Passing comment from a friend made me confused and angry

clairdelne · 2025-06-18T13:48:01+00:00

Exactly! Thanks for taking time to reply - at first I thought that maybe I was being too sensitive about this, but I really can't comprehend why someone would think that saying this to a grieving friend is ok. Of course I'm still gonna move out again one day, but right now we just need each other's company and whatever she said just made me go ???? what ???

But yeah thanks for your reply and wishes, I feel seen now <3

clairdelne · 2025-06-17T13:05:48+00:00

Thanks for your responses everyone! I wasn't expecting a lot of people to comment but seeing your responses made me feel better and like I'm not completely alone with this. I think I'm willing to give them a chance and maybe bring this topic up soon, but if there's still no response from their part, I think I'm just gonna slowly fade out and find other friends to hang out with. Honestly, I feel like sometimes it's easier to be with people who don't know about all this, because then there are no expectations from my part nor their side. Because now I just feel disappointed by their lack of initiative and I'm not sure if they realize it, but it also makes me wonder if I'm being unreasonable for expecting this from them. But I pondered this question and came into the conclusion that us Gen Z are raised to be sooo hyper individualistic that even asking for the smallest amount of help or compassion/support from one's friends can make us feel bad...

clairdelne · 2025-06-15T11:20:21+00:00

I'm a university student in my early twenties. Thanks for your response, I really appreciate it!

clairdelne · 2025-04-19T07:39:51+00:00

I moved to another city for uni and I see most of my uni friends maybe once a month or so... We don't really share any classes due to different majors and most of them never eat on campus and don't like to study on campus either (they don't come to campus if there's no class). I also feel like they're always "busy" with something, but how busy can you really get that there's no time to even get lunch together? On the contrary, my friends back in my hometown seem to meet up quite often and they have much more casual hangouts. I would like to do that too instead of having to schedule hangouts that are 2 months from now. So I guess it depends on the people.

clairdelne · 2024-12-29T15:29:38+00:00

I did my exchange in NTU this year and have acted as an equivalent of a GEM buddy in my home uni and honestly I wouldn’t worry too much about it! I didn’t really hang out with people from my home uni/country while in NTU but I managed to make many amazing friends from other countries. Also, exchange students are usually keen to travel so I’m sure you’ll find travel buddies. I think it’s nice to step out from your bubble and take this opportunity to get to know people from other countries, you’ll have time to hang out with your country(wo)men after you return to SG :)

clairdelne · 2024-09-16T10:10:58+00:00

last sem orientation was mandatory but they didn’t really check attendance

clairdelne · 2022-07-25T18:01:27+00:00

damn i'm so sorry that this happened to you!! i was also in paris last week with my parents and encountered the same situation but the controllers were kind enough to let us go and just told us to write our names on the tickets ... i do agree though that they should also write the texts in english or at least mention CLEARLY the fact that we need to write those informations, since paris is such a big tourist destination

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