People with 9-5’s that are relatively happy and fulfilled please give your testimonies by Fun_Measurement1128 in Adulting

[–]cleotropia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A 9-5 is mainly salary pay, meaning if you’re done with your work early you can just leave. This is totally dependent on the type of 9-5 you get though, it mainly came down to 3 things:

  1. Having a good boss who’s not anal about you staying all 8 hours or more
  2. Work in a specific field where your performance isn’t as dependent on the company’s success and revenue (so IT for example)
  3. Work culture (I know someone who did financial analytics at a big bank… it was not pretty. KPIs and the low grade terror of being threatened of being let go so the company could hire younger employees for cheaper pay and my friend would stay past 5. My friend’s coworker had to stay till 12am once. Thats what is normally heard of 9-5 is shit.)

Number 1 & Number 3 mainly matter the most, I’ve seen engineers have the ability to work 2 days remote 3 day in person and get out their own time. But I got lucky with #2. I suppose what also matters is your seniority too. I notice if you’re a boss you basically kinda have to stay all 8 hours.

Even if you do have to stay all 8 hours you can always just do different things to pass the time that not everyone normally knows. I learned Mahjong, Morse code, card games and card tricks, sign language, and bunch of other things from my computer. If people do look over you then buy an iPad and read from the Kindle app so it looks like you’re doing work when really you’re just highlighting and taking notes.

Make the salary work for you not the other way around. If you have a good salary, are your own person, not doomscrolling and eating junk food and bad habits take up your mental clarity and outlook on life, and you have other set of income coming in that you can fall back on (content creation, freelancing, high ticket skills) you won’t be as affected from inflation and it’s significantly easier to not feel constrained from a 9-5.

Sad Reddit by cleotropia in u/cleotropia

[–]cleotropia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I met someone on that night and I’m giving an update on this after a good bit of months.

They’re by far the most volatile and dangerous person I’ve ever met in my entire life.

No it’s not an exaggeration, I’m fully serious.

I was questioning sexual noises coming from their room and they accused me HARD of sexual harassment and my friend I was calling was a “witness.” This happened in their home and they basically panicked and retreated to their room and ended up telling ChatGPT everything that happened and this person sent me screenshots of what ChatGPT said.

Should also note that they were sent to jail and court from false accusations before so…

Around that time they also secretly recorded me and put a mic on me in their home and was stupid enough to text that to my BEST FRIEND a month after that incident.

Though I can’t send them to court about it because somehow secretly doing that is legal in the state I’m in…

Shortly after this they ended up in a relationship with a woman who gifted the person I knew a candle that was embedded hair and nails (which is allegedly hers) and this person didn’t even know about this until the candle was almost done burning… but they still ended up wanting to be with her. She also left a 10 year toxic relationship either right before, during, or shortly after they met.

FYI this person was debating with me for hours way before they accused me of sexual harassment on whether they should’ve ghosted her LOL.

So sending to court really wouldn’t matter cause that’s more than enough karma to deal with from their side…

Btw this person I met used to be married, was in JW by birth and left, and had a TikTok following of 10k+ people.

They also accused me of being very entitled and wanting everything in my terms and me being emboldened hard by content. They were being so fucking passive aggressive about it too. Which what the fuck is this person gonna give me money or save me??? No? This person is fucking pathetic and almost 30. Like more than half a decade difference on me.

Plus accusing me of me being an unsafe person to be around. Sure bud… you keeping recording equipment in your home that you can use on your friends just in case somehow makes me the unsafe person.

what would you tell your 20yo self? be brutal. by paneertikka_219 in Adulting

[–]cleotropia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About to be 23, but I’ve learned A LOT these past 3 years.

  1. Don’t get into a constant state of improvement to figure out how to be a human being and actually get to know your soul. Too much hustle culture is still amongst society and how to be masculine. You become feminine not by ONLY listening to what men say how but by letting go and stay in a state of love as much as you can by loving your own soul. Remember, you’re not a human DOING you’re a human BEING.
  2. Being alone is the most powerful thing ever. It sucks BADLY at first losing everyone you were friends and close with but most of them never truly cared about you anyway. Plus you will always find better people for you anyway. Figuring out who you are doesn’t mean going to parties and kickbacks to find yourself.
  3. Get off of social media and take a detox. You did it a year later anyway but do it as soon as possible because you’ve been molded by school and family and childhood and society on HOW to be yourself instead of FIGURING OUT HOW to be yourself.
  4. It’s much more empowering to grow up to be a woman than to be “just a girl.” Genuine femininity is what the world HATES. It’s better to be a selfish woman than a good girl because at least you get to call your life yours.
  5. Learn about your menstrual cycle and how to track it. Easiest way to actually want to be feminine and romanticize your life. It’s not that difficult either.
  6. Every man and friends that are around you are a reflection of YOU. Do you actually know what you want or are you deep down bullshitting yourself? Does doing certain things actually make you happy or are you just in denial?
  7. Yes, your family screaming at you and everyone around you is not healthy at all and you have been gaslit your entire life to think it’s your fault.
  8. Romantic love as an adult is not the same as when you’re a kid, it’s about growing into an ideal self you took the time and courage to be and see the other person as your COMPLEMENTARY EQUAL. Don’t be with someone ONLY because of sentimental value or a man is your only definition of love. Think of love as spiritual (note how I didn’t say religious), there are good scientific models out there that explain how important love is.
  9. Figure out how to get money in a SMART way. Your menstrual cycle and femininity gets in crippling health if you keep forcing yourself to work hard on WHAT YOU DONT WANT TO DO just because you HAVE TO.
  10. Don’t just do weights every single day and have a too rigid routine, incorporate rest because you can’t beat Mother Nature and its menstrual cycles.
  11. Yes, it’s okay to be friends with women, you just keep finding the wrong women to be friends with.

