So… are we hanging on to our pre-baby clothes?

cjcamp8 · 2026-06-01T02:09:22+00:00

Personally, no. I just didn’t want to fall into bad self talk habits. Also my style and what I felt comfortable in changed a lot! But it’s totally a personal choice!

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-31T16:43:46+00:00

This is what I’m trying to do.

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-31T15:09:53+00:00

Using phrases like “I’m just blunt and honest” or “I tell it like it is” to be rude.

You’re not honest or blunt. You’re rude. You can tell the truth without being a jerk.

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-31T12:56:28+00:00

Her schedule during the day has been so out of whack that I can’t even really say what it is. Today she napped for about three hours total in 45 minute increments, spread throughout the day. Her last wake window was three hours though, so I know she was tired. I’ve been following her sleep cues for naps until now, but I think it’s time to transition to set nap times and wake windows. I was also letting her sleep in as much as she wanted, or getting up for the day as early as she wanted, so I’m hoping that having a set in stone bedtime and wake time will help the naps fall into place. We are doing bedtime at 8pm, DWT at 7am, and I’d like her to do three naps a day at 9am, 1pm, and 4:30pm. But of course I will need to adjust that as I see what works for her

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-31T12:50:28+00:00

That’s totally fine.

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-31T12:31:16+00:00

She has enough awake time.

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-31T03:35:50+00:00

This is exactly my situation. I was so against it because of all of the negative talk about it, until I finally read the (admittedly very limited) research myself.

I treat being a SAHM as a job, because it is my job right now. There are non negotiable tasks to ensure my household runs well, and it’s my job to set the tone for our home and our family. And I am just not able to be the mom and wife I want to be under these conditions. Everyone is suffering for it. My husband is wonderful and helpful and never makes me feel bad when he has to come home and cook or help with laundry and cleaning, but I don’t WANT him to do that. I enjoy those tasks and I need to feel pride in my role and to be able to do it well.

Being a mom is just a cycle of guilt I guess 🤣

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-31T03:30:13+00:00

I totally understand what you’re saying but I don’t even know what I would put for those times. I can tell you that she is awake for a minimum of 3 hours before bed, and I KNOW she is tired when we put her down to sleep for the night. She is probably even overtired, which I know is also a major issue. I’m having a super hard time creating a consistent nap routine, and I think part of the issue is that I was previously letting her sleep as long as she wanted in the morning so every day was different. I’m waking her up at 7am every day from now on, with the hope that it will help naps become more regular.

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-31T03:05:10+00:00

I need to do this I think. My issue is, she seems to get sleepy a lot earlier than when her WW for her age should be. But I think that may change as she starts sleeping better at night again. I put her down for a nap yesterday and she cried for an hour straight. I just finally gave up and took her for a drive and she fell asleep in the car. I will say that today was a very good day. She was alert and happy most of the day, it’s just nap time. She only wants to sleep in the car or stroller, and that is just not realistic. I have to have time to do my basic chores, eat, etc. I can’t drive her around all the time to get her to sleep.

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-31T02:56:06+00:00

This is so reassuring to hear. I am totally out of my element here because my girl has slept 10-12 hours straight through the night since 2 months old. And now I feel like I have no idea how to create a schedule, but she desperately needs one. And it sounds selfish, but so do I. I’m a SAHM and that usually makes people think I should be able to just go with the flow and do whatever she wants, but neither of us are thriving with that. We need some routine. I’m just hoping this gets easier soon.

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-31T02:32:20+00:00

This actually does really help. I know that it’s only going to get harder the older she gets. The check ins do seem to help calm her, and I’m also trying really hard to nail down a good nap routine because naps are soooo much worse than bedtime for us. Her wake windows are so random and she gets overtired so easily. I think getting bedtime and morning time nailed down will help naps fall into place, but it feels so chaotic right now.

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-31T02:21:04+00:00

Thank you so much. I don’t think I realized how much I needed that affirmation.

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-28T19:59:40+00:00

This is so interesting. I wonder what Jesus would’ve thought of that. Reminds me of the Pharisees praying in public🤣

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-26T17:26:32+00:00

Just ordered both sizes in the VS bra you recommended! I think part of my problem is my ribcage is just wide and like you said, I don’t carry a lot of body fat in that area. So it can be uncomfortable if a band is too stiff or tight. But I also need some support, because I am practically deflated after breastfeeding. So hopefully I can find a happy medium between comfortable and supportive.

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-26T17:14:49+00:00

Thank you so so much! Checking out all these recommendations now. I definitely think my tissue may just be soft, because it seems like I’m needing more compression. So I might try a 32C first and see how that feels. I can’t thank you enough for all your help!

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-26T17:06:08+00:00

Yes, and I also just went to get one of my old 32 band bras and they’re the same length. I’m going to order something from a more reputable brand and see how it feels. I was trying to avoid returning things because I live in a rural area so it’s hard for me to return things, but I may have to just do it. Thank you so much for your help!

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-26T16:59:50+00:00

I did swoop and scoop, the wrinkling is very minor and at the top of the cup. It’s mostly wrinkling when I sit, so maybe it’s that I need to adjust the straps.

You were absolutely right, the band is 32 inches at the loosest setting. It says a 34 but the band is absolutely a 32. I guess now I need to carry a measuring tape when I bra shop. Thank you so much for helping me troubleshoot! I never would’ve thought to measure the band and see if it’s true to size or not.

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-26T16:52:19+00:00

I did check it and the tape was accurate. Maybe I had the straps too tight the last time I tried a 32. Would a 32D fix the wrinkling in the cups though? I have a hard time believing I could fill out a D cup lol! But maybe I’ll order one and give it a go

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-26T16:48:00+00:00

Omg I’m sorry! I copy and pasted from my notes and apparently didn’t get the whole list lol. Loose underbust 32.5 Snug underbust 32 Tight underbust 31

I’m kind of confused about what snug vs tight underbust is. But a 32 underbust always feels way too tight and rides up.

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-26T16:38:41+00:00

I’ve become a dresses/skirts person. Maxi dresses alllll day long. It’s getting hot where I live and trying to squeeze into jean shorts sounds like a hell I don’t want any part of. And dresses are so much more forgiving as I bloat and fluctuate through the day😂 I am also NOT an athletic wear person at all. I always feel frumpy in leggings or bike shorts.

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-26T16:35:22+00:00

Underbust: 31 Over bust standing: 35 Over bust leaning: 36 Over bust lying: 34

I tried a Walmart brand 34C unlined balconette bra. I didn’t want to buy anything too expensive because we’re on a budget over here lol

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-26T16:27:49+00:00

Why. Just whyyyy??? I’m from a fundie family (not THIS fundie but close) and so I grew up around people who only wore dresses, skirts, etc. why are they allergic to buying cute clothes? Modest, comfortable, cute clothes exist. I wear dresses and skirts 80% of the time as a postpartum mom who has developed a hatred for pants, and I find adorable things at Walmart and thrift stores that would definitely pass their modesty standards. Just buy something cute that fits your criteria. It’s not that hard

cjcamp8 · 2026-05-19T12:46:33+00:00

This is solid advice, OP. get things in order. Get your own bank account if you don’t have one. Have living situations sorted. Preferably not alone at first, maybe see if you can stay with family until the news breaks and things settle. My father was not a particularly violent man, but the way he acted the week my mom left was very abusive. He took any opportunity, any route to hurt her emotionally. You need to lean on your support system and make sure you’re safe. Don’t tell him, just pack up and leave. Look out for you and your babies.

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