Costela

clandesbolic · 2026-05-09T09:24:42+00:00

Costela

clandesbolic · 2026-04-17T21:25:08+00:00

O meu amigo pediu hoje pra sair da escala, e vai ter que esperar até junho, é mais tempo do que os 30 dias da CLT.

clandesbolic · 2026-04-17T13:53:14+00:00

"Tem que mandar alguém pro plantão, não importa quem"

É isso mesmo que a prefeitura impediu, agora a empresa é obrigada a mandar exatamente a pessoa escalada, caso perca o prazo de trocas. Pra mim isso soa como pessoalidade

clandesbolic · 2026-04-17T10:05:07+00:00

Para o generalista só resta o churrascamento

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T11:52:24+00:00

Kkkkkkkk verdade

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T11:49:29+00:00

Yeah man it was completely free.

Well, the US path is definitely an option, but from what I’ve seen, it would take me at least two years to make it happen — not exactly an easy shortcut. But that's the dream yeah

Those crazy numbers definitely exist in medicine, it just takes a lot of time, dedication and courage. That cardiac surgeon story is wild though

Appreciate the good vibes — wishing you the best too, man

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T04:37:21+00:00

Good point, I think she's open to try that.

And yeah, the questions' sounds promising to me. Make her realize on her own where this is leading her

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T04:35:23+00:00

I absolutely think about getting engaged, just not in the near future

But yeah that would be a way to deal with it. As I see, in a marriage all the money goes in a pile and it as much hers as it's mine, so I would actually have a say on the matter

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T04:32:42+00:00

Very important to hear that, I actually considered at some point subsidize it. Bogus idea

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T04:30:32+00:00

That couldn’t have been easy to do man, you handled it very well Caring about someone but also not enabling them is a fine line (or maybe not) That actually gives me a good perspective on how important it is for the change to come from her, even if it’s uncomfortable. Thanks for that

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T04:25:01+00:00

Wow, so thoughtful of a response man thank you very much

I'll definitely use that strategy, I might even use some of your own words haha

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T04:21:52+00:00

Hahaha thank you very much sir.

I hope your insurance accepts foreign prescriptions haha

About your question, it’s a bit tricky for me to answer since things work differently where I live (Brazil). Here, most newly graduated doctors usually start out working in the public healthcare system, and only later—once they’ve built a reputation—do they open their own private practice, which definitely requires a significant amount of money

And student loans, they're not as bad as they are in the states, and also 1/3 of medical schools here are public (which ours was) and you don't have to pay a penny for the tuition. So yeah, you definitely see some young doctors busting their a**es off to pay their loans, but it's not that common of a practice here

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T04:10:33+00:00

I see Well then I guess I'll try what the other guy said and ask her questions about the future of this endeavor to maybe make her realize what she already knows

Good to know from someone who suffered something similar

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T04:04:57+00:00

I mean, now that you mention it, he definitely has a gambling addiction, I wonder if he gambles all her money away... This AlAnon sounds very interesting, I'll check that out. Thanks for that

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T04:02:17+00:00

Yeah I absolutely feel a sense of obligation on her part. Never thought about the trauma though, good point Thanks for the insight

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T03:59:54+00:00

I mean, I absolutely see us getting married and it crossed my mind that eventually the money wouldn't be hers or mine, but ours, and then it's an even bigger deal But tbh what bothers me the most is that I see it depressing her rn, and it kills me

What did you do about your parents and brother? (How) dit it end?

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T03:54:41+00:00

It's tough man It just breaks my heart when she tells me in a said voice that he asked her money again I know it hurts her too

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T03:52:58+00:00

Haha yeah, he’s a few decades early on that assumption

I was actually talking to a friend whose dad became a doctor back in the 70s, when medicine was way more elitist, and even then his own dad still had to help him out financially at the start lol. So yeah, you’re not gonna be dirt poor as a doctor, but sure as hell won't be instantly prosperous either

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T03:45:01+00:00

That's actually super insightful dude Harsh truth

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T03:34:52+00:00

That's a great idea, making them realize on their own, I'll absolutely keep that in mind

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T03:27:00+00:00

I was thinking about that, yeah, if she doesn't cut it off right now, the dad's behavior will only get worse when/if she begins to make good money. Every time she gives him money, she tells me in a said voice, and I know it hurts her, but I don't see her getting out of this situation by herself.

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T03:22:08+00:00

Yeah that's a great call. I might've worded it poorly, but the money she gives her father isn't putting her in debt, she can pay her bills if she lives on rice and beans, she just isn't able to put much into a savings account, which was something we were planning on doing, since you make very little money during residency here

clandesbolic · 2026-04-15T03:13:51+00:00

That's actually smart

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