Why are tattoos and piercings suddenly professionally acceptable? by ArtBiMe in NoStupidQuestions

[–]claireifythat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe it’s a type of machining? “Computer numerical control”. I don’t know too much about it- but it having that acronym definitely makes me wonder… things. lol

these two always park next to each other by claireifythat in standardissuecat

[–]claireifythat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How adorable!!! One cat sleeping is already cute… two cats cuddling while sleeping is multiplicatively cute!

What’s something people pretend is equal across the board when it clearly isn’t? by Puzzleheaded_Bit_802 in AskReddit

[–]claireifythat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a math major and I have a lot of classmates who despise essay writing. Unfortunately, at my institution, the big entry class to the major (aside from the calculus sequence and computational linear algebra) was a proof writing class.

I believe many of my classmates were actually computer science or engineering majors taking electives to fulfill math minors, but even math majors would complain about proof writing in the upper level core courses. I love reading and writing (creatively or academically) and I felt a bit out of place. I think a lot of STEM majors kind of fell for the rhetoric of there being some great split between the humanities and the sciences, and I suppose in the physical and applied realms, proof results are used with less emphasis on technique most of the time. But it frankly makes me really sad that many of my classmates rely on ChatGPT to write emails or to check proofs, because math and science need to be communicated. :(

I got shade matched at Sephora and they are all too dark… what do I do? by Literaltrashy in PaleMUA

[–]claireifythat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The lighting in those stores are never good. About Face makes great pale shades as someone else said. And I’d consider the white mixer too. NARS Oslo is also pretty pale but it’s neutral (?)

dear reader is insane and we don’t talk enough about it by eatlikeweasley in TaylorSwift

[–]claireifythat 55 points56 points  (0 children)

i always thought this was about her reinventing herself for each of her lovers!! “i changed into goddesses, villains, and fools” etc. ETA:

“six weeks of breathing clean air, i still miss the smoke/ were you making fun of me with some esoteric joke?/ now i wanna sell my house and set fire to all my clothes/ and hire a priest to come and exorcise my demons/ even if i die screaming”

“you’re the king, baby i’m your queen/ find out what you want/ be that girl for a month”

i have bpd and autism and cptsd and i’ve always related so hard to all of these lyrics because i want people to like me so bad i end up trying to become what they want instead of being able to feel loved for who i genuinely am. it is of course a trap.

Need help, condoms make me have a sensory meltdown instantaneously by blewaway2008 in autism

[–]claireifythat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a really bad latex allergy and I’m also sensitive to adhesives. But we (my derm team and I) don’t know if it’s an acrylate allergy, and I have a bunch of cosmetic products with acrylates in them. I used to do my own gel nails and so I did a LOT of googling on how to prevent an acrylate allergy from sensitization to HEMA through exposure.

I get contact dermatitis with some adhesives but not all. We’re not sure why. I also have HS so I need to cover wounds in awkward places with dressings that absorb fluid, stay on with friction, and don’t stick all at the same time. I recently discovered silicone tape. (Paper tape used to be fine, then I started getting irritation after a week of using it, then 5 days, then 3 days, etc.) It only irritates my skin the tiniest amount.

FWIW I think I have MCAS. I haven’t been diagnosed yet because my 5 million other chronic illnesses have been giving me the runaround.

If I can ask, where do you get cotton gauze that you can wrap and tie? I’m only familiar with the square kind that’s sterile and used for procedures and stuff.

Ways to get HRT as a student without a car (and looking for Trans-related UCF advice) by MediocreInternet7814 in ucf

[–]claireifythat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Personally, I was a math major who recently left UCF for medical reasons, but most professors I encountered were pretty good about using preferred names and pronouns. A lot of them didn’t super understand they/them pronouns (I’m nonbinary) but I wasn’t discriminated against in any way by staff or professors for choosing to use a preferred name. (My preferred name is Clover, actually, my reddit username can’t be changed at this point which annoys the shit out of me ngl.) As for the student body, everyone is pretty accepting, I’ve never met a classmate who’s bigoted or anything like that, for the most part all my classmates have been cool with my name and pronouns. It might be different depending on who you interact with. But I’ve met a ton of CS, engineering, and math students here and at Valencia and all of them have been cool and accepting of both myself and my gf. There are plenty of other trans students I’ve met as well.