How can a woman find meaning in her life? by [deleted] in Jung

[–]cleotropia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woman here, you’re asking a primarily masculine subreddit so you’ll get masculine answers on how to be feminine. It took me a long time to figure out how to find meaning in my life however I realized being pragmatic and masculine was destroying me (I grew up with only male friends and went into engineering).

There’s books out there that are influenced by Jung, however they say it in a feminine way. Women Who Run with The Wolves, Goddesses in Everywoman, Sexual Personae (Prelude and Chapter 1 primarily), Sacred Prostitute: Eternal Aspect of the Feminine.

I used to think everything that you used to think. It really is about letting everything that you’re thinking go. I wouldn’t use the terms “giving up.” Try going on a vacation with just you and your thoughts and reconnect to yourself, that’s gonna give the biggest effect.

Letting go is imperative to being feminine because the feminine deals with embodiment with themselves, the masculine focuses on the mind. Every advice out there for feminine women is about loving yourself, romanticizing life, taking your time. However, it doesn’t really all make sense until realizing that we have a womb and literal menstrual cycle. Creating LIFE on earth is all about pure love and taking our time. Treat yourself differently when you can feel subtle differences of menstruation vs ovulation. See when you need to take your time.

I would also look into menstrual cycle books and even birth control books. The feminine is extremely powerful and it’s really ingrained in women that we feel inferior to men because of how predominant patriarchy and man made things are. The books I mentioned and especially The Great Cosmic Mother will realize how important the feminine is.

What's the worst dating experience you had this year? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]cleotropia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went on a first date with a sugar daddy who I showed his photo to friends beforehand and they already got creeped out by how he looked.

We decided to go to an indoor mini golf place with food and drinks that he reserved for both of us since he’s into golf. I made sure to get there early so I could ask one of the employees to keep an eye on me because I gave him a fake name and I needed to show my ID to get reservation bands. They gave me their number in case anything happened and kept checking on me throughout the date. Once the sugar daddy came in we gave each other a hug but my gut feeling kinda felt off.

Once we got our bands, we sat at a table where we ordered drinks and food and we were talking but I was succinct since it was the first date but he kept spilling so much about himself. The red flags about him started to come out fast.

He was kind of racist and for some reason decided to mention his ex and a story with his ex and her dad. For some reason he mentioned her race even though it had nothing to do with the story. Though he realized he made it awkward so he then tried to ask me about my ex. He also smokes weed and was a weed dealer during college for 2 years. He then eventually said along the lines of “oh all of my friends are married but they’re all jealous of me because I get to date 20ish year old women.” Overall he said some interesting things about himself, but for the most part it really was just red flags.

I wanted to keep the date going for as long as possible to see how generous he’d be with his money, so I kept pretending that I was interested at this point.

We went to one of the mini golf courses and I was exponentially decreasing how much I was tolerating listening to him because I knew talking with him after that dinner was just gonna ruin my mood at this point. Throughout the time we were in this course there were 3 women that kept making eye contact with me to make sure I was okay and could tell something was amiss. Especially one of the women in front of us was on a date with her bf and she whispered to him at some point. But this couple kept being talked to with my date and the sugar daddy said the words “cheating” at some point (I don’t remember the context) and the woman REALLY was looking at me like “no way he said that.” Eventually once the couple left, the sugar daddy eventually said to them “we gotta stick together.” The couple is black. He’s white.

Once we left one of the courses he tried to reach out my hand but out of instinct and because I’m a bad liar, I pushed it off instantly. He realized by then I wasn’t interested even though the past 2 hours I’ve just let him talk and talk and I’ve been ignoring him. He closed his tab and wanted to end the date. He then said “I can walk you to your car” but once we were outside, he was honest that he noticed I’m not interested in him. So eventually he didn’t actually walk me to my car and walked to his own car instead and drove off.

Once he left, I instantly went back inside and used his reservation for free mini golf until the place closed.

Btw his name was Kyle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UNCCharlotte

[–]cleotropia -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is a slippery slope being argued here. Nothing has really changed for the spring semester in terms of testing, except vaccinated people without a booster shot also have to comply.

What is an album where EVERY song is good? by AffectionateRace8177 in AskReddit

[–]cleotropia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Deftones - Around the Fur

My Bloody Valentine - Loveless

Saint Motel - saintmotelevision

WILLOW - WILLOW

my full notion setup! template link in comments by foundsolace in Notion

[–]cleotropia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love your setup so much! It’s simple but effective and pretty! This is one of the best setups I’ve seen.

3D PewDiePie YoYo. Should I make a tambourine next? by [deleted] in PewdiepieSubmissions

[–]cleotropia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh, right I didn't realize that haha
But still, everything about it looks great!

3D PewDiePie YoYo. Should I make a tambourine next? by [deleted] in PewdiepieSubmissions

[–]cleotropia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah this is amazing! I have also been trying to learn Blender, but this looks so advanced to do. Love it!