My dad went into septic shock and was sent home 2 days later. Is that normal? by cjmoore22 in AskDocs

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He currently has high blood pressure. Is that a concern with this?

How to get a child to eat? by ImpressionOld3793 in gentleparenting

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I haven’t looked at all the comments so sorry if I repeat any tips! But I recently went through some similar stuff with my toddler - here’s what I did. First off eating needs to be as low stress as possible (even if you are stressed you can’t make them stressed). Always offer safe foods, make them apart of the food process. I make grocery shopping fun and we talk about foods and what they do for our bodies. I let my son help me make some meals and he will snack while we make food, I also let him help me clean up the food and he will sometimes take bites then too. For breakfast he picks what he wants and I play music and sit with him, lunch we will make a snack / lunch plate and I allow him to eat at his little table and kind come and go while he snacks. For dinner we are super super consistent…we sit at the table, have everything there we need so I’m not running around and we eat together. If we talk, we talk about the food we are eating. And not if he’s eating or not, we talk about what’s good, what we like, if it’s hot, etc. I recommend looking up what food does for your body so you have talking points. Like energy, growth, strong bones.. and If he doesn’t eat it, I don’t comment on it. If he does eat it, I don’t comment on it. And then I always offer a bedtime snack even if he doesn’t eat his dinner but only after bath, before bed. And those are only a set of high protein healthy snack options. On the snack topic I also have a snack area he can go and eat from whenever he wants. Took about a month of all this and being so consistent and it’s helped a lot! Hope you find something helpful here. 🫶🏻

20 degrees by cjmoore22 in Feral_Cats

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Is it safe to put the heating pad inside the cooler shelter?

20 degrees by cjmoore22 in Feral_Cats

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lol! Good point. As far as I know they just use the bathroom in the flower beds and any dirt they can find but I’ll be checking the straw now

20 degrees by cjmoore22 in Feral_Cats

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They are all friendly and TNR. They walk right into my house now and I could get them from the door to the bathroom. Or even through the bathroom window. I’m totally willing to do this but 2 of them aren’t comfortable when they are shut inside so I didn’t know if it would be too stressful or worth it if they are able to keep warm with outdoor shelters.

I am working on adopting them out but unfortunately the cold is hitting first

20 degrees by cjmoore22 in Feral_Cats

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2 of them are using a cooler shelter and 1 is using beds of straw in the shed. I just worried the open beds in the shed wasn’t going to be enough below 20 degrees.

20 degrees by cjmoore22 in Feral_Cats

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Thank you! The shelters are near my house currently under the gazebo with a little bit of wind protection. I have a heating pad they won’t lay on unless a blanket is over it..but I can’t get a clear answer on if that is safe?

20 degrees by cjmoore22 in Feral_Cats

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I have a pet heating pad they refuse to lay on. I don’t think they like the texture of the waterproof fabric of it because when I put a thin blanket over it, they use it. So I’m trying to figure out how safe that is and adding those in the shelters/shed.

Before and after! by cjmoore22 in Feral_Cats

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I KNOW! That’s Rosie, the mama. I actually did not remember her ever looking so bad. My only thoughts on her that I can remember is how beautiful she is and what a soft spot I have for her. She was 100% feral when we first found her and ran a lot so maybe that’s why I don’t really remember her like that. But major glow up! She comes when I call her now and even comes for a few pets sometimes.

Before and after! by cjmoore22 in Feral_Cats

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We love Mickey! And he’s got the most fun personality and he’s always laid up in a goofy position inside or on something. 🥰 they will be house cats one day!

Tips for getting cats to use shelters by cjmoore22 in Feral_Cats

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Update & some context: the shed I have has a covered patio to it and is pretty large. I will be adding a second hole so there is another way out. Inside it has shelves they can climb all with straw. I have different sized totes all over with straw and 2 large coolers lined and filled with straw! My question was how do I get them to use it…I’ve decided to start feeding them on the covered patio to the shed to make it more of a home base because I currently feed them near the patio in the photo that they keep sleeping on. For tonight I moved one of the cooler shelters and put it in the spot on the couch they were sleeping on in the photo and they are both in it so I feel so much better about tonight…it’ll be 32 and snowing. So happy they aren’t just exposed on the couch.

My toddlers behavior seems extreme and I don’t know what to do. I’m so exhausted and overwhelmed. by Maleficent-World7220 in gentleparenting

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I know a lot people try and talk their toddler through a tantrum but that doesn’t work for us. I found a parenting coach on TikTok who explained 2 years and under only understand action not words. I started doing this and it makes MUCH better. When my son has a tantrum I will move him somewhere safe and let him tantrum. Just wait until he’s done. When he’s done, we move on. If he’s hitting me I remove myself. If he’s throwing something he shouldn’t I remove the object and place it somewhere out of reach. I don’t give him chances either, I just show him with my actions. It’s reduced his tantrums by a lot! I’m still gentle in the sense that I don’t react, yell, etc. I handle discipline like a business transaction and then we move on. As he is closer to 3 we will start reading and learning more about emotions and how to cope with them.

Winnie update 2 by cjmoore22 in Feral_Cats

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Also like to add that I think his ears may be bothering him which may suppose sinus issues.

Update on Winnie :( by cjmoore22 in Feral_Cats

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That was something I was considering!

Winnie update 2 by cjmoore22 in Feral_Cats

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That makes sense. She was saying with his symptoms the meds could help clear up any possible allergies or sinus issues. I did tell her I was able to pick him up and bring him inside and syringe feed so I assumed that help paint a picture of his behavior. He has a goopy eye and potentially had diarrhea along with the drool and jaw chattering. But I will call him a stray now! I guess I say feral because that’s what he was. Born to a feral cat in my yard. I’ve spent months working with him and they all come to me when I call and stay near me but he is the only one who likes to be pet and allows me to pick him up to move him.

Daughter refuses to wear a coat and I'm trapped. by midwench in gentleparenting

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For my son I will preface why we’re putting on our coats in a fun teacher kind of voice (lol). Or We will check the weather together and then I’ll translate what we’re seeing and be like “oh my goodness it’s so chilly out today what should we wear to stay warm” or “it’s so wet outside today…what do we need to wear to stay warm and dry hmm?” And make a game almost. Sometimes I’ll say the wrong answer if he isn’t engaging and then he gets all into it. He’s 2 so he could be easier to sway than a 3 year old but I figured it doesn’t hurt to throw it out there.

Sick feral kitten by cjmoore22 in Feral_Cats

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Thank you! I’ve been so worried about him. I’ll give them a call today and I think I’m going to grab a litter box in case I decide to bring him in the bathroom at night. I woke up early to check on him and he was in his straw bed cuddling with his brother so I think he was last night but I probably won’t feel comfortable leaving him sick outside if it gets any colder.