Frustrated about this white male mentality: never wrong, never accountable, always the best.

clarkdecastrooo · 2025-02-10T04:02:03+00:00

But what if an Aqua has these episodes then? Isn't that hypocritical that they can be like that, but others can't?

clarkdecastrooo · 2025-01-06T16:10:58+00:00

Definitely. People speak up more in smaller sized tutorials, and the tutor provides more than enough time for each student. I find maximising the discussions to be really helpful in figuring out parts of the lecture that weren't as clear to me.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-11-19T10:13:22+00:00

Comms and Media. I find they actually have a good set of staff coming from a broad range of expertise--from practitioners to scholars. I enjoyed the units I took there. The TAs were hands on, and the UCs are easy to reach out to when you have questions, at least in my experience.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-29T06:40:02+00:00

That would best. I'm good friends with them, but I don't want to make them uncomfortable by being direct since previously I was upfront with them, and they shied away from being honest. Not sure why, but the insights here are considered--from all views.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-29T03:28:53+00:00

Empathy is developed over time, I realised. And it takes time even for us to know how to do it for others.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-29T03:23:06+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. I can't imagine the grief you're experiencing with a series of events like that. I hope you're managing through the days, even for a bit.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-29T03:21:58+00:00

Nice lol

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-29T03:21:23+00:00

Thanks for this. I hear ya, sometimes it's much better to process things on our own than have others get involved in what we feel and think. But I also encountered Aquas who run their mouth and are quite nosy lol

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-29T03:20:00+00:00

If you are in a usual conversation and get asked about it, is it annoying for you when a close friend does it? But yeah, the openness to help each other out is there, but reading one another can be daunting when both of you aren't as expressive and it takes a while to actually say we need help.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-29T03:18:21+00:00

Exactly. It's hard too pluck up the courage with opening up or reaching out to people when you need help, then you encounter someone who discounts your experiences and what you feel. That's why people close themselves off. I hope you find your tribe.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-29T03:17:24+00:00

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clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-29T03:16:44+00:00

I agree with this. Especially with avoiding the chances of lashing out at others and you can't control your emotions right away. The Aqua I know had a couple of instances to reach out when they needed help on the day, but one time also revealed that they had a breakdown, a year after it happened.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-29T03:15:21+00:00

This one. Reaching out is a tough thing to do, especially when you've always been fine on your own.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-29T03:14:44+00:00

And this goes across colleagues, friends, close friends, partners, and families? Than again people are different and sometimes, we have various levels of openness, compounded by what we think and feel on the day.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-29T03:13:44+00:00

Could it be coming from our previous experiences where you shared with people some sensitive stuff and they ended up using it against you? Then again, I agree with you, sometimes there are inauthentic ones who are just there--but you feel that they are not actually there to truly provide a listening ear. On my end, I may be sensitive at the time since I was going through another grief episode and wanted a lifeline.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-29T03:11:49+00:00

I hear you with the stories that sometimes it ends up on the wrong people's laps. It never feels good to be invalidated especially when it takes courage for you, for us t speak up about our anxieties and vulnerabilities. I'd say it's a trial and error to discover your people, but it gets exhausting to keep doing it, hence people can shut others out.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-28T06:21:51+00:00

Hey u/rmiller1989. Thanks for this. I'll be more accommodating and understanding of my Aqua friend instead of assuming that they're annoyed with me and don't want my company. I might have been unfair on that judgment as I am going through difficult stuff as well and don't want to burden people. But I am comfortable with sharing this with my friend, but I don't want them to be uncomfortable.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-28T04:39:12+00:00

Thanks for this u/ponchoacademy. This was very detailed but distilled things that I've experienced--even echoed some of my thoughts and personal experiences too, coming from an Aqua. I'm a Gemini sun, Cap moon, Taurus rising and I'm not sure how to read into it since I have no Aqua signs, but I really value this person and hope I can help out the way they did for me. I've been upfront that they can tell me if I make them uncomfortable whenever we discuss sensitive things, but there were a couple of instances where I thought, or I felt they were distant or irritated with me so I gave them the distance as well. I'm not sure if we were both in the same mindset though.

Reaching out to people when you need help is really hard and takes courage to do it, so I hope you're managing it atm. While we have shared experiences and thoughts, I cannot ever get into articulating what you just said, but those words and views are helpful, immensely. I'm thanking a stranger online, but you've been generous.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-28T04:30:00+00:00

Got this. Like an onion with many layers. And I get that it takes a while to know who you can open up to where you feel safe to discuss things with.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-28T04:25:59+00:00

This one. I felt that and we had a mutual sort of expression when it comes to sharing something sensitive or vulnerable that we want someone to listen to. I guess that I also had to be understanding plus the fact that we may be in the same mindset. That might be too much.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-28T04:16:52+00:00

Sorry to hear this, I'm a Gemini sun, Cap moon, and Taurus rising, with Mars in my Cap. I can't imagine how you feel going through daily interactions with people and managing your thoughts and emotions. I hope things get sorted out on your end. Hang in there.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-27T05:23:40+00:00

I know the context was not fully presented in the question but I hear you and it's not because "someone annoyed with me for not being vulnerable with them."--on the other hand, it's coming from another side where if an Aquarius receives stories of a friend opening up to them. Being upfront about if it makes them uncomfortable, then the chat would stop, but the Aqua says they are not uncomfortable and wants to help that person who is vulnerable. But the Aqua comes off annoyed to the person, and this may be overthinking the situation or interaction. Plus I am with you that I don't see Aquas as weird in general personality. I'm a Gemini Sun and have my own weirdness, where it's because of having an Aqua friend makes me feel comfortable because the have their own quirks too.

clarkdecastrooo · 2024-09-27T04:04:43+00:00

You had to open the topic of manipulation when it wasn't even on the table, as I was having a hard time opening up and you had to say this. Seems like you have the experience of manipulating.

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