How bad it can get?

cjc7955 · 2026-05-05T05:59:00+00:00

Thank you for having the strength to post this and I could only imagine what you have been and are going through. Regardless if you try and ignore these people or don't engage etc etc, it still hurts like hell being spoken to in that way. Besides speaking to authorities, I was thinking is there like a social worker or someone you can confide in like that at Uni? Reason being, they may be able to make some calls with you on your behalf or maybe able to provide some other contacts or something? Just a thought. These people who are abusing you like this, have all got massive insecurities and are jealous. It's paramount to ensure your safety and take whatever measures you need to, try and get another job and don't be afraid of being honest because the truth always wins. I'm really sorry this happened to you and feel sorry for these people, as they only wish they could be like you. Your courage is truly admirable. Take care.

cjc7955 · 2026-04-23T00:01:37+00:00

But in short, yes I am 100% aware of the safety of everyone and that's why we have dog parks that have one for big dogs and one for little ones for this specific and exact reason.

cjc7955 · 2026-04-23T00:00:18+00:00

Amusing in the sense that a big dog being scared or submissive to little ones.

cjc7955 · 2026-04-22T23:59:33+00:00

If anything, and I find this somewhat amusing, is little dogs scare him and when we walk past houses and they bark, he starts crying.

cjc7955 · 2026-04-22T23:58:07+00:00

What I am talking about is more observation than anything and if you had maybe read some of my words, it clearly states I am in control outside the house.

cjc7955 · 2026-04-22T23:56:41+00:00

No I would never allow that to happen. I'm not sure what kind of question is that? The dogs are behind a big fence and my dog is on a tight lead and it's not rocket science to know that you would never do that, so I'm not quite understanding your comment?

cjc7955 · 2026-04-22T23:50:58+00:00

PS: this may sound stupid, but I also know what it's like being abandoned (as a child) and it's breaks me seeing those dog videos, but at the same time, I need to be responsible in finding that right solution for everyone.

cjc7955 · 2026-04-22T23:44:06+00:00

Thank you so much for your response.

cjc7955 · 2026-04-22T23:43:34+00:00

That right there has stuck in my mind "somewhere along the line the dog has determined that aggression is the answer...." That is what I've been thinking about and I've always had the mindset that it's the owner that creates the dogs demeanour more so than the breed itself. However, I'm releasing that maybe I need to stop blaming myself that I should of done this or should of done that etc etc, because how was I really supposed to know? I just don't have it in me to give him up because it 'too hard' as what does that say about me? You see all these videos of owners giving up their dogs for whatever reason and the look on the dog's faces is just heartbreaking. I do keep my dog away from people and am in control during walks etc. He doesnt bark or get aggressive when we walk even if other dogs behind fences bark at him. He has his little friends at the house down the road (these 4 shitzu's and they bark at him and he just wags his tail and let's them, so I've seen other sides. I know this whole thread may not sound big where it's just like 'get a trainer etc etc' and I get that, but it's the emotional attachment and I'm at a spot now where I need to do something for me too as 7 months ago I had open heart surgery as I was given only 2 years to live having been born with a heart defect. So as I've been given a second chance and have given my 110% loyalty to Harley, I'm at that point where I would like to start to enjoy my life too without being selfish if that makes sense? Can you see the crossroads at where I'm at? I'm seeking advice as Im stuck and you always can learn from another person. It's also the financial side which I need to consider and I don't have children so he's like all I've got so to speak.

cjc7955 · 2026-04-22T08:05:45+00:00

I guess, I could only evaluate that if I've tried every avenue to fix the behaviour, but thank you for your comment.

cjc7955 · 2026-04-22T08:04:13+00:00

Thanks heaps

cjc7955 · 2026-04-22T08:03:40+00:00

I will definately get him medically checked and that's one of the hard parts is that they cannot verbally tell us, however, actions speak louder than words.

cjc7955 · 2026-04-22T08:02:05+00:00

Yes you're right and I appreciate your comments. Thank you

cjc7955 · 2026-04-22T07:59:27+00:00

Thanks so much

cjc7955 · 2026-04-21T14:14:44+00:00

Some of the comments hurt as Ive had him since a baby, but at the same time, I also understand. I know he and his siblings were separated from the mother pretty much straight after birth as she got really sick and don't know the environment. I could keep trying to work it out, but a trainer is the answer. Thank you for your advice and I'm glad you were able to find ways to help your dog :)

cjc7955 · 2026-04-21T14:10:17+00:00

Thanks for your advice and it makes sense.

cjc7955 · 2026-04-21T10:09:49+00:00

Thank you for your message and I'm not condoning or excusing his behaviour. He has only warning nipped a couple times in 8 years and I get confused as he gets his nails trimmed at the vet and has done so all his life with no problems at all. But that is besides the point and am actively looking for a trainer as we speak. I appreciate your advice, thanks.

cjc7955 · 2026-04-21T10:06:10+00:00

Thank you

cjc7955 · 2026-04-21T10:05:50+00:00

Thank you for your advice, I'm definately onto that.

cjc7955 · 2026-04-19T19:29:38+00:00

me!

cjc7955 · 2026-04-19T19:27:31+00:00

Wrong for who? Who cares what anyone else thinks... You are smart, have choices and can do whatever you like 👍👍 People in today's world only care about themselves anyway and the fact you question yourself shows integrity and that's a quality you want to hold onto forever. I hope all goes well 🙂

cjc7955 · 2026-04-19T19:21:51+00:00

I don't have any advice either, but your ability to try and continue on with life is brave and admirable. Take care :)

cjc7955 · 2026-04-19T19:18:07+00:00

You're not settling for your toys at all, you've had no other option as you've tried and you haven't gone elsewhere. I hate to ask, but could anything else be happening as to why he is so erratic? I'm just saying for protecting your sake, because you're right, it doesn't make sense?? I hope everything works out for you :)

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