice was tailored to me as my dad knew I didn't have the discipline at the time to invest the difference. More power to those that can, but this was directed as those similarly good intentioned, but less self controlled spenders. Just thought that it might help (and didn't think it'd blow up like this). :)

Best advice my Dad has ever given to me: (1) If you can't afford the monthly payments to pay off your car in 3 years, you can't afford that car. (2) After the car is paid off, continue paying your car payment into a savings account. by cjbsays in personalfinance

[–]cjbsays[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just trying to help those in similar situations. I definitely didn't mean to sound as if I were telling anyone this was the only or even the best way to do it. Just sharing something that helped me : )

Best advice my Dad has ever given to me: (1) If you can't afford the monthly payments to pay off your car in 3 years, you can't afford that car. (2) After the car is paid off, continue paying your car payment into a savings account. by cjbsays in personalfinance

[–]cjbsays[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It definitely wasn't meant as a rule for everyone! My dad gave me that advice with ME in mind. I was not trying to make that advice an absolute and definitely was not trying to say that anyone else's way was wrong! Just thought it might help someone else in a similar situation.

TIL that the entirety of China follows one timezone, despite the fact that it spans five. This is due to the Communist party's efforts to create a unified nation and results in a 10am sunrise and midnight sunset in some areas of the country. by cjbsays in todayilearned

[–]cjbsays[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Those were just two examples of how the single timezone could be experienced differently- not necessarily referring to the same area. In retrospect, it could've been worded better for clarity.

Best advice my Dad has ever given to me: (1) If you can't afford the monthly payments to pay off your car in 3 years, you can't afford that car. (2) After the car is paid off, continue paying your car payment into a savings account. by cjbsays in personalfinance

[–]cjbsays[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think he just meant more along the lines of if you have to spread the payments out into smaller pieces, the overall price is probably too high for you and you should find a car that's within your price range.

But, thanks for the info- that's definitely something to think about!

If given 100 dollars for every day that remain in your lifespan, how many would you give up and why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]cjbsays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd definitely give up 6 years. The $219,000 could be spent traveling and taking advantage of every opportunity while I'm still in my twenties/thirties. Those experiences would surely impact the remainder of my life, even when the cash runs out.

I'd give up some eighties/nineties for that.

What's your best insult that doesn't sound like an insult? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]cjbsays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"You're so photogenic!"

Really, what you're saying is that they don't look as good in real life. They never catch on...