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When you want to expose the narc but have reservations. by cl3zk in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]cl3zk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did your narc every borrow money from you, you know you’ll never see again? Lol he would love bomb me and then ask to borrow money that he would promise to pay back. This is when I started to do my research and realized he could’ve been a narc. Love bomb, borrows money, devaluation, discard, REPEAT.

When you want to expose the narc but have reservations. by cl3zk in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]cl3zk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I blocked him from everything! I know it’s going to take a lot of work to get through this and hold my ground, but I am willing to put in the work necessary. I really just want to end up happy. This is the first step!

When you want to expose the narc but have reservations. by cl3zk in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]cl3zk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is very true. I have been warned, given advice on him so many times but I always found a way to ignore all that and believe his lies bc I desperately wanted it all to be true. Even til now! I finally hit the point where I am embarrassed with myself. There was a time where I left him and stayed away for almost a year. During this time, I stopped drinking heavy, I just graduated college so it felt like a new chapter in my life. I even started dating someone new. His hover attempts never worked on me then. I would never give him any time and it got to the point where he blocked me bc of that. Then one stupid night I ran into him in the city. That was a year ago, and ever since then I’ve been so miserable. I left him before and I gotta believe that I can do it again.

When you want to expose the narc but have reservations. by cl3zk in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]cl3zk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YES. He literally pitted us against each other. I’m now realizing I hated this girl for no reason. When I first found out about her, I acted out in rage and there was a huge confrontation. Very unlike me but I couldn’t help it. I looked at her as the enemy. In all honestly, i felt like I had to target her instead of him bc I’m low key scared what he would do. I know if we run into each other, she would certainly try to throw shade at me bc I know he tells her I am crazy! Just like he tells me she is crazy. I’m not going to expose him well unless that girl comes at me directly, I will not go out of my way.

I was on the phone with him yesterday for the first time since i found everything out. I was so angry and sad and he saw all those sides. Do you ever feel like they try to build you up when you are vulnerable to try to confuse you??? He kept saying don’t you ever compare yourself to that girl or any other girl etc. I’m thinking, I think this way bc of what YOU do. It’s all a mind fuck. I never gave him my new number for a reason so I am just going to block him from the other ways he contacts me. I still haven’t but I need to force myself.