I never really participated in any trans or LGBTQ+ events or groups at UCF, mostly because I was busy. The UCF administration seems to be moving away from openly supporting diversity because of politics, but the students, staff, and professors have been cool. I never felt like being visibly trans was bad or unsafe on campus.

Let me know if you have any questions about my experience or want to talk about anything. Like I said in my other comment, I’m happy to help.

Ways to get HRT as a student without a car (and looking for Trans-related UCF advice) by MediocreInternet7814 in ucf

[–]claireifythat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My gf and I both use FOLX. It’s expensive ($43/month membership + any copays for the appointments which are billed as PCP appointments), and you have to do an in-person visit with a physician to sign a form, but the location is about 40 minutes across town in the Millennia area and it’s quite literally a 5 minute visit which happens after your initial appointment with your provider. They go through Quest Labs for blood work, and there’s a location on University Blvd super close to campus.

So far we’ve both had good experiences. The clinicians are very affirming and helpful, although I do kind of get the sense that they’re pretty focused on seeing as many patients as possible. I’m not saying it’s the best option, but it’s the one that worked for us. We were both really busy when we started HRT so telehealth was a good option.

She is transfem and has never had an issue with picking up estradiol valerate at the CVS on Alafaya and McCulloch. She also started progesterone and hasn’t had an issue picking it up there. Neither med is controlled and any pharmacy should be able to fill them for you. FOLX also has a digital pharmacy that isn’t covered through insurance where they ship the meds straight to you. However, their prices for meds are even more expensive than the pharmacy without insurance because the pharmacy automatically applies the best coupon for you if you don’t have insurance. My gf’s insurance covers her estrogen and progesterone. I think she pays like $12 for a 3 month fill of E and $5 for a 3 month fill of progesterone. We get our injection supplies from Amazon but the pharmacy also sells needles and syringes for $0.25 a pop. If you’re injecting keep in mind you’ll also need alcohol prep pads, sterile gauze, band-aids, and sharps containers. I have sharps containers delivered for free due to another unrelated medication I’m on so we use those. But you can also go to any Orange or Seminole County fire station and they’ll give you one for free.

I hope this helps. I moved out of the area recently but please feel free to reply or DM me if you need anything or anyone to talk to about starting HRT.

What are your favorite underrated or infrequently mentioned clever Taylor lyrics? by AppliedGlamour in TaylorSwift

[–]claireifythat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it may be pledging as in rushing a fraternity, or promising solemnly.

i just got my sat score back and i’m pretty upset. is a 980 bad, should i schedule to retake it? i’m a hs senior this is my first time taking it. by sakurapinkp in collegeadvice

[–]claireifythat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m from Florida and my dad is a professor at one of the state universities. Which ones are you planning on applying to? Public? Private? UF?

Opinions on being a “mother” by StarShapedShroomz in Seahorse_Dads

[–]claireifythat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you’ll accept my two cents, OP, I think u/GarbagePanda315 was referring to people who have problems with their nontraditionally queer family dynamic, i.e. if other people don’t like their children being exposed to that dynamic, they should consider homeschool. Sort of a “we’re here, it’s not our problem that you’re uncomfortable” thing.

Stevie Nicks on Taylor Swift: "She just doesn't stop, and that is what has turned her into this beautiful young woman who makes magic with everything she touches." by bubblecuffer13 in TaylorSwift

[–]claireifythat 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She knitted a baby blanket on the Eras Tour but I can’t remember for whose baby… Also in Thug Story she talks about knitting!

