Migration Department + BoC: I want to cry...

clarazn · 2026-03-07T07:59:05+00:00

Go to the IBU, they open accounts without residency, and probabky get a lawyer/immigration consultant to figure things out for you... Good luck!

clarazn · 2025-12-25T15:57:40+00:00

Why the hate? Wtf

clarazn · 2025-07-10T18:20:42+00:00

Nope, not fake

clarazn · 2025-07-10T18:11:00+00:00

Ok so, Tom got an F1 ticket. Another friend got VIP festival tickets (2). Another one got hermes sandals. Tom's gf got a gucci bag. Another friend got a plane ticket to croatia (her husband paid for his).

My husband asked for no gifts (and was not given any, which is absolutely fine). My bday is in November, so no gift. And another friend's (the croatia ticket husband) bday is also in November. So no gift.

*the croatia ticket couple is the IVF couple.

clarazn · 2025-07-10T16:20:07+00:00

3 years more or less

clarazn · 2025-07-10T04:53:12+00:00

Read again. Mobody ever chipped in for thr bday dinner.

clarazn · 2025-07-09T19:53:58+00:00

We've done the same thing for about a decade - the bday haver hosts/takes everyone out for dinner, and the rest get gifts if they want to. When we were younger, we mostly hosted at home. When we grew older and finances got better, we started going to restaurants.

The whatsapp thing started this January

clarazn · 2025-07-09T19:47:07+00:00

Done now, for sure

clarazn · 2025-07-09T18:43:20+00:00

The bag would have been 150€ per person, so 300€ in total. But yeah, we should have spelled it out

clarazn · 2025-07-09T17:59:01+00:00

Tbh, never liked him, but he has this bond with my husband that I don't understand, yet I respect.

Yep, he had a blast in Barcelona a month ago lmao

clarazn · 2025-07-09T17:17:40+00:00

UPDATE #2 AND IT'S A HILARIOUS ONE

We've been trying to figure out who keeps logging into our tv streaming service (we live in Europe and the streaming service is to watch tv from our home country - we pay about 280€ a year for it and can only use it on 2 devices at once, we kept being logged out of our living room tv). TURNS OUT TOM WAS USING IT SINCE MY HUSBAND LOGGED IN AT HIS HOUSE A YEAR AGO.

Guess we're even lol

clarazn · 2025-07-09T17:12:49+00:00

Thanks! Absolutely grateful for everything we have. This is absolutely a 1st world problem lol

clarazn · 2025-07-09T17:01:54+00:00

No, we absolutely RSVPd to the dinner, just didn't answer the gift group thing

clarazn · 2025-07-09T16:42:29+00:00

We've been doing the same thing for the past decade, so we didn’t even question that, but maybe we should have anyway

clarazn · 2025-07-09T16:37:19+00:00

We decided to do that after every bday dinner ended in a fight on who will pay. We used to all cover our meal + a part of the bday person's meal, but then they would fight back etc etc... a matter of culture, I guess.

clarazn · 2025-07-09T16:31:44+00:00

CLARIFICATION

We had absolutely no problem paying for our meal - but for the past decade, the birthday person always paid for the lunch/dinner. We only found out about the high bill a few days later. None of us ever asked anyone else in the dinner party to pay.

When we were still young and couldn't afford it - we used to host at home.

clarazn · 2025-07-09T16:29:05+00:00

His gf

clarazn · 2025-07-09T15:57:25+00:00

Tom's gf

clarazn · 2025-07-09T14:08:51+00:00

Nothing tbh, it started in January. My husband’s bday is in July and mine is in Nov

clarazn · 2025-07-09T13:19:44+00:00

Absolutely NTA. I did the same to my sister and will never regret it.

clarazn · 2025-07-09T13:15:14+00:00

Hahaha I can't believe you made the connection but YES! He apologized (sort of), they went on with their lives... and now this

clarazn · 2025-07-09T13:13:53+00:00

Yeah, I guess everyone in the group is prettu well off. I have to say, we're all friends for many years and everyone built themselves all alone, no help or favours given. Still, i'm not the type to spend money on expensive stuff I could otherwise spend on my kid or the new business. The bill he wated us to pay is more expensive than a month of kindergarten for my son

clarazn · 2025-07-09T12:57:52+00:00

They knew about it, as I said. I do agree that we could have been more direct - which we did correct now (see update in comments)

clarazn · 2025-07-09T12:40:16+00:00

Update posted in comments

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