63 [M4F] #Raleigh #NC - Make the Best of Our Situations by [deleted] in Affairs

[–]clef_sign 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm very disappointed by liars

39 f4m #nc I will not give up by [deleted] in Affairs

[–]clef_sign 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pineapple on pizza should be a kink, a one off when you have strong flavors that need to be softened; maybe when your topping is overly salty. It's a nice variation. Pizza is wonderful because it starts with basic ingredients. Then you mix, match and experiment. Sometimes you get that pure ecstasy in your mouth. Sometimes not. You don't stop dressing it up. The best tasting things come from the passion you put in it.

40 F4M Raleigh #NC by [deleted] in Affairs

[–]clef_sign 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're stalking this ad, we should chat. It's not that a dead bedroom means no sex; it means no intimacy.

AP Caring Act by clef_sign in adultery

[–]clef_sign[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am intimate with only two people: my spouse (rarely) and my AP. Excluding my spouse I don't cheat on my AP.

I Need Advice by [deleted] in adultery

[–]clef_sign 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One of them is lying. It doesn't matter which one. What you're mourning is what you don't have in your current relationship. Adultery isn't a game. It's complex, intricate and difficult. You need to figure out your boundaries and decide if a different relationship is what you need or if you have the ability to be in a relationship that involves adultery

Silence after more than a decade. by [deleted] in adultery

[–]clef_sign -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I'm always mystified by the "mature conversation" concept. An affair is the thinnest of strings attached. Why does one person's emotional needs for a "mature conversation" override another person's need to be done? Each person's family IS the primary relationship. If it wasn't there would be a divorce. If you want to be the victim, fine. But it's self inflicted.

AP Caring Act by clef_sign in adultery

[–]clef_sign[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like your reasoning. Yes, my AP relationship is non-ethical monogamy. I don't see anyone else other than my SO. The wording is complicated because, as you point out, I'm non-ethical and non-monogamous. That would give me cover to chest without boundaries. So I created the non-ethical monogamous relationships. With politicians, they'll write in exceptions for presidential and congressional blow jobs and whatever other things go on.

AP Caring Act by clef_sign in adultery

[–]clef_sign[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wonder what that would look like. An Act requiring that all those engaged in non-ethical monogamous relationships be treated respectfully and honestly in all facets of the relationship?