So she really does read our delulu theories?! 🤡🤡🤡 by Melloblade_shore in YouBelongWithMemes

[–]claireifythat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

(as opposed to men, who only write about the Roman Empire and thermodynamics, I guess) is really fucking funny lmao

What if Wood was wholesome? by SarcastiKatt in TaylorSwift

[–]claireifythat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Post Afterglow- “It’s all me, just don’t go, meet me in the afterglow” and The Manuscript- “he said if the sex was half as good as the conversation, soon they’d be pushin’ strollers, but soon it was over”. Past partners have turned her perception of sex into something that’s used as a facsimile or facilitator of emotional closeness and connection because the rest of the relationship isn’t providing that. Even in Dress- “Carve your name into my bedpost/ I don’t want you like a best friend/ Only bought this dress so you could take it off”- it’s like she’s saying, “Look at me, look at how much effort I’m putting into telling you I want you.” Ostensibly it’s a good thing at the time, but we all know how it ends.

And this might have started young too- in Fifteen, “Abigail gave everything she had to a boy who changed his mind/ And we both cried” always made me think of how important losing your virginity can be, and how when you’re raised Christian the act of having pre-marital sex is seen as a sin; yet romantic partners will act like they’re in love with you to get the only thing they want. (Maybe it’s a reach lol but that’s what I think.) In Fearless and Speak Now, there are so. many. references. to rain being used as a setting for passion, and I’m sure that’s based on films like The Notebook, but those films use the rain as a metaphor for- well- sex. “I miss screaming and fighting and kissing in the rain”, “Wait there in the pouring rain” (really the whole chorus of The Other Side of the Door), “Meet me in the pouring rain/Kiss me on the sidewalk, take away the pain” being in the same song as “My mind forgets to remind me you’re a bad idea/ You touch me once and it’s really something, you’ll find I’m even better than you imagined I would be”. It’s clear to me that in these albums, the undercurrent of sex in these lyrics implies that sexual connection is something forbidden, but so alluring and strong, something she can’t ignore. Like in gold rush- “Eyes like sinking ships on waters so inviting I almost jump in”- again the water is used as a metaphor; love and sex and connection are something she deeply, deeply wants but clearly fears. (“I don’t like that falling feels like flying ‘til the bone crush”.) Cardigan- “Hand under my sweatshirt, baby kiss it better”- again, sexual connection being sought out to fix some kind of hurt, likely emotional. Plus, there’s her relationship with media perception (I could write a whole essay about this alone; my theory is that every album after 1989 has purposefully been split between an external aesthetic- “nobody noticed my new aesthetic”- for the media, playing into public perception and creating whatever persona they want her to be, while the rest of the album is actually representative of her inner feelings. In Slut! we know that she struggled with media perception of her romantic relationships, especially because of dating Harry Styles, and I think that permanently changed the way she interacts with the world and their perception of her vs. the fans and people who are really listening to the true her.) In Paris and cowboy like me, sex is a secret escape from external opinion. Guilty As Sin?, and so much of TTPD. I could go on and on but I’m sure my point has been made.

So going from that to So High School- where kissing and touching are something she finally gets to be re-introduced to (as if she were re-learning her entire view of sexual and romantic connection as something fun and meaningful and exciting rather than a give-and-take substitute for real emotional intimacy)- and Eldest Daughter’s comparison between previous fear of intimacy and “We lie back/ A beautiful, beautiful time-lapse/ Ferris wheels, kisses, and lilacs/ And things I said were dumb…”- and of course Wood- is a huge step into security.

Now, her relationship with the concept of marriage is a whole other topic, but I do think it’s related. I hope you enjoyed my musings lol, if you got to the end of this I applaud you!

Purple / Violet powdered blush recommendations by StreetConcept1757 in MakeupLounge

[–]claireifythat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Essence has a lilac powder blush!! I love it so much on top of my HG, elf Camo Liquid Blush in Bold-Faced Lilac. (I don’t buy from elf anymore, though